My Mother Died..  

rm_Kissmystuff 61F
2665 posts
6/21/2006 9:56 am

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My Mother Died..

Just found out today..that my mother died..ON THE 8TH OF JUNE!!! Her funeral was on the 14th. I missed it! HOW FUCKED UP IS THAT!!

I checked my phone messages this morning..after I'd been working a couple hours. Message dated today..10:38AM. My niece informs me "your mother died" She expressed her condolences and leaves a phone number to call back.

I don't understand. They had this number..why am I just now hearing? My feelings are very mixed right now. Not sure how I should feel. There is a sense of loss.

My mother didn't raise me..I didn't meet her till in my twenties. But I sit..crying my eyes out.

Not even sure..why I'm even posting this here. But I am. Maybe just a way of getting it out. I visited some blogs..thinking would help..take my mind away from the unexpected pain. But no's not working. The words on the blogs..don't seem to make any sense to me.

My daughters are at work right now. I generally turn to them..during times like this. Sometimes I help myself think..sort things out

Her funeral..I should have been there. Hope she understands..and forgives me for that.


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
6/21/2006 1:03 pm

it is perfectly understandable that you are upset and this is a terrible way to find out without anyone telling you a damn thing.

why not hold your own ceremony with your daughter's to say farewell in your own way?

[blog freelove999]

RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
6/21/2006 5:22 pm

We are so sorry. If you need a friend. we are here. There isn't much else that can be said at a time like this. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
6/21/2006 10:15 pm


I am so sorry about this, but it is not your fault.

I agree with FreeLove...have your own ceremony with your daughters.

NG61...quietly slipping back into the shadows...

champagnechaser 41F
1639 posts
6/22/2006 6:03 am

I'm sorry for your loss.


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
6/22/2006 11:16 am

Thank you. Just your comment and sensitivity helps.

Thank you. That's a wonderful idea. I've spoken with both of my daughters and suggested this to them. We will be getting together this coming Saturday.

Thanks for stopping and commenting. Just the fact that you did comfort.

Yes..I agree. Free's suggestion is a good one. Thank you for caring.

Thank you Joe. I find comfort in your words and your offer.

Thank you for caring. I have spoken with my daughters..and suggested we follow Free's advice. We will be getting together on in person..the other via telephone.

Thank you. I appreciate your words.

Thank you for your words. is an unexpectedly deep pain and sense of loss.

Please accept my sincere sympathy in your time of grief. I appreciate you kind offer. Thanks again.


PurplePeach72 44F  
9199 posts
6/22/2006 1:58 pm

So sorry for your loss and the terrible ways you were treated. We'll keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.
LeeAnn & steve


MaggiesWishes 59F

6/22/2006 2:05 pm

You only have one birth mother in this life. AS I'm in agreement with the others, hold a special moment for her with your loved ones.
YOU are not responsible for the way things turned out.
Thankfully, someone did think of you enough to tell you, even tho it was after the fact.

We are here for you.
You are not alone.

warm huggies 2ya sister soul

Sulabula 45F
12658 posts
6/22/2006 2:26 pm

I am so sorry for your loss...and I am sure she would have understood ...and Free's idea is a great one xx

Sula xxx

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PineyFolks 58M/59F

6/23/2006 12:01 pm

So sorry to hear about your mom. Allow yourself to grieve and you will feel better.


rm_1SweetBitch 55F
8575 posts
6/24/2006 8:39 am

Wow, that is so sad...I am sure your Mom may she rest in peace understands.

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1 SweetBitch

rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
6/25/2006 6:57 pm

Thank you for your kind words..LeeAnn and Steve. My family members tell me they did try to reach me. I believe them. I'm not going to hold on to any resentments.

I]m always pleased when you stop by. Thank you for your words of comfort.

Thank you. Your words and kindness is appreciated.

Good to see you again. I'm feeling better. Thank you Neorn.

Thank you. And my condolences for your loss. Hugs to you also.

Your kindness and healing warmth is always appreciated.

Thank you. I think you're right. She does understand.

Thank you for caring. I wish only the best for my family members. Life is too short for resentments.

Thank you for your sensitivity. I intend to hopefully help to make this a time of healing for me and my family.


redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
6/28/2006 5:10 pm

I am sorry to hear of the death of your mother and feel sad you couldn't have participated in her funeral. I hope the comments and suggestions above help you find peace with it.

Sending a warm hug.

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