I've Just Got To Say This..  

rm_Kissmystuff 61F
2665 posts
5/24/2006 12:50 am

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I've Just Got To Say This..

Ok..I'm not going to embarrass anyone by naming names. But..those emails I get from you guys younger than my kids..well.

While..I do enjoy the company of men..including those younger than myself..I have some advice you might want to take to heart.

Sweeties..you need to appeal to a woman's mind first and foremost..at least this woman. Let me know that you actually read my profile. Tell me something about yourself. And no..I don't want to know that you have 8 inches..or how you can sexually please me. Certainly not with a first email.

I also suggest that you put more work into it. Rather than just "I like your profile. If interested email me at ____ or call me at 555_____etc.

You might want to seek the advice of a man who's been around longer than you..someone who knows how to talk to a woman. One of those luscious..sweet talking..well..ok..I'm getting carried away here. But you know what I mean.

And last..but not least..when you're a 21 year old man..and you're looking to hook up with a woman twice your age..don't start your letter off with "Hey Ma". Calling me MA is something that will kill it right there. That's what my kids call me.

Something I think the women on the site would appreciate. Maybe one of you gentlemen..who knows the right way to talk to a woman..can give some sage advice to the youngbloods..on how to write a real letter..to a real woman.

Artwork: Love Letters by Frank Morrison


Kiss


MysteryDreamer 57F

5/24/2006 3:19 am

Its not just the younger guys sending those types of emails!!!!!!!

Hugs


RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
5/24/2006 4:18 am

We have Kiss, many times. They don't listen. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."


dasher121 36M

5/24/2006 5:54 am

yep, I totally agree with you there. Did a post on my blog about a week ago trying to teach men how to "properly email a woman", I dont think they got it though.

Personally, I came on this site to meet women older than myself. This site was all about fantasies for some, and well thats what I wanted. And you are very correct with what you say. Really, ANY man of any age needs to follow those guidelines. I just dont get it, who taught these people how to talk to a woman. Or maybe they think that because its a sex site that they can say whatever they like. And if they think that way, well they are in for quite a treat with life. Just because you think something is, doesnt mean it is........if that makes any sence lol.

Great post!

TheDude.


puntachueca 105M

5/24/2006 7:01 am

Let's see...the first thing is seeing the other person. Reading their profile. Acknowledging you "see" them. Second is respect. Don't ever say or write or do anything to someone else you wouldn't want done to you. And thid is don't assume that just because someone is on AdultFriendFinder all they want to to is jump into bed with anyone who asks. Since there's 1.8 million guys here versus 200,000 women planet-wide, the ladies have quite a range of choices. So how do you stand out amongst 1.8 million horney idiots?


Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
5/24/2006 7:35 am

Kiss,

I'd offer advice...trouble is I still don't know what to say to women...I still haven't found the rule book yet!!!!!

NG61...fading back into the shadows...


MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
5/24/2006 12:31 pm

I love the letters I get that say,"I've always wanted to try an older woman." Delete, delete, delete! Do they read the profile, or just look at age, pic and location? While I have nothing against men half my age, I don't want to hear, I want you because you're old. Tell me what spoke to you in my profile. Tell me you find me attractive. But don't tell me it's only because I'm old and you have a fetish. The much younger men who have a chance with me are the ones who never mention age, but get me into conversations on common interests.


interested13563 53M
2557 posts
5/24/2006 2:16 pm

I think your advice applies to all. But thanks for being
considerate towards older men.


RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
5/24/2006 3:06 pm

Some of the numbnuts are just juvenile, and think it's cool or funny to be snmart assed to women. Some are caught up in the "bad boy" syndrome, and think women are turned on by being treated badly. You can thank the current music and video scene for that one. If you hear women referred to constanly as "bitches" and "ho's", you will tend to do it too. Some have no manners whatsoever. Poor upbringing there. All of these idiots used to be my favorite people. They made it so easy for me to get closer to females. Ahh, those were the days. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."


digdug41 49M

5/24/2006 5:21 pm

hey MA well kiss my dear I have nothing but respect for the women on hear and I enjoy hearing the takes on how guys really get down. Me I dont e-mail too many females unless they are bloggers well I'll have to e-mail you and you can tell me how I fare ok beautful sexy woman you

roaming the cyber streets of blogland


redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
5/26/2006 9:08 am

Mmmmmm....red wonders if his age is not enough....wonders if he should take "Sweet Talking" lessons.

Appreciate your work to improve conditions around this place.


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 11:32 am

    Quoting MysteryDreamer:
    Its not just the younger guys sending those types of emails!!!!!!!

    Hugs
I know..rather sad isn't it. But the younger ones aren't as set in their ways. The older ones..well..if they haven't learned by now..

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 11:35 am

    Quoting RevJoseyWales:
    We have Kiss, many times. They don't listen. Joe
Well Joe..you ever heard that saying.."a hard head makes for a soft butt"? Basically..if someone's not willing to listen and learn..they'll get knocked on their butt.

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 11:39 am

    Quoting dasher121:
    yep, I totally agree with you there. Did a post on my blog about a week ago trying to teach men how to "properly email a woman", I dont think they got it though.

    Personally, I came on this site to meet women older than myself. This site was all about fantasies for some, and well thats what I wanted. And you are very correct with what you say. Really, ANY man of any age needs to follow those guidelines. I just dont get it, who taught these people how to talk to a woman. Or maybe they think that because its a sex site that they can say whatever they like. And if they think that way, well they are in for quite a treat with life. Just because you think something is, doesnt mean it is........if that makes any sence lol.

    Great post!

    TheDude.
Dude..if someone is not willing to listen..that's their problem isn't it. And then these guys wonder why they don't get any action.

And ya..makes a lot of sense to me. Just because you think it or say it..doesn't make it so. Exactly!

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 11:44 am

    Quoting puntachueca:
    Let's see...the first thing is seeing the other person. Reading their profile. Acknowledging you "see" them. Second is respect. Don't ever say or write or do anything to someone else you wouldn't want done to you. And thid is don't assume that just because someone is on AdultFriendFinder all they want to to is jump into bed with anyone who asks. Since there's 1.8 million guys here versus 200,000 women planet-wide, the ladies have quite a range of choices. So how do you stand out amongst 1.8 million horney idiots?
Well Punt..I guess some folks haven't quite come to the realization yet that..etiquette is still a requirement in dealing with people in any setting. This site is a reflection of the real world. I guess..if you're a tasteless jerk in the real world..that's what you'll be here.

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 11:49 am

    Quoting Nightguy_1961:
    Kiss,

    I'd offer advice...trouble is I still don't know what to say to women...I still haven't found the rule book yet!!!!!

    NG61...fading back into the shadows...
NG...
Me thinks you're a bit too modest. From what I can see..you know exactly what to say. And I'm sure most of the women who read your blog..would say that you make them feel feminine and appreciated.

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 11:56 am

    Quoting rm_Dysgyzed:
    First, I really like that picture, Kiss! In and of itself it's deeply interesting, but then to go with the post! *Perfect*

    And honey, we KNOW that you would ruin a young man for life! He'd never be able to meet and match you. Then again, even older men have quite a challenge with us, don't they? LOL!

    Challenging women we are...with the deepest of treasures!

    SWIFTLY, He's on his way Swiftly!
Dys...
Well..seems younger men are more willing to listen and learn. Some of the older ones..seem to think they know it all. But then I've also met some very charming older men who would make a woman melt with their ways. To my way of thinking..a real man doesn't run from the challenge of a challenging woman..it adds spice and depth to any relationship. I prefer a man that can meet and match me. That's the kind of man I'd be willing to submit to.

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 12:08 pm

    Quoting rm_Trillogy:
    The problem is the name and nature of the site. So many men of all ages are more literal than women. The advertisement of "Worlds largest sex site" and "get laid tonight" means sex to them. And, to them, that is literal. To them, you are here to have sex and if they look right, they figure you will have sex with them.

    I know this sounds funny, but it is truly the literal workings of the male mind. To them it is the physical, get down and grunt, kind of sex. It has nothing to do with the mind. It is just the get together, do it, then leave with a "thank you, that was great" thing.

    For women, sex is not the literal physical act. It is the whole ambience and mood of love making. It is the flowers, dinners, playful laughter, trust and emotional investment. The physical act of sex is the seal of the bond developed between the two people.

    You want us to teach the younger men how to write to women? Are you crazy? With the ratio of men to women on this site, there is no way I am going to give my "competition" help. Remember the competitive side of men? Yep, it's very much there.

    So, if you want young men to learn, you women are going to have to teach them. The rest of us don't want the competition.
Well Trillogy..

I guess you're right about how some men view the name of the site and take it literally. Too bad for them.

I specifically singled out young men..because my post was prompted by another email from yet another younger man..saying pretty much what I indicated in the post. These kinds of letters come from older men also. I don't know..maybe some of them think this place is nothing more than an on line brothel. Too bad. If they took the time to really read profiles..and some of these blogs..they'd come to see that there are many intelligent..worthwhile women..on this site. And that sexuality and sensuality is certainly a part of what it's about..but not the end all and be all. Like I said earlier..if they're jerks in real life..they're most likely jerks here as well.

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 12:12 pm

    Quoting MissAnnThrope:
    I love the letters I get that say,"I've always wanted to try an older woman." Delete, delete, delete! Do they read the profile, or just look at age, pic and location? While I have nothing against men half my age, I don't want to hear, I want you because you're old. Tell me what spoke to you in my profile. Tell me you find me attractive. But don't tell me it's only because I'm old and you have a fetish. The much younger men who have a chance with me are the ones who never mention age, but get me into conversations on common interests.
MissAnn..you said it. They need to show that they have a mind..and that it's on more than just sex. A woman needs more depth than that.

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 12:14 pm

    Quoting DustyWidget:
    You have to be joking Kiss. All I have is eloquence, I'm never going to teach a 21-year-old that.

    Lovely post. A bit late today but the joys of Outsourcing Magazine!
Dusty..If any of these guys bother to read your posts they can pick up some pointers.

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 12:17 pm

    Quoting interested13563:
    I think your advice applies to all. But thanks for being
    considerate towards older men.
Interested...
Yes..the advise does apply to all. I chose to single out younger men..because that's the particular email that prompted the post.
I'm always considerate of more mature men..they often know best how to treat a woman

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 12:23 pm

    Quoting RevJoseyWales:
    Some of the numbnuts are just juvenile, and think it's cool or funny to be snmart assed to women. Some are caught up in the "bad boy" syndrome, and think women are turned on by being treated badly. You can thank the current music and video scene for that one. If you hear women referred to constanly as "bitches" and "ho's", you will tend to do it too. Some have no manners whatsoever. Poor upbringing there. All of these idiots used to be my favorite people. They made it so easy for me to get closer to females. Ahh, those were the days. Joe
Ya know Joe..I'm concerned about the videos of today and how they portray women. I have to wonder just what the agenda is there..and why. Some want to attribute it what life out there is really all about. But..just what came first here..the chicken or the egg? I think the music and the images pushed..have implanted and reinforced those images..in the minds of our young people. Yes..training does begin at home.

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 12:27 pm

    Quoting digdug41:
    hey MA well kiss my dear I have nothing but respect for the women on hear and I enjoy hearing the takes on how guys really get down. Me I dont e-mail too many females unless they are bloggers well I'll have to e-mail you and you can tell me how I fare ok beautful sexy woman you
Ok..smarty..

You're off to a good start. Now..tell me something I don't know.

Kiss


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 12:32 pm

    Quoting redswallow777:
    Mmmmmm....red wonders if his age is not enough....wonders if he should take "Sweet Talking" lessons.

    Appreciate your work to improve conditions around this place.
Red...

Your conversations with me have always been stimulating. In terms of the sweet talking..I'm sure when you're so moved..it comes quite naturally to you..with the right person.

Kiss


RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
5/26/2006 3:22 pm

Probably right, the problem really does begin at home. Parents need to teach their children (boys AND girls) respect for themselves and each other. I still have problems with some of the music and videos that demean women. I guess I'm too Old School. When I hear a woman called a bitch or a whore, my first instinct is to jack somebody up. I reckon I'm just out of style. But if I were single, I bet I'd still do OK, because I DO know how to treat a woman. The best ones still require that. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."


rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
5/26/2006 8:04 pm

    Quoting RevJoseyWales:
    Probably right, the problem really does begin at home. Parents need to teach their children (boys AND girls) respect for themselves and each other. I still have problems with some of the music and videos that demean women. I guess I'm too Old School. When I hear a woman called a bitch or a whore, my first instinct is to jack somebody up. I reckon I'm just out of style. But if I were single, I bet I'd still do OK, because I DO know how to treat a woman. The best ones still require that. Joe
I know a lot of parents complain about the music videos Joe. And these things do effect the minds of our kids. Part of the problem is when some of the kids actually see some adults acting in this manner. They see violence and bad acts happening..in the news..on television..in the movies. Kind of hyprocritical to tell them do as I say..not as I do. I've said this before..bears saying again..it's like all of this stuff is a distraction. But then..that is a whole issue in and of itself.

It might comfort you to know..that there really are still kids out there who are raised right by parents who know better.

Kiss


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