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Hit On By A Lesbian...
Hit On By A Lesbian...
I watched a show the other night..about lesbians. There were a couple of scenes where they were shown making love.
The program brought to mind incidents from the past..one in particular. I was in my twenties..still fairly new to the world..naive..in spite of the fact I was married and had two kids. Keep in mind I had been raised a Catholic..and pretty much taught that sex is something dirty. Now throw homosexuality into the mix..and I think you get a pretty good idea of what the teaching was..regarding that.
A newly made woman friend had introduced me to some of her friends..people I thought were interesting and exciting. They were from different backgrounds and professions. I was invited to her house for a dinner party..just women in attendance.
There was one woman in particular that I hit it off with. She had been to different parts of the world..had traveled extensively in Africa. That was an area of the world I was extremely interested in..and wanted to travel there. I hung enthusiastically onto her every word. My admiration was evident. Perhaps I gave the wrong impression..I don't know.
Sometime later in the evening..as I was coming out of the bathroom..she was in the hallway. Not even sure how it happened..but before I knew it..she was close to me..kissing me..on the mouth. I just kind of stood there..in shock. I would equate it to the proverbial deer caught in the glare of the headlights of a car. It must have been very obvious to her..my naivete. Quite frankly..I was not only horrified..but felt pretty stupid also..thinking I should have known.
I couldn't look any one in the eye after that. I was embarrassed..and felt dirty. What was it about me..that would make someone do that. I made my excuses and left.
I look back at that time in my life..when I was still ignorant about a lot of things..having to do with sex..and the different kinds of people in the world. I've done a lot of growing and learning since that time. There have been a couple of occasions when there have been advances made by other women. But..just as with a man..I let them know where I'm at..what my preference is.
I no longer think that being gay or lesbian is a sickness. In fact I'm ashamed I ever thought that. It hurts me to see how the current atmosphere in this country is effecting people. It condemns a whole segment of the population. Homosexuality..has been in the world..since the beginning of time. Other cultures recognized that..and didn't demonize those born with that psyche.
Two of my dearest friends..are lesbians. I met them at one of my jobs. A few years ago..after one of my surgeries..they took me into their home and cared for me..for over two weeks. They fed me..helped me up and down to the bathroom..changed my bed linen..talked to me and tried to keep my spirits up. That is true friendship.
I love them both. They are my sisters.
5/24/2006 7:07 pm
One of my best friends when I was in the service was about the same height as me, a little thinner, blue eyes, curly blonde hair...|
We worked together, partied together, fought side by side together when the odds got a little lopsided, he helped me get passed my first marriage with his words of support, I helped him get passed some family problems, he came to visit my family and was welcomed warmly, we had a blast in the casinos in Atlantic City....
btw.....did I mention that he was gay? To me, he was just another person....
NG61....disappearing into the darkness...
5/24/2006 8:38 pm
I had a room mate for several years who was gay. Never really thought anything about it...though "tongues started wagging". Griff was the kindest, nicest person I've know. Wanted to be a priest, but wasn't allowed. So he became a priest anyway and spread nothing but love and positivity through his whole life. He died a terrible death from AIDS. His family wouldn't even come to his funeral. Yet he was a thousand percent better human being than most of us.|
HAd some neighbors when my kids were in the babysitting age. The neighbors were two women with a daughter. My kids thought they were really great parents...new definition of "family".
The couple acorss the street--heavy duty religious fanatics-- were always talking down the new "family". Then one day the holier-than-thou's daughter came crying over to our house. Her father had been molesting her for years. He's in jail now, where he belongs. And the daughter...she'll spend the rest of her life getting over that.
Our culture's "values" really suck. Love is love. Family is family. Doesn't matter the gender.
5/25/2006 11:08 am
I know better these days..have overcome the teaching I was given. Yes..they are people..just like you and me.
Just like other folks..I've found that gays and lesbians are simply people..who want to live in peace and just be.
It is funny how we grow up sometimes and what we're taught in the process.
You're very welcome. I hope your birthday was everything you hoped for.
Ok smart ass.. first you have to get rid of Ms Thang there between your legs..grow some breasts..and.. You sure you want to do this?
Yes..your heart is what counts. I can't imagine you not getting action from the men around..a smart sexy sister like yourself. What's wrong with them?
5/25/2006 12:01 pm
Kindness is independent of sexual preference.|
There were times when societies were much more
open to sexuality of all types. They were often
pagan, much closer to nature. Then as the
western European culture developed we started
looking down on them and tried to portay
repression as a virtue rather than the crime
5/25/2006 12:28 pm
People fear what they do not know or understand. As with most, i grew up thinking that Gay people were sick, and frankly, the ones I ran into as a teen didn't change that. But we're talking about the early 60's. As I matured I realized that they were no different in most respects from the rest of us. some of the most fun evening I can remember were going out to a club with a lesbian friend and checking out the women together. Hopefully this disgusting dicrimination against gays will someday end, as hopefully all discrimination will disappear. We can pray and work toward that. lat time I checked, we all bleed red. Joe|
"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."
"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."
5/26/2006 9:03 am
I guess it has been years since I have been hit on by a man....fortunatly, I guess, I never had to deal with a stolen kiss. I wonder how I would have reacted? Perhaps like you back then. Hopefully I have grown in wisdom since.|