Not the answer...  

rm_KirkVW44m 54M
514 posts
8/26/2006 8:02 am

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Not the answer...


I was wandering about the blogs and ran across a blog mentioning a blogger here that took her own life for whatever reason.. Such a sad and selfish act in my eyes. People don't realize that suicide may be the easy way out but they seem to forget or overlook all the pain and ruined lives caused by their selfishness. So i have to ask the question, do those that take their own lives know what love is? I say NO. If they did they would look at the big picture in that this life is not about US but about OTHERS.

I don't buy the mood swings or chemical imbalance nature quota. No matter how bad life gets for a person there is always some one in this world that needs you in some way. Maybe its a friend or maybe its just somebody you correspond with on the internet, somebody needs you. You make a difference in the lives of another even if its in a small way. You know when days are dark and we feel alone at times we always have something to hold onto and its called *HOPE*.. When a person loses hope they loose everything.

Am i sad for this person who took her own life? Not really.. I'm sad for her family that she left behind scarred for life always wondering what they done wrong or what more they could of done to prevent this from happening... Ending her life may of very well ruined the lives of many of her family members. Guess she failed to think about this now didn't she.

My advice to those thinking suicide is the answer? I say reach for a friend for help. We are not alone in our troubles as many share the same as ours. Do you know that person you know that shares similar troubles in life may of had there day or life turned around completely by simply knowing they are NOT alone in their feelings.

If i offended anybody by speaking out on this subject i don't really give a flying fuck. I've been to the edges of hell and back. This lady unknown to me hurt alot of people regardless of what caused her to end her life. Regretfully she never knew love like many others do or she wouldn't of done what she did for any reason.

druidrocker 62F

8/26/2006 9:10 am

I am not offended and I agree w/the fact that the pain she caused is extreme to say the least - but - as one who has looked at that door straight on - it's more than not loving - it's being totally without hope and not believing in yourself or others - when you reach that point - you are not capable of reaching out - you just have to be lucky to have somebody in your life who recognizes what is happening to you and then they have to also have the ability to reach you - it's not a simple black and white issue and it is different for every one who has been there - it's worse than hell - it's a total empty void with no hope - as for knowing love - perhaps she did - it's not in your power to know that - this will always be an unresolved issue for all the people who touched her life - pray for them to have the strength to deal w/it.


moonlightphoenix 45F
6508 posts
8/26/2006 9:25 am

There are as many reasons for suicide as there are people. Depression accounts for a lot of it, and it might be easy for you to write off mood swings and chemical imbalances as a source, but then, I'll just have to assume you don't have first hand experience living through the hell of that. If you do, I can't imagine you being so flippant or quick to write it off.

We are emotional creatures. Most of the time this works against us.

No matter how much you think you know about someone else's life....you don't.

And no, I don't think suicide is any sort of answer, and I have my own personal beliefs regarding it, but I certainly understand the things that cn drive one to do it.


SacredStarDance

8/26/2006 10:16 pm

I understand what you are saying completly.. been through hell and back my self and have survived thank gwad..but there are folks out there that are weak.. and have no answers..but can only see them being worthless and may have a family that does not understand.. so there made to feel more worthless..your mind plays games and you are worthless.and you feel like a burden.
I may self would never take my life.. but have asked .. why keep on.. and it was not from a bad day... broken heart.. loosing a job.. it was from a cloud that sucked me dry..had no energy to go on and no explabation to why i was so down..
but it does get better.. suicide is nerver an answere.. and it is selfish.. but during those times..people need to reach out.. and not ba ashamed to say im loosing a battle with in myself..

great post..and a good reminder.. life is just worth living..

now go perv

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rm_KirkVW44m 54M
688 posts
8/27/2006 4:28 am

    Quoting moonlightphoenix:
    There are as many reasons for suicide as there are people. Depression accounts for a lot of it, and it might be easy for you to write off mood swings and chemical imbalances as a source, but then, I'll just have to assume you don't have first hand experience living through the hell of that. If you do, I can't imagine you being so flippant or quick to write it off.

    We are emotional creatures. Most of the time this works against us.

    No matter how much you think you know about someone else's life....you don't.

    And no, I don't think suicide is any sort of answer, and I have my own personal beliefs regarding it, but I certainly understand the things that cn drive one to do it.

I've questioned lifes worth or my place in this life. I think everybody does eventually as part of the life cycle. I know what it feels like to be down and out but the sole fact remains is that suicide is not only selfish, its a concious decision. Had she thought once about the hurt she would cause to those who loved her i'm certain she wouldn't of. Did i know here and what her life was like NO. Do i know she could of easily gotten help and support? Everybody has access to free loving help.


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
8/27/2006 5:52 am

No offense, but just think, she/he had spiraled down so far there was no getting up and at the end they finally had courage. I feel sorry for them and yes their family.

Purry {=}

Purry


rm_KirkVW44m 54M
688 posts
8/28/2006 3:10 am

    Quoting rm_PurryKitty2:
    No offense, but just think, she/he had spiraled down so far there was no getting up and at the end they finally had courage. I feel sorry for them and yes their family.

    Purry {=}
Just wanted to share a thought.. Many miseries of life happen to us not because they happen but because we allow them to. Many times victims in life allow themselves to be abused. Again *we* all have the choice for change of current situation. There is always a kind heart to provide not only comfort but many times a solution to a persons troubles.

I was watching TV the other day and they had an ad for an antidepressant drug. Ding *Side effect* May cause suicidal thoughts or behavior. I mean come the fuck on. Most anti depressant medicines run this risk. I'm done on this subject.

Is depression real? Hell yes it is and in some instances its purely chemical or an allergic reaction but the majority of it in my belief is self induced. Yes we allow ourselves to become depressed for one reason or another. Guess what only we can find the answers within ourselves. Sure doctors can help us find what the source is though a process of elimination and medicines can numb the brain but ultimately we ourselves must unlock and face what has drug us down.

Well i gotta get the hell to work.. I've rambled enough and rambling anymore will not bring this person back.. Hopefully the eyes of many are open to the fact that this didn't have to happen.


Whispersoftly5 52F
15176 posts
8/28/2006 2:40 pm

I think I read the same post. It's very sad and I hope others who consider suicide find somebody to help them. And I agree it's those left behind who suffer the most.

Hugs and kisses - Whisper...


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