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rm_KirkVW44m 54M
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4/18/2006 6:52 am

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4/19/2006 12:11 pm

~Return to a thread~ More then one

I asked a question or started a topic awhile back that got no replies for some reason , but the general question is could you have more then one lover? and if you did, could you share that lover with another if that lover did love another the same as he/she loved you? I'm not talking about another sex partner but somebody of the opposite sex you love or are in love with along with your partner.

It would take two large hearts as well as open minds to accept the possibility and admit to the truth in it all. Could you put away your selfishness and allow that freedom to somebody you loved? People can lie to themselves and say that one is enough when in truth that isn't the case.

Are you honest enough to admit that to yourself is the question? Most are afraid to answer in fear of being branded as a whatever. I for one am no whore but just an honest man and believe that we all have more then one lover.


rm_KirkVW44m 54M
688 posts
4/19/2006 5:02 am

Have either of you lovely ladies met a soul mate? I would like to compare the chemistry and similarities that are similar to a mother and her child bond.

What i mean by that is you want and cant always explain the want for another and it *never* goes away ever.. It's very hard to explain in simple words. I've never kept a secret on this blog about me being married. But i do have 2-3 lovers. By situation may not always be allowed to be their lover but i am none the less a soul mate/lover to them and they are my lover as well to me..

Its kinda funny the first time it happened to me i was scared shitless. The love, want and wanting to be near with one of my soul mates while i was married. I will never deny my feelings for the sake of what others may think. If i love you, well then i love you. So I'm thinking freak occurrence but accept the truth in it.

A year or two later i met a wonderful lady and i knew the second day we spent together talking that we were both in love and to this day still are. I was like you gotta be shitting me not again sheesh.. But to be honest with myself and heart i had to admit that i loved her not only a friend but also a lover. Yes another soul mate/lover. Somebody that speaks in a language only we understand. This relationship has been sexual btw also.

But in saying all i did right now if the relationships were just sexual i would have a hard time living with myself being married and all but like my marriage that was built on love and trust so has my relationships with others.

No i don't want to be a mormon with 13 wives i just want to always be honest with who i am and the words i express here are sharing total honesty on how i feel from me to you all.

BGRS- I could understand the jealousy but it might be different if you were sure in your heart that those two you did love, loved you in the same way you loved them *unconditionally*.. Its not true love if you have to set rules and conditions now is it ? Not your normal perspective is it?

Thank you for replying

rm_KirkVW44m 54M
688 posts
4/19/2006 12:11 pm

Well i prefer not to post under my own replies but i did some research and RNC hit the nail on the head and well Polyamory really defines what i believe in my heart.

What is Polyamory?

Polyamory is a relationship style that involves an openness to be being involved with more than one person at the same time. Polyamory is about responsible non-monogamy. Polyamory is not about cheating, or dishonesty. Polyamory pre-supposes that all people involved consent to this arrangement, and are honest about what is going on.

Polyamory is NOT swinging

There is a major distinction to be made between what is called "Swinging" and Polyamory. In swinging, the intent is to engage in non-monogamous sexual behavior without the development of love, affection or personal intimacy between oneself and the secondary partners. Swingers generally seek to engage in recreational sex without emotional intimacy. With polyamory, there is no such restriction, and the intent IS to allow such emotional intimacy to exist, develop, and grow between the people involved.

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