Life and Death...  

rm_KarmoHunny 54F
256 posts
8/24/2006 8:17 pm

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Life and Death...

On Monday, August 14, 2006, one of my former coworkers was killed in a horrific traffic accident. She was 64 and just beginning her retirement.

She had the green light and was proceeding to cross an intersection on a divided highway. There was one car in front of her. A semi-truck ran the red light, nicked the back fender of the front car and then broadsided my former coworker. The speed limit on the highway is 65 mph. She didn't even stand a chance.

What I remember about her is how much she loved to give hugs, her warmth, her positive attitude and her kindness. She always had a smile on her face even in adversity. She would give me hugs all the time and show me pictures of her grandchildren. She was the ultimate kind person. Never had a mean word to say about anyone.

When I went to her funeral, her family, friends, church members, pastor, etc., had nothing but good things to say about her. The common thread that ran throughout the eulogy and testimonials was how wonderful, loving, good and kind she was. It seems that the only thing she was lacking was wings or else she would have been an angel.

When I heard all these wonderful things about her, it got me to thinking about how I would like to be remembered. I had been thinking that I was too nice of a person and needed to be a bit more tougher. After seeing the effect she had on people, I decided that I am going to continue to be nice and kind. I want people to remember me as a good and kind person. One who genuinely cared about others. I know I'll never be on the same level as my former coworker but, I can still try. I think she would have liked that.

My questions for you are:

How do people see you?

How do you want to be remembered?

Do you take time to show kindness to others?

Peace



tiyannah 47T

8/24/2006 9:25 pm

HEY SWEETIE.....WOW SHE SOUNDED LIKE AN TRUE OPTIMIST...THATS WHAT THE WORLD NEED MORE OF.MY CONDOLENCES TO YOUR CO-WORKER AND HER FAMILY...AS FOR YOU I SEE THE SAME QUALITIES THAT SHE POSSESSED AND I HAVE NEVER GOT THE CHANCE TO SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOU (MY SISTA)BUT I KNOW THAT YOU WOULD GENUINELY EMBRACE ME AS A FRIEND I KNOW THE HUGS WILL BE THERE....LOL YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE IN MY POST THAT CLOSES WITH HUGS,BIG HUGS AND YOU DON'T REALIZE BUT IT MAKES ME SMILE SOMETIMES IT IS WHAT I NEED...........PEOPLE SEE ME AS BEING REAL,I SPEAK MY MIND AND TRY AND STAY HONEST AND TRUE TO MYSELF AND OTHERS......I WANT TO BE REMEMBERED AS A PERSON WITH A KIND HEART THAT PUT A SMILE ON ONES FACE AND TRIED TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE WAY PEOPLE PERCEIVE OTHERS WITHOUT JUDGMENT........AND I AM STILL LEARNING TO TOLERATE IGNORANCE OR PEOPLE THAT IS NOT SO KIND TO ME.....I STILL TRY AND BE AS POLITE AS I CAN TO FOLKS WITH PESSIMISTIC VIEWS AND OUTLOOK ON LIFE.......MISSED YA ,TIYANNAH


rm_KarmoHunny replies on 8/26/2006 9:35 pm:
Yes, the world could use more people like her. The world is a sadder place without her.

Thanks so much for your kindness. I try very hard to be kind to people, even those that need a good cussing out. I'm not perfect and have my faults but I try very hard. I would definitely embrace you as a friend! I have nothing but warm feelings and admiration for you. You make me feel good! I appreciate it more than you can know.

Glad you are keeping it real Sista Girl! I know it isn't easy, but nobody said being good and kind would be. We have to look at ourselves in the mirror everyday. I'm sure we want the person looking back at us to be someone we're proud of.


BIG HUG!!!!

rm_shaveclean2 56M/42F
691 posts
8/25/2006 7:33 am

Okay....First let me Say How Sorry I am to hear about your Friend!
How do people see you?
Well the first thing People Notice about me is Smile>>>But EVERYBODY sees me as A Very Strong Independent Black Woman!
How do you want to be remembered?
I want to be Remembered as A Kind and Loving Person that Was Always Real and NEVER Phony!!!
Do you take time to show kindness to others?
Yes....I'm always Kind to People!!!!

g


rm_KarmoHunny replies on 8/26/2006 10:03 pm:
Hi G,

Thanks for the condolences. Sounds like you will be remembered fondly. I've found that the majority of Black women I've known have been incredibly strong! But at the same time, it doesn't detract from the warmth and kindness we have. It enhances who we are.

Hugs

rm_xxxkaixxx3 46M
3748 posts
8/25/2006 8:49 am

I lost a friend in the sea this year, too.
I know your feeling well.
Prays her mercy. (sorry,I don't know a proper word.)
Please cheer up!


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rm_KarmoHunny replies on 8/26/2006 9:41 pm:
So sorry to hear about your friend, Kai. What happened? How is his family? How are you holding up? I pray he didn't suffer.

Hugs

howaboutahuck 65M
489 posts
8/25/2006 2:36 pm

Hi, Marty

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
How do people see you?
My friends trust me with their lives
How do you want to be remembered?
As a good friend, father and grandparent. Kind to all.
Do you take time to show kindness to others?
I do my best.

XXXOOOXXXOOO


rm_KarmoHunny replies on 8/26/2006 9:44 pm:
Hi Huck,

Thanks so much! I'm sure you're a kind and caring person as well as a wonderful friend. I can feel it.

Hugs

Raveheart2005 49M

8/26/2006 11:16 am

My deepest sorry for your loss, and all I can say is you know Me by My blog, somethings arent of this world or its time or its understanding, but I hope to leave my light and mark and to find that connection whereever i go, just as you leave your light in my life everytime i hear from you...I count you a blessing and a dear freind...Rave


rm_KarmoHunny replies on 8/26/2006 9:53 pm:
Hi Rave,

Thanks so much for your concern. You are so right about things not being of this world. There are so many things we don't understand about life and death. Only the One greater than us has that understanding.

You definitely do leave your light wherever you go. It has touched me. I'm glad to be able to leave my light in your life. Knowing that makes me feel very good. Thank you so much!

Hugs

elysianpleasure 47M

8/26/2006 9:04 pm

I am very sorry about your friend...

I know how I want to be remembered. Whether I will truly be remembered that way... I don't know. Probably not... but there is time to do better... how much time none of us really know.

hugs


rm_KarmoHunny replies on 8/26/2006 9:58 pm:
Thanks Elysian! I hope you will be remembered the way you want to be. There is always time for self-improvement as long as we're alive. So when it's our time to go, we won't look back with regrets about the things we should have done.

Hugs

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
8/28/2006 11:08 am

Sorry to hear of the death of your friend, KarmoHunny. If only we all could be remembered in such a light when we were gone the world would be much nicer place. The redbird will continue to work on it.


rm_KarmoHunny replies on 9/2/2006 10:23 pm:
Thanks for visiting Red! The world would also be a much nicer place if people treated others the way they want to be treated while they were alive. There is far too much maltreatment and inhumanity in the world.

Hugs!

pipercat2000 56M

8/30/2006 2:00 pm

I too have recently lost a friend. I wrote regarding it in four posts on my blog... I'm there.

BTW: Glad to see Rave has crossed your path. He has crossed mine in here and in life... He has helped me during my mourning

-piper-


rm_KarmoHunny replies on 9/2/2006 10:26 pm:
Hi Piper,

Welcome to my blog. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I'll have to stop by your blog and have a look-see. Yeah, Rave is quite a guy! I'm glad to have "met" him.

Peace!

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