Death Revisited...  

rm_KarmoHunny 54F
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9/2/2006 11:45 pm

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9/10/2006 10:47 am

Death Revisited...

It seems like lately there has been nothing but bad things happening. On Sunday, August 27, 2006 at 12:30 a.m., my sister's boyfriend of seven years died of pancreatic cancer. He was 59-years-old.

He found out he had cancer in May. By the time it was discovered, he had a massive tumor. They gave him chemotherapy and radiation treatments. But, the tumor only got bigger. The docs said he was at Stage IV in early August. There are no more stages after that. He lived only three months after he was diagnosed. I wish I could say that he didn't suffer, but he did.

Before then, he had been walking around for two months with stomach pains. The doctors chalked it up to GERD (gastroesophageal reflux disease) and gave him medication for it. Then, he lost 50 pounds in one month. They ran tests and found out he had cancer.

My sister said he had been telling her that he was not long of this life. He had told her this years before the cancer was discovered. I guess he must have had some kind of premonition.

He was a very kind and generous person. He would throw block parties for the kids in his neighborhood and buy them all school supplies. He owned rental property and would not make a big deal out of it if the tenants didn't have the rent right at the first of the month. He helped my sister tremendously. My niece moved to another city to go to college. He made sure she had the things she needed. Not many people would have done that.

His funeral was on Saturday, September 2, 2006. I was not able to make it because they live in another state. I wish I could have been there to comfort my sister. She had been calling me crying ever since finding out he was sick and, since his death. I feel really bad about not being able to be there.

Please, I'm not looking for condolences or sympathy. That goes to my sister and his family. I just needed to write about it to help deal with the emotions.

Thank You

SingleWarrior 52M

9/2/2006 11:56 pm

Good thoughts to your sister, and to you as well.

rm_KarmoHunny replies on 9/3/2006 12:48 am:
Thanks Warrior! I appreciate it.


elysianpleasure 47M

9/4/2006 8:03 pm

I know you didn't ask for this... but hugs to both you and your sister. My prayers are with you all.

rm_KarmoHunny replies on 9/8/2006 9:28 pm:
Thanks Elysian! It has been a very hard time for his family and my sister.

tiyannah 47T

9/5/2006 2:18 pm

my condolences to your family and the family of the deceased.....i know those close to him are satisfied he isnt suffering no longer he is at peace.....tiyannah

rm_KarmoHunny replies on 9/8/2006 9:30 pm:
Hey Sista Girl,

Everyone involved is just torn up about the whole situation. I'm sure eventually they'll be able to be happy he is at peace. Thanks for your kindness, as usual.


shaper007 51M

9/10/2006 12:49 am

I know how they felt.... life still goes on and humans have an uncanny knack of bouncing back.... have done it myself!!

rm_KarmoHunny replies on 9/10/2006 1:54 am:
Yes, we do have the knack for bouncing back. It takes some of us longer than others, but we do it.

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