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How do you schedule a creative active sex life around a full time job, kids, family responsibilities? Not to mention the two or three time consuming hobbies.
So I went through my calendar for the last six months and discovered that I had one free weekend. The rest were consumed with work, family reunions, birthdays, conventions, yadda yadda yadda. I should mention that any family oriented activity generally involves a six hour drive (one way) to meet up with the rest of the family ‒ so a birthday party is actually a weekend commitment.
Now my wife and I have been together for ten years and we both brought children into the relationship. The oldest is now in college (another 6 hour drive) and the youngest will be in high school in a year. When we got married my wife and I had a good understanding about how our lives would change after the children were out of the house. We both love sex, are creative with toys and have been involved with the BDSM lifestyle (we are not fanatical, we have our own style and like the honesty of the people a lot).
Now, threw luck (good and bad) and accident we find ourselves without any children living at home. But our responsibilities leave us little time for finding a third member to join in our playtime activities let alone becoming a long term person our lives.
I think I am starting to see why men go to hookers. OK, besides the “get here what I can not get at home” excuse, I am talking about the AVAILABILITY. In today’s hectic go go go business environment where people are spending 60 to 80 hours a week at work ‒ your free time becomes valuable. And if all you want to do is get laid, you can spend $150 to $250 and 4 to 6 hours at a bar and maybe find someone who will come home with you and may or may not perform desired activities with you or you can make a phone call and spend $200 and get just what you wanted.
This of course is not how your find a long term relationship ‒ which is what my wife and I are ultimately looking for ‒ but when you are a couple looking for a third (female) ‒ the time investment is much greater. Now I would not mind a few short term relationships, and I can not see paying a professional for that. I just wish I had a better idea where and how to look for both Ms. Right, and Ms. Rightnow.