OK...I don  

rm_James20910 52M
182 posts
1/1/2006 11:56 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

OK...I don

I have a lesbian friend I've known since college and I was hanging out with her and her partner to watch the ball drop in New York City. She and I are like "Will and Grace" but she's the gay one. Both of them are my age and they've been together for going on 15 years. Well when we got back to their place at about 3am, we were all fairly blasted, exhausted, and just before I retired to their guest bedroom they dropped a bomb on me--my friend and her partner want to get pregnant and they want me to help.

Now this is where you might be thinking this is going to turn into a Penthouse letter...no I did not have sex with my friends. I was actually kind'a shocked. I just sort of stood there and I didn't have a clue what to say. They said they'd been thinking about asking me for a couple of years but that they were not sure how I would react. I told them I'd have to think about it.

They'd both make great parents, I'm sure the sex would be outstanding, and they are both attractive women. I guess I have a decision to make. And I sure am glad to be in DC while I mull this one over.

*The pic is not a picture of my friends.

Lillyrose63 53F

1/1/2006 12:41 pm

Depends how you can handle your child away from you. That would require a bit of soul searching!

FeistySyn 52F

1/1/2006 3:43 pm

Wow, as a parent, that is a really tough one for me to imagine. Ask youself a LOT of questions first... like:

If you have never had kids of your own, how do you feel about other peoples kids?

Have you / do you want kids of your own? How much thought have you given to this?

Can you accept not being "dad" in this child's life, if that is their desire? even if all is great right now, like any couple they can eventually split and one move away with the child, right?

Feelings toward children that are not biologicaly yours vs. those that are can be MUCH different. My ex-husband felt he treated both our children alike, my oldest was 12 when we had ours together (we just had one together, we were married for 7 yrs). He never was able to treat his step daughter with the love he obviously felt for his own. So even if you don't think the child being from "you" would make a difference, be careful, because it can.

I think it's a beautiful idea that they have and a terric compliment to the kind of person they think you are. I wish you the best of luck in making your decision.

Apparently the depth of depravity here is bottomless... don't you feel right at home?

suziegurl 35F

1/2/2006 2:32 am

If they are lesbians then there probably wont be any sex involved apart from you making a donation for them in a test tube so you probably wont have to worry about that but what you sould think about is the child and if you are prepared to be a proper father for it as that is the most important thing the childs welfare and if your ready and willing to take the responsability. think about it if you are and will the you should go for it bbut rmember a child is a life log comittment. suzy

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