CAUTION HEATHER ON A RANT Safe Sex - Does not mean a quicky in the bank vault.  

rm_HeaTherV 51T
38 posts
1/30/2006 7:34 am

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CAUTION HEATHER ON A RANT Safe Sex - Does not mean a quicky in the bank vault.

Unless we have known each other for a long time and are in a mostly monogamous relationship, and donate blood regularly together, and have regular checkups together, etc... any sexual activity will be SAFE. This does not mean just condoms.

NO spitting on your fingers to "Open me up a little", NO tongue in my ass (God how I love and miss it sometimes), NO spitting on your dick for lube, NO pulling off the condom to shoot on my ass, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE HIGH RISK. What makes you high risk you ask??? Lots of partners without regard to safe sex, receiving unprotected anal sex, IV drug use. I do my best to avoid all of the above, but sometimes I totally misread a guy.

So this really HOTT guy tells me he is married, loves his wife, but needs a lil something else and loves T Girls. Ok so far so good, I preffer married men, less likely to do something stupid to risk the family situation. We talk about what we want, talked all about safe sex, and planned a meet, we continued to chat and an opportunity to meet finally came up. He's staying at a local hotel and we have all night.

We met at the hotel but I was in DRAB (DRessed As a Boy) because I was coming from work (still not 24/7). It takes about 60 min to get ready from this point so I asked him if he had condoms.... NO, Ok, I'll be a lil while, go get some. I'm clean he says, so I sarcastically reply "and I know this how?". He left and I jumped in the shower to shave so I was smooth as a babies bottom most everywhere (Zapping and Laser are $$$ and time consuming and hopefully one day it will all be done and I will never have to shave again, but that is another rant)

Ok out of the shower, stockings, thong, boots, breasts taped (great clevage) bra on and padded, makeup applied, miniskirt on, cropped T shirt on, belly ring showing, Wig on, and in a ponytail.... Ok Ready for the world... So I grab the lube, hand sanitizer, and my bottle of water and exit the bathroom stage right... and get the condoms tossed FAST at me. I catch them and he says "Your nails aren't done". What the Fuck... I was thinking I should just grab my bag and leave, but I looked like a hooker and hate exposing myself like that to the public. T people are misunderstood in general society and the last thing I want to do is strengthen a negative stereotype.

So we start talking about what we want to do, DISCUSS SAFE SEX, the role playing, turn on a porn on the tele, and he approaches me and we start making out, hands under my top and then my skirt, (so much for foreplay). He was groping me, and I took hold of him. He was pretty big, larger than average. HE STICKS HIS FINGERS IN HIS MOUTH TO WET THEM so he can finger me!

Ok WTF! STOP! I AM NOT PLAYING! What part of the no body fluids and safe sex did you not understand? "Don't worry, I'm clean" he says again. (and you won't cum in my mouth?... yeah right). So awkward moment, just looking at each other, and he drops his BVD's, nice tool pops out, but then he gets up on his knees, and says "fuck me".

I am so done. This was not even an element we discussed. (I will not do a guy). So I get up, pull my jeans out of my bag and start putting them on (Should have taken my boots off first). He's like whats wrong "Bitch", Oh no he didn't! So I compose myself, get the pants off, boots off, skirt off, pants on, and grab the rest of my stuff, and put it in the bag, meanwhile he is pissed about the cost of the room, no sex for a long time, porn bill, etc. No wonder this guy can't get laid! I hit the door and he grabs may arm. I just look at him and he let go. I was happy to be out of there. I put my boots on in the stairwell, check to see I have everything... put on my jacket... and realize I am missing my tennis shoes, left them in the bathroom with a hairbrush... Oh well not worth going back for, bag zipped and I head home.

Mind you I was not worried at all (Thanks to my parents and martial arts training) but the safe sex thing is what could kill me. While I don't do Guys, I do Domme, and I'll strap one on and make them beg, but they never lick more than my boots, and never penetrate any part of me. SAFE SEX.

So please, if you want to get with me, remember I am the one taking the risk. There is a good chance you won't get AIDS from oral or vaginal intercourse, but there is a chance you will so why risk it with someone unknown? But if you have unprotected oral or penis to Ass Sex with an infected person YOUR ASS WILL CATCH IT. I have lived a long time without catching a thing, ever! And I don't plan to catch anything now. SAFE SEX IS A MUST. I am clean, tested regularly and will go with you to a doctor to prove it. So unless we hit it off and are regular partners... remember, SAFE SEX means more than just condoms!

-Stepping off my soap box-

Thank you. (and if you dont understand... don't contact me)

redmustang91 57M  
8559 posts
1/30/2006 7:55 am

I did not understand aids virus can be found in saliva, so what is the big deal about saliva? If kissing could transmit aids we would all have it by now! Anal sex is high risk and requires a condom for sure.

saddletrampsk 54F

1/30/2006 9:12 am

I dont understand the saliva thing also..but I respect your right to safe sex..

moonlightphoenix 45F
6508 posts
1/30/2006 9:47 am

Boundaries are boundaries, regardless of the WHY's. This cretin obviously didn't see you as a person and didn't deserve your time. UGH. I'm just glad you stuck to your guns, didn't do anything you regretted later (except leaving the shoes & brush), and that you didn't get hurt.

Way to go!!!

ChillBalmyAgile 50M

3/5/2006 7:07 pm

I admire your will power and respect you for it. Getting aids is a pretty scary thing. Good for you.

mick25123 61M
1 post
3/17/2006 7:21 pm

Right on!

RedDevilJennifer 36T
10 posts
8/20/2006 6:52 pm

Hun, stories like yours are the exact reason I am so particular about the men I get involved with. All the guys wonder why I'm such a frosty bitch towards them, and your story is why.

As a t-girl, we understand the male psyche better than genetic women do. We know what effect testosterone has on the brain and when the moment gets hot and heavy, logic and understanding go right out the window because the other head has taken over.

Good for you for sticking to your guns. Like you, If I say don't do something, I mean it. And if you try, there's gonna be problems.

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