rm_Greyeyesky 41M
116 posts
2/5/2006 12:24 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


I told her that life wouldn't always be easy and that hard times do come... times worse than these... and for love to endure, lovers must be willing to pick up the pieces and move on... together.
But then I made the mistake of assuming she even knew what love was. When the doctor told me I may never be able to work again, she left me... for her best friend's boyfriend. When I asked how she could do such a thing, she replied "For my happiness." I asked, "You think you can betray the man who treats you like a goddess and your best friend in one fell swoop and call it happiness?"
She just cried, and I knew then and there that she had never loved me... she was only in it for herself from the very start.

caressmewell 53F

2/5/2006 8:32 pm

I'm sorry you've been hurt.

rm_art_persists 51M
1789 posts
2/5/2006 8:43 pm

difficult revelation. In the end, what are you learning? (other than her self-involvement)

jussweetlilolme 43F

2/9/2006 9:59 am

Remember that as much as this may hurt now, it is better to have it end now, then find out ten years from now it could end the exact same way.

I have been here, and have learned how to not go here [there] again. I am sorry she hurt you so badly.

On a lighter side, maybe you learned a little more about what you personally consider "love" to be. Everyone has a different perception of "love' and "happiness". Maybe next time you can clarify what "love" means to the person you are with prior to something like this happening...(okay I am sinfully analytical, I am sorry if it sounds cold, I just look at it as a realism on how life can be)


rm_Greyeyesky 41M

2/9/2006 11:13 am

Ok... I haven't posted anything in response here yet, because I'm still working it out in my head. I do know that I am strong enough to walk away from this having learned something valuable, but I do not yet know what that lesson will be. One of the reasons this is so difficult for me is that I am always very clear on my expectations. I know what my definition of love is and I always make sure the girl I'm in love with understands. I spend a great deal of time in self-reflection... the problem is in that many others do not. I know my strengths as well as my weaknesses, and I do not hide either of them. I am honest about that kind of stuff... why can't I find a woman who is too?

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