Empty Nights - Women Shutting Out NSA Sex  

rm_GrayBear818 69M
68 posts
7/22/2006 5:39 pm

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Empty Nights - Women Shutting Out NSA Sex

Everynight that passes without passionate sex is an opportunity lost. The daylight hours I'm not so concerned about.. plenty to do there to keep one occupied. But lost goodnyts is a real sorrow.

I dance with a lot of single women during the week, even dance closely with many of them, but none seem to be the type interested in 'No Strings Attached (NSA)' sex. I think I'm a pretty good lover, personal and passionate, at least no one's complained yet. Every passing night is a gift they could have shared but missed.

Most women aren't interested in sex outside of a romantic context. At 50+, you'd think they would have noticed that that means a lot of empty nights with NoStringsAttached no sex. If you're not going to be attached, why not at least relish the passion?

The chances of finding a committed partner in the next week are pretty small. The chances of finding someone for some hot matress dancing are much higher. And since the sex is without strings, they can look for a long term relationship next week.

Any suggestions on how to make this pitch to the next woman I'm dancing with, sincerely appreciated.

later


rm_GrayBear818 69M
103 posts
7/23/2006 5:02 pm

SexEyes.. I think it can go both ways.

Deep, romantic, passionate sex, with all it's strings tied up in romantic bows is great.

Sometimes though, don't you have a friend that turns you on and on that particular night just want to get laid, passionately, and in the morning go back to leading your own lives? We've all had our one-night-stands, most of them were really great, maybe even better on the second or third encounter. It's that possibility I'm trying to open the door to.

Thanks for the comment.


SirMounts 102M

7/25/2006 10:20 pm

GrayBear818...
You already have a very good blog here.
Welcome to blogging, GrayBear.


rm_marnisway 85F
5018 posts
7/26/2006 9:04 am

...ahh dancing...

welcome to the blogs.

smiles

x

Nothing is ever the same... when it comes to pleasures.

with a hint....the erotic senses will manifest into an abounding mess of flesh

the mind needs fulfillment of the body

if it feels good ...it is good

I've done it again...*S*


rm_Jezdatip 64F
1335 posts
7/28/2006 2:25 am

For "some" 50+ ladies ,the idea of having no strings sex is a turn off..Most prefer meeting a man and becoming close before spreading her charms..On the other hand, "SEX" seems to be BIG on the 50+ male's agenda..He appears to need casual sex without attachments or emotions..In the twilight years Getting laid appears to be less important for females..Its true Sex can be hot and satisfying for a 50+female, but only if its with someone who take time to connect with her..Not trying to rain on your parade, but you stand a better chance of becoming the dancer's friend first..Familiarity is the key to sexing an older woman.. Sex on a whim or a word may happen only if the lady is tippy or horny as hell from dancing close with you .. All the words in your vocabulary will not get you into the dancers panties if she don't feel that glow ..


rm_GrayBear818 69M
103 posts
7/28/2006 2:32 pm

Jez,
What you say, is I believe, sadly true for most mature, 50+ women: They would rather spend their nights and mornings and days alone, rather than at least have some evenings and good nights mixed in with their own life times.

I was hoping that the women who frequent this venue, would have self-selected and been more open to 'discrete encounters', but so far not much has shown up locally. Occasionally you meet a bawdy gal like MzHunyHole, but for the most part, women here are like women everywhere.

What I do like about this site is the ability to be candidly honest, no holds barred by sexual correctness. Which is how I wrote my profile: dancing, goodnyts, erotica in closing. Maybe it's a putoff, but it is the truth and no relationship goes very far without truth. Maybe it's too much truth for the opening statement, and all truths don't have to be said at once, so maybe there's some room for finessing my approach.

My post mystery dancer and I are working on getting to know each other. I'm definitely interested in her as a person too, and have been all along. Building the friend factor works for me.

What I'm still looking for is that 'flair' in getting to know a woman that let's them know this is a passionate male, ready to be sincere about the feelings he knows he has, and not just a friendly lukewarm conversation. I guess I'll just have to work on that.

Thanks the comment.


rm_Jezdatip 64F
1335 posts
7/30/2006 1:37 am

There just doesn't seem to be enough Bold and Daring females for guys who are looking for no strings sex. Good luck in grooming your mystery dancer. Perhaps she will eventually see you for the passionate man you really are, and realize that you maynot be ready for a romantic relationship right now. you have sexual needs which are not being satisfied with lukewarm conversation. What if there was a NonProfit site,Dial up a partner for the night..No strings attached..No emotions..Just raw sex..Hummmm..What ya think? Basic needs being taken care of by a humanitarian network of willing participants?? yeah yeah yeah..I know..I've had one cup of coffee to many..


Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
9/14/2006 8:47 am

Hi Jezdatip;
I was curious how you came to think that a No Strings Attached relationship takes "Bold and Daring females?" Not that there are none, I am sure there are. And then there are other's that think so little of themselves that they think that sex is all they have to offer. Or have been so hurt that they dare not care again. Or are just so busy living a happy full life that they really do not want or need a man to "complete" them but have a sex drive that they want to satisfy. I acknowledge that the motivations are as varied as the women themselves.
GrayBear;
A woman cam usually sense if they are really wanted for who the are. "Sometimes though, don't you have a friend that turns you on and on that particular night just want to get laid,"If getting laid is all they want then that is just so easy to achieve that it has less value to them. In that case you have to offer more for an incentive. Rather than seeing it as a problem try seeing it as a challenge and do your thinking with your other head.


rm_GrayBear818 69M
103 posts
9/19/2006 3:09 pm

Godess, Jez..
As godess points out, there are many valid, if not good reasons, why the 50+ women are content to live without sex, and find little incentive for 'friends with benefits' or other unattached encounters. However, I think we as a society are seriously under achieving here.

I went to a 50s+ mixer last weekend. There was a lot of dancing, fun, casual chatter throughout the night. These men and women we're definitely enjoying each other. Some probably made some connections that may lead to something later, but what I sensed/saw was a lot of unattached women walking out the door for another night alone. I thought it sad, undoubtedly at least a partial projection of my own feelings.

We've learned how to drive cars, build computers, create a virtual network community, and here even one with open sexuality. Someday, maybe not in this generation or this age segment of society, we will learn how to be open sexually in real time for the common schmoe and not just limited to players/swingers circles.

First we have to dream, then we can create..


rm_Jezdatip 64F
1335 posts
10/29/2006 12:11 am

    Quoting Goldenhairgodess:
    Hi Jezdatip;
    I was curious how you came to think that a No Strings Attached relationship takes "Bold and Daring females?" Not that there are none, I am sure there are. And then there are other's that think so little of themselves that they think that sex is all they have to offer. Or have been so hurt that they dare not care again. Or are just so busy living a happy full life that they really do not want or need a man to "complete" them but have a sex drive that they want to satisfy. I acknowledge that the motivations are as varied as the women themselves.
    GrayBear;
    A woman cam usually sense if they are really wanted for who the are. "Sometimes though, don't you have a friend that turns you on and on that particular night just want to get laid,"If getting laid is all they want then that is just so easy to achieve that it has less value to them. In that case you have to offer more for an incentive. Rather than seeing it as a problem try seeing it as a challenge and do your thinking with your other head.
Godess, thanks for including more of the reasons women engage in casual sex without romance involvement..Your response caused me to ponder if given the opportunity, I might consider engaging in no-strings sex ..Perhaps I could have sex with someone I already knew if our paths crossed and I felt his vibes..In the past I've been able to sense when a man was horny..By chance if we were in the right place at the right time, it might be awesome to jump him bones and savor the moment..(No harm in being a good samaritan)


rm_Jezdatip 64F
1335 posts
10/29/2006 12:55 am

    Quoting rm_GrayBear818:
    Godess, Jez..
    As godess points out, there are many valid, if not good reasons, why the 50+ women are content to live without sex, and find little incentive for 'friends with benefits' or other unattached encounters. However, I think we as a society are seriously under achieving here.

    I went to a 50s+ mixer last weekend. There was a lot of dancing, fun, casual chatter throughout the night. These men and women we're definitely enjoying each other. Some probably made some connections that may lead to something later, but what I sensed/saw was a lot of unattached women walking out the door for another night alone. I thought it sad, undoubtedly at least a partial projection of my own feelings.

    We've learned how to drive cars, build computers, create a virtual network community, and here even one with open sexuality. Someday, maybe not in this generation or this age segment of society, we will learn how to be open sexually in real time for the common schmoe and not just limited to players/swingers circles.

    First we have to dream, then we can create..
Graybear, you are so right, some women will need lots more time to begin dealing with their loneliness..Perhaps they still have sexual feelings, but are not yet to the point of being as sexually open as you think they could be..No offense, but the way I see it, the situation could be similiar to a free promotional ride in a vintage sports car..The fancy roadster is parked out front of the dealership, engine hummming and the chasis all shiny and waxed, but the spectators stand quitely by..Most are excited just listening to the smooth sounds coming from under the hood and touching the smooth leather seats..There are whispers about the well-kept exterior..Few if any of them are ready to get behind the wheel and take it for a spin..( Oops..did I say that}


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