What Self-Esteem Means To Me .  

rm_Eric0072005 51M
422 posts
8/26/2006 6:00 am

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What Self-Esteem Means To Me .

Edited on 26/8/6 at 2200 hrs.

1. What is self-esteem?
Answer -
Self-Esteem is the value we place on oneself. It can be poor self-esteem or high self-esteem. Our self-esteem is usually determined by events during our growing years ... when we were young.
High self-esteem is not to be confused with pride. A person with high self-esteem basically knows his self-worth and knows how to accord respect to others in the right manner.

2. How do we develope proper self-esteem?
Answer -
i. We need a perception change of oneself, of one's worth in our own eyes.
ii. A person with proper self-esteem is not easily disturbed or troubled by the comments of others regardless of how senior or powerful others are.
iii. A person who developes proper self-esteem knows where they stand. They need not brag, they need not shout to be heard, they need not feel small if un-noticed by others.
iv. They are comfortable even if alone.
They know what they are. They know their self worth.
v. They also know what they can do and what they cannot do. They know their strengths and weaknesses. And they embrace both of these areas in their lives and move on to be a better person.
vi. People who grow in proper self-esteem do not dwell on the past. They move on with lessons from the past.

3. What are the impacts of low self-esteem?
Answer -
i. We are dysfunctionl in socialising with others.
ii. We are overly sensitive.
iii. We are easily hurt or shaken by comments.
iv. We can take many things in a negative light.
v. It hinders our developement as a person.
vi. It does no one good to live with poor self-esteem. Get out of it by talking to positive caring people.

4. When does Self confidence step over to arrogance and pride - wrongful type of pride? I felt this is related to self-esteem. A twisted form that needs to be addressed.
Answer -
i. When we do not listen to others with an open mind and heart.
ii. When we do not mull over others suggestions or ideas.
iii. When we are so filled with our own thoughts and ideas only.
iv. When we only hear one voice - ours.

I hope this helps someone out there. I am also finding proper self-esteem. It is a growing part of life.

Take care.

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
8/26/2006 6:10 am

Thanks! I am sure this will help someone who is feeling low.

Kiss Kiss,

Purry {=}


zoopc42 47M

8/26/2006 6:13 am

WOW I always thoguht I had a high opinion of myself but recently I have realized that it could be greatly improved.

what you wrote about low self esteemm hit me hard. everything was right on the money

I plan to fix this and identifiny it is important

rm_Eric0072005 51M
254 posts
8/26/2006 7:20 am

Thanks Kitty and zoopc for your comments.
With jus standard membership, I can only reply this way. It's ok.
The original post have been amended to be more wholesome and encompassing.


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
8/26/2006 5:38 pm

Very good. I work a hotline at nights. Many folks could certainly use your fine words of wisdom. I hope that it certainly does find someone who is having low self-esteem these days...

May your days always get brighter...

tight_n_tasty2 50F

8/28/2006 10:41 pm

I work at my self-esteem everyday in this mean world people are always trying to put others down and self-esteem is something very important to have but not to much because then people think your a snob,sometimes you just can't win so it's best to
believe in yourself~

tight_n_tasty2 50F

8/28/2006 11:13 pm



8/29/2006 5:55 am

I think low self esteem also leads one to taking more crap from other people than they would otherwise. I know when I was feeling my lowest, I settled for a lot less from others then what I truly deserved. I do it still to a certain extent but I'm working on it. Thanks for the words of wisdom.

rm_Eric0072005 51M
254 posts
8/29/2006 10:54 pm

Hi Rose, Tight and Tasty and MyTime,
Thanks for the inputs. Appreciated.

discreet4u6565 51F

8/31/2006 4:52 pm

I would like to say that I am totally impressed with your words & wisdom on self esteem! Reading what you wrote gave me a whole new out look on how I precieve myself as well as how others precieve me, I believe ones self-esteem relects who you are & can either make you a better person or hinder the ability of becoming a better person! I think we all have room for improvement! Self esteem also has alot to do with how we interact in relationships...I will definitely take the words you have written & apply them positively in my daily life!..I feel so much better just from reading this....Thanks for a job well done!...Pam~~~~

rm_Eric0072005 51M
254 posts
9/1/2006 4:02 am

Dear Discreet,

My words and wisdom are from others I have been talking with. I hope by putting it down here in a short write-out, those who are in difficulities as a result of poor self-esteem or who do look at themselves as worthless (which is utter nonsense for any created being) will be helped.

May you find life afresh.


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