Nothing Behind the Veneer:  

rm_Ellenback 58F
903 posts
6/7/2006 11:45 am

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6/12/2006 4:22 pm

Nothing Behind the Veneer:

1 : a thin sheet of a material: as a : a layer of wood of superior value or excellent grain to be glued to an inferior wood b : any of the thin layers bonded together to form plywood
2 : a protective or ornamental facing (as of brick or stone)
3 : a superficial or deceptively attractive appearance, display, or effect : FACADE, GLOSS


I write a lot at my home office desk, which is a heavy, old, authentic wooden table, complete with a drawer, but the surface is burnt, darkened, and marred with imperfections. The other day I pulled up one corner of the top piece of what looks to be plywood, and spied underneath a solidly built table top. Someone, once upon a time, had the wherewithal to cover this tabletop with a sheet of old plywood, and one of my new projects will be to refinish this desk, hopefully restoring it to its once pristine beauty. (that means no more coffee at the pc!!! never mind the vegetables...)

Veneer is a coating, meant to 'dress up' a surface, sort of like that necessary evil,makeup, to a woman. Both sexes use veneers - booby shirts to augment their sexy 38DD's to best ogling vantage point (sorry, just had to go there!), thongs, tattoos, and piercings, for example. All of these are merely dressings, meant to attract a certain type of person, and believe me, there is SOMEONE out there who absolutely gets off on whatever it is you have...you just have to locate them!

Unfortunately, I've also met people, that, while they possess awesome exteriors, by any ratings system in place, do not necessarily have much going on inside them. These people go about their lives, zinging from one 'high score' bounce-out to another, not even thinking about why they do as they do, or how it affects others.

On the flip side, I've met people that do not consider themselves to be upwards of 7/10 physically, (and I include myself in this group) and yet they tend to be my favourite people to hang around. These people care about me, with all my flaws and prismatic colourations, and I respond in kind. They don't boomerang around on me, knocking me over in their careless haste to get laid, or whatever it is that is currently in their sights...They come get me from bus stations when I am exhausted, watch movies with me, bring me bottles of wine knowing that I don't have a 2-door car to drive out to the nearest LCBO, they maintain communications by phone and email...they act as friends, with or without any sex involved!

And they tell me stories of how others in their lives do not often see the good in them, preferring to focus on the shallow exterior qualities most readily visible instead. Their previous history of mistreatment appalls me, as do my own personal stories when I share with them, and this common ground solders our bonds even more.

Like my desk, they are always there, solid, well-made, and reliable, coated with scuffs, scratches and gouges, but this top surface can be removed without difficulty, revealing new possibilities underneath.

One of my favourite sayings is from the Wizard of Oz, "Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain...!" as I feel it speaks, in volumes, to the way a lot of people operate in their lives. As long as the window-dressing is pretty, and appropriately made up, then let nothing destroy the picture in your mind...

Are you merely a marionette in someone's life?

Do you feel capable of cutting the strings, and operating independently from your puppet-master?

Have you pulled up YOUR veneer to see what's underneath?

DRAGONSTATUS: Contemplative, looking forward to new projects and opportunities coming up!

(((softboobyhugs)))

Elle


horny4770 60M
8158 posts
6/7/2006 1:59 pm

Are you merely a marionette in someone's life? No way! To independent for that!

Do you feel capable of cutting the strings, and operating independently from your puppet-master? No strings attached making this puppet dance...he's a REAL boy!

Have you pulled up YOUR veneer to see what's underneath? No veneer either...what you see is what you get! All natural...

Super Post Elle! Muah!

H.

btw when I'm feeling cocky...I am the man behind the curtain...


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
6/8/2006 5:52 pm

Horny, and when you're not feeling cocky? Not sure exactly when that is...LOL

Darn, I was hoping that at least part of you would be wooden, and then I'd make you lie, and lie, and lie....

(((softandgentleboobyhugs)))

Elle


SleekIcilyVarix 41M

6/8/2006 6:51 pm

I'm not a puppet, but I admire Statler and Waldorf (muppets).
I think most people try not to look too closely beneath their veneers...they're afraid of the termites they might see.


rm_IronTushie 49M
45 posts
6/9/2006 7:16 am

I was thinking about what my ex wrote on her blog a few days ago (bad boy!) where she said that she was glad that she had best friends who accepted her as she is. I almost laughed out loud...where were these best buds when she was moving out of this place? They were too busy that's what!

Guess who helped her move out to Burlington? Moi! With a little help from my siblings. Spent a whole weekend moving her stuff in one of those big panel trucks.

Things had gotten tense between us in the two months before she moved out and, at one point, she was thinking of simply paying for a moving service. I told her, no, if I said that I would do it I'll do it. That's the sort of guy I am...if I say that I'll do something I'll move heaven and earth to do it.

Afterwards, though, given what happened in those intervening two months, I told her that we would not remain friends after all.


ArtDent99 45M

6/9/2006 3:57 pm

One of my favourite things is to life up a womans veneer and... no wait... never mind that one.

We are all someone's puppet, be it familial, romantic or otherwise. The moment we stop and say, "no, ____ will not like that" or the like, we are letting someone exert control. But the catch is, its self-imposed! Do we actually know what 'someone' will not like or say? Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

That is not to say that is a bad thing. We aren't always the best judge of whats best, especially for others. But because it is so subtle, sometimes we have to be careful.

Again, thanks for your patience at my rambling...


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
6/9/2006 4:57 pm

    Quoting SleekIcilyVarix:
    I'm not a puppet, but I admire Statler and Waldorf (muppets).
    I think most people try not to look too closely beneath their veneers...they're afraid of the termites they might see.
So true, Fire...but, if it's people, wouldn't that be ummm ewww what would those bugs be??? LOL

Thanks for commenting!!! Wooohooo Fire left his mark, kinda like a Wolf, or a Dragon, that scents its' area...hehehe

(((softboobyhugs)))

Elle


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
6/9/2006 5:02 pm

    Quoting rm_IronTushie:
    I was thinking about what my ex wrote on her blog a few days ago (bad boy!) where she said that she was glad that she had best friends who accepted her as she is. I almost laughed out loud...where were these best buds when she was moving out of this place? They were too busy that's what!

    Guess who helped her move out to Burlington? Moi! With a little help from my siblings. Spent a whole weekend moving her stuff in one of those big panel trucks.

    Things had gotten tense between us in the two months before she moved out and, at one point, she was thinking of simply paying for a moving service. I told her, no, if I said that I would do it I'll do it. That's the sort of guy I am...if I say that I'll do something I'll move heaven and earth to do it.

    Afterwards, though, given what happened in those intervening two months, I told her that we would not remain friends after all.
ITushy, you're still stalking your Ex's blog??? Self-imposed torture, isn't that?

Speaking of moving heaven and earth...LOL But it's that bitter taste factor in you that just shrinks my dink, well, if I had one, that is...Can I suggest lots of pineapple? Apparently it turns the juices sweeter, or so I'm told!

(((softboobyhugs)))

Elle


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
6/9/2006 5:09 pm

    Quoting ArtDent99:
    One of my favourite things is to life up a womans veneer and... no wait... never mind that one.

    We are all someone's puppet, be it familial, romantic or otherwise. The moment we stop and say, "no, ____ will not like that" or the like, we are letting someone exert control. But the catch is, its self-imposed! Do we actually know what 'someone' will not like or say? Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

    That is not to say that is a bad thing. We aren't always the best judge of whats best, especially for others. But because it is so subtle, sometimes we have to be careful.

    Again, thanks for your patience at my rambling...
Umm Art, don't you mean, 'lift', not 'life'...? Or maybe you do! LOL

And I agree with you, only a truly single person answers only to themselves, but then they have a boss, or parents, or someone.

No patience necessary, your rambling isn't bumbling or stumbling, it's succinct (yeah, look THAT one up! LMA

(((bigboobyhugsandalittletongue)))

Elle


rm_IronTushie 49M
45 posts
6/9/2006 5:22 pm

I'm sorry...but I've been finding out things that just gets worse and worse.

Hey, I'd drink gallons of pineapple juice if you want to test the theory!!! ...\8


SleekIcilyVarix 41M

6/9/2006 10:06 pm

Hmmm. I don't like where my metaphor is going. lol..yuck!
Marked territory? You make it sound like I came and peed on your blog.


QueenOfSwords 34F

6/10/2006 5:22 am

I was once.

Yes and I have.

Yes and its scary.

Most people have hidden shallows.


runzwithknives 59F

6/10/2006 2:35 pm

Are you merely a marionette in someone's life?

Have been more times than not. No more.

Do you feel capable of cutting the strings, and operating independently from your puppet-master?

Yes and I have.

Have you pulled up YOUR veneer to see what's underneath?

while I have thought in the not so distant past that there is no veneer, it is total BS (for me). Whether this is covered with too much kindness, tolerance, or even bravado it is still veneer. Mostly to cover fear. Uncertainty. Insecurities. Yes I am uncovering. A bit at a time, and very, very slowly as to not mar the structure underneath that I know to to ultimatley sound.

Very Big Hugs to you.


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