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Grown-Up Sex: WOMAN-NESS
Grown-Up Sex: WOMAN-NESS
Just finished reading thru Gail Sheehy's 'Sex and the Seasoned Woman', and she estimates that 40 percent of older women have reached a state of PASSIONATE LIFE - one in which they are devoted to work or a cause and enjoying A LOT OF SEXUAL ACTIVITY! Anyone involved passionately in what she does is 100% more attractive than someone who is just treading water.
Unfortunately, this leaves another 20 percent seeking to get there, and the rest fall into 3 not so great groups: WMD'S, Status Quos and Lowered Libidos. The fact that struck me is that these women are "not doing anything about it - not taking hormones or masturbating or trying to spice up their marriages with something new."
Gail talks about 'woman-ness': "many women who have had disappointments have turned off, they don't feel their sexuality anymore. Their skin looks like parchment, their hair gets brittle, etc. Woman-ness means that you can feel again the urge to love or mate or flirt."
And: "A new partner is the best way for women to rediscover their sex drive."
Think about your dreams - what would you be doing if there were NOTHING in the way? The more you have SEX, the more you want it! It will help awaken the passion inside you, for painting, for singing, for teaching, learning, creating, whatever it is that sparks that fire within you and keeps it burning 24/7.
Sure explains a lot about me. Walking away from a bad situation with almost nothing was the only way to stop me from drowning along with my EX, and it also explains this new-found energy and 'buzz' I feel just being alive. A good friend told me that I'm sending out sex vibes, and that's why I'm suddenly getting into situations tense with sexual energy - the UPS man hitting on me when I bought a pack of gum at the gas station, for instance. It also seems that younger men are the only ones who are unafraid of this tension, as the older ones are unsure, unclear, and tend to remain in the background.
What was that line about sliding into home plate with a glass of Guinness in one hand, a microphone in the other and belting the blues from the top of my lungs? (OK so I modified it to suit me..
I'm so there..
2/8/2006 6:50 am
I read a book in college of collected anecdotes from post-menopausal women and sex. There were women in their 70's gettin laid far more than I was! I really do think that it's not just a "use it or lose it" scenario, but it sex actually helps to fuel enerything else in life, too. Look at Tantra. Thousands of years ago people understood the power of harnassing sexual energy...so how did we come to forget it? For my part I'd like my life journey to be fueled by lusty self-discovery (and the discovery of others, as well! ) -Bri
2/8/2006 6:54 am
Go girl - personally just starting the adventure to reawaken the sexual side of me. Sucky marriage is coming to an end and I realized recently that I have had such a low drive for nearly 5 years. Hey - I m only 33. Thank goodness things are starting to change. I m going to look for the book.|
There is truth in sending out vibes but it might really be phereomones.
2/8/2006 6:55 am
To be passionate is to be alive!!|
And yes the passion shows!
It sounds like you are beginning to feel and experience and exude the passion you have locked away!!
YOU GO GIRL!!!