Find your Dragon: Responsiveness in a Woman  

rm_Ellenback 58F
903 posts
5/31/2006 3:52 pm

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Find your Dragon: Responsiveness in a Woman

I've posted about this before, and now I'm even clearer on just what it is that turns men on...AND other women, if you're lucky like me! The more you are visually, aurally (ears, not mouth!), and physically into them, the harder they work to make you peak even higher. It's not how you use your mouth, or your hand, or your vagina...It's not the size of your 'breats' (why can't chat room guys spell that damn word correctly?) or how flat your stomach/perky your ass is...(ok, those things WOULD be terrific to have, ummmm, am I oversharing again...)

When I was alone, and dealing with the 'empty nest' syndrome for those 8 months, hibernating in the basement here, I truly had no urges of any kind. I was depressed, fugly, invisible and old...

Then one day those urges awoke, and sex was all that I could think of. Maybe it's because I was mainly with one man for most of my life, and I honestly considered that most men had the same functions, talents, and roughness to them. When I started swinging, I discovered that while the EX was 'ABOVE' average in size (which had NEVER enthralled me...)he couldn't hold a candle to some of the other partners I had. They took their time, kissing me, hugging me, caressing me, soothing and whispering to me, and I always felt special.

I once teamed up with a couple of guys, who were VERY talented at all things digit-al...and that's when I discovered that I had this propensity to just let go, shocking myself in the process. I had no clue what had happened to me, but these two...OH MAN! They lit up like the sky was on fire...."Oh, do that again, they said! They explained the
'G' spot to me, and that it was awesome that I could gush like that, in fact, they wanted to show me off to their friends in the lifestyle...

Even though I remained with my Ex for 5 years after that experience, I couldn't achieve the same level of responsiveness and relaxation that I had with those two hotties...

I began to compare my awakening to a Dragon, hibernating in a cold chasm, and when the spring sun finally comes out, the Dragon starts to fly. Sure, she makes mistakes, she flies too close to the sun, or flies when there are high winds and popping rifles on the ground...but she feeds, constantly, and grows stronger with each cycle. She learns to avoid areas of turbulence, and how to stand defiant in the eyes of enemies, using her gift of flame to singe/crisp/and even destroy those that defy her (with compassion and empathy, of course, I am a Blue!)

I have observed other women in sexual situations, and I remember being perturbed that quite a few of them couldn't seem to lay back and enjoy the attention from anyone...they became squeamish, squirrelly, and squirmy, squealing, "That's enough...!" after a very short period of time, definitely not enough time to achieve any kind of satisfaction or relief. Why could they not let go? Even just oral, gently applied in a non-threatening or aggressive manner, and they couldn't take it..?

The one woman I am thinking of, in particular, absolutely could not stand to be touched, although she certainly let guys do her, as long as no fingers or mouths were involved... I questioned her as to whether she had EVER in her life orgasmed, ,and she seemed to feel that perhaps she hadn't...She truly took no pleasure from the entire expenditure of energy, but instead seemed to be using it as a method of pacifying the beasts in the forest.

Why have a lifetime of sex, if you can't even get a meal out of it...? It's like snacking on dry pretzels...eventually you need to rehydrate! And, the first one always tastes best, you'll never achieve that ummmm pretzelly taste to the same measure again!

The saddest part? Even though she would likely be considered much more attractive than I, it was I that had the most attention from the players in the room...and why? RESPONSIVENESS...they knew who truly enjoyed it, and that I would physically and verbally acknowledge 'the things done right'. I also gave as good as I got, which is important to me.

Now my Dragon allows me to control both my own actions, and those of others I touch upon; is a physical source of strength for my spirit in times of need, and is a tangible, living, breathing entity to me. I can produce the Dragon at will, and sometimes she just jumps out unbidden, because she and I are inexorably intertwined.

Have YOU ever experienced 'squirting' or 'gushing' 14 times in one session? Are you a woman who has ever experienced the sensory impact of fluid levels washing you and your partner together down the xroad?

Do YOU know where YOUR Dragon is hiding? Can you coax her out?

Can you let go like that?

Ahem! Would you like lessons?

One tip: bring a lot of water, when you go Dragon hunting...

DRAGONSTATUS: It's getaway time, once again, soul sustenance is called for, Dragon needs to rehydrate!

(((firmyetstillsoftandpliableboobyhugs)))

Elle


rm_IronTushie 49M
45 posts
5/31/2006 6:06 pm

A spark+wet tinder => smoke...just a hint of what's possible.

A spark+dry tinder => fire...ultimate release of energy.


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
5/31/2006 8:15 pm

Well, IronT, for making the 300th posting to my blog, you get to name your prize...perhaps lessons revolving around the Dragon? LMAO

(((intellectualboobyhugs)))

Elle


rm_IronTushie 49M
45 posts
6/1/2006 2:32 am

Ellen, I'm always up for lessons since learning is lifelong but I would like particulars such as length, duration, location, syllabus and grading.


horny4770 60M
8158 posts
6/1/2006 4:46 am

Elle,

I will give credit where it is due...you seem liberated now! Good for you!

There are still too many women who are trapped in the confines of their own inhibitions. That’s sad considering the openness of the world in which we live.

H.


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
6/1/2006 5:51 am

Once I looked up just what a syllabus entailed, I realized that this would be the hardest part of the lesson plan to implement, as length, duration, location, and grading are all subjective, but the syllabus must be objective, and I am not an objective-oriented woman! LOL

Will complete critical path by 06/15/06, and will be on your desk before end of day...and I'll leave that in YOUR capable hands as to just what that implies...hehehe

(((syllabubbleboobyhugs)))

Elle


rm_IronTushie 49M
45 posts
6/1/2006 9:20 am

LOL! No hurries as I expect to be in Montreal during that timeframe and probably not returning until that weekend. Look forward to it, though!


Iwillplease10 60M
9 posts
6/2/2006 6:59 pm


My first posting on a blog, my first comment on someone's thoughts and feelings
What does one say , I have little to go on except spend hours reading other comments on this site but I'm sure that is not the purpose. Here you tell it like it is
Options:
1) Say something really dazzling, brilliant, clever and seductive to impress Elle and she will of course invite me over so we can do it! (maybe i'll see her breats)lol (even i am lmao)

2) I can say "ya baby, I know where you're coming from, let's get it on!

3) Nothing. I don't have a brain or feel anything. I only have a penis.

4) The truth.

I choose # 4

The only heartfelt, sensible, honest comment I can make is.....

I understand!

may the dragon SOAR!


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
6/6/2006 6:03 pm

    Quoting Iwillplease10:

    My first posting on a blog, my first comment on someone's thoughts and feelings
    What does one say , I have little to go on except spend hours reading other comments on this site but I'm sure that is not the purpose. Here you tell it like it is
    Options:
    1) Say something really dazzling, brilliant, clever and seductive to impress Elle and she will of course invite me over so we can do it! (maybe i'll see her breats)lol (even i am lmao)

    2) I can say "ya baby, I know where you're coming from, let's get it on!

    3) Nothing. I don't have a brain or feel anything. I only have a penis.

    4) The truth.

    I choose # 4

    The only heartfelt, sensible, honest comment I can make is.....

    I understand!

    may the dragon SOAR!
IWP, wanna see my 'breats'??? No, really...ya wanna? LMAO

Dragon's shedding old skin (I'm MOULTING...!) and just wait till ya see the new colours shining underneath, and yah, on my 'breats' too...

Bad bad Dragon, but my letterbox is empty...and we both know how easy that is to fix, especially for YOU!

(((FIRMandpliantbreatshugs)))

Elle


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
6/6/2006 6:06 pm

Nice dolly...you wanna see my 'breats' too? LOL

My oven is broken, so I cook open fire method only...so why does that dolly of yours remind me of shishkebob...?

Tzatziki sauce, anyone?



Thanks for cumming by, ya nutcase...!

(((morebigbreatssquashingthedollyhugs)))

Elle


1girlrevolution 46F

6/12/2006 3:13 pm

14? Wow! My record is 5. A male friend of mine just recently made a woman soak the bed. She was embarassed because it had never happened to her before! Sad, eh? Yet a great accomplishment for her. I have to admit, it didn't happen to me until my 30s. I'm so in tune now, I love it! I'm not just talking regular O's . . . but the intense kind, ya know?

Interesting post.

~1girl


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
6/12/2006 4:18 pm

1girl, DRINK MORE WATER! hehehe

But dang, that may be a record, but it was brought on by a combination of things - equipment, hydration, and experience...LOL

Kinda hard to have all 3 in place each and every time!

And yes, I definitely know what you are talking about with the intensity!!! More like 'OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO's'...

(((softboobyhugs)))

Elle


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