How do I tell an indian friend she has bad BO  

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6/10/2006 6:35 pm

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How do I tell an indian friend she has bad BO

I'm a latin guy going for a master degree in a college next to NYC, the first friends I made where from India. I sited during international student orientation in what turned out to be an all indian student table, since there where no latin students in the whole room and I'm a social guy I didn't bother me to start talking to them and try to create some conversation.

Here is the thing, a full semester has passed and I made a close group of friends from different places in Europe and India most of them all international students, only one person raised here in the US which I find very odd but that is a whole different subject. One of the indian students is a girl and she is a very nice person and she is pretty too, but she has an awful body odor. At first when I meet her I thought that it was something incidental, like she had a metabolism change or the food she ate recently (indian) had that effect or if she was going through a hormonal change.

Now that many months have passed and I have noticed it almost every time I hug her, and I also noticed that her friends that are from india as well don't have this problem, I came to the conclusion that she has bad BO, and she should use a better deodorant or something.

Now what should I do about it?? I'm not sure if others have the same nasal perception as me, but its getting really uncomfortable to be around her since I have such a Strong sense of smell.

vrec_dawn 39M

6/10/2006 6:49 pm

Buy her a pretty kit of scented soaps, bath oil beads, and the likes. Just don't tell her because she stinks. Tell her it's because she's such a good friend and girls like that stuff, right?

JuicyBBW1001 54F

6/10/2006 6:53 pm

Good Luck with this one. Indian folks have always had an odor about them mainly because of their diet. Unless you change her diet which I doubt will happen not much you can do because in some cases even masking the odor with deodorant or perfume is a temporary fix.


florallei 99F

6/10/2006 10:56 pm

If I may...please...this young lady may not even realize that she has a problem...could be because she is unable to smell things(medical condition) that case ask her...if you are already that close to her by hugging her when you greet one another you are close enough to discuss this situation with could say something like this after asking her the above...I don't know if you are aware but since you are not able to smell I know if it happens to me you would be kind enough to let me know that my body odor could be fresher...wanted to let you know because you are a good friend....
Second if it is not a medical problem but just lacks better hygeine...pose it to her this way...I have a question for you that is of a delicate matter...if I had a problem with something (use any scenario)...would you bring it up to me? You put the choice on her lap...once she says yes...You can say to so glad you feel that way and would tell me then I know you won't be offended with what I have to say...
I have worked in management for decades and over those years I have had to deal with such an embarassing situation and these suggestions have always worked...good luck

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