Anatomy of a progressive domination - small talk  

rm_Dzdancnfsd 42M
166 posts
8/10/2006 10:55 am

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11/28/2006 12:57 pm

Anatomy of a progressive domination - small talk


Well, I would say that I do like how women and men fit together...and that I like the taste of women lol. You are probably going to get every kind of offer in the world. Not sure if I am offering... I tend to be picky... but I also am curious. I'd be interested in hearing more.
Dzd


you're right, i have gotten every kind of offer, lol. 60 in my inbox right now. but never one with only a tentative offer. i'm willing to enter into negotiations...as i too am picky but intrigued. would you like to engage in some witty banter with me? i'm game to see how this goes...email me at . . . .
Innocent Stranger (IS)


This might be fun and intellectually stimulating... which is the only why to begin stimulation
Dzd


i like that you're into intellectual stimulation as well as physical. that's a real turn on for me. but i don't want to get too into it, until i make sure my email isn't going to bounce...and i make sure my pics are too your liking. so...hit me back and let's begin our dance. will it be a waltz that leads to a tango that leads to a dirty dance, with you seeking that hot spot between my legs and me grinding my hips against yours? perhaps...let's find out!
IS


well, to start with I am in central Oregon today and I can't get wireless access so I sending this off my phone, so I probably not going to be as long as you lol. I'm not sure I would describe myself as cautious, I'm just not someone who sleeps with anyone I've met. I've experienced truly great sex and crave the experience so I'm hesitant to settle.

Your profile intrigued me because while you have some experience and are in your sexual prime, I think you would be open for really testing how much pleasure a man and woman can give each other. I'll actually write more when I can boot my computer.
Dzd


holy shit. don't mean to rush you, esp given your location and access...but i'm very interested in hearing your ideas for "testing how much pleasure a man and woman can give each other." it sounds like a series of controlled and not so controlled experiments...could that be your meaning? how can it be that you've already hit upon on of my tender spots? my antennae are up and quivering...
IS


Well, to begin with, nothing related to sex when I've been involved is that controlled. In response to your question, if I was your average guy, no matter what my meaning was, I would say of course it was my meaning. That being said, it was exactly my meaning lol. I have been told I'm a good lover. I'm too competitive and too much of a perfectionist to be happy with "good". I have started down a path of reading about sex and its many forms. For instance, I have read that a woman’s orgasm can be increased incredibly if she holds her breath as she orgasms. The first thing that popped in my mind after "cool" was does it matter if she starts holding it just before, just after, or just as she starts to orgasm? There are a number of things that with the right person it would be fun to try...but it would take trust first, which takes time.
Dzd


i hadn't heard what you mentioned about women's orgasms...it sounds like a delightful theory to test. variation and repetition, both good things.
IS


I agree that testing that theory has a lot of interesting possibilities... and would require multiple tests to really see if there is a difference. Thankfully, that is a delightful thing to repeat... and I love to watch a woman orgasm... even more if it is just before I do.
Dzd


i just compared our personality types on the AdultFriendFinder website. do you think that personality typing is accurate for you? it was scary how accurate mine is...i've been developing my logical blueprint for a sexual partner. i've been keeping a list of qualities for two years, while i was doing my initial research into heterosexuality. i'm moving onto the practical portion of my education, but so slowly! would you believe that i left my girlfriend over two years ago and have still only actually been with a guy on four occasions? not much opportunity for developing trust for experimentation. but that does bring me up to five times total. i feel good about that. and there's always room for improvement...

and since we're on the topic, have you experimented with simultaneous orgasm? i've never experienced it myself. my ex and i used to compete to see who could give the other the most orgasms, but they weren't simultaneous. my personal record was 11 in one session. hers was 13. do you think simultaneous orgasm enhances the pleasure of the moment?
IS


Since I first filled out the personality profile when I had been drinking... not sure lol. I haven't gone back and checked what I filled out so maybe I will. Interesting how you have been developing a logical blueprint for a sexual partner... my experience is that chemistry is key and doesn't seem to fit any blueprint I have been able to come up with.

I have experienced simultaneous orgasm... what it does do is when a man or woman orgasms, there are pheromones that are released by both that do enhance the orgasm and the feelings of intimacy between the two people.

As far as the most number of orgasms, women should be able to beat men hands down. I told you I had experienced great sex. I've had a few sessions where I have no idea how many times I actually orgasmed (was somewhere between 6 and , but I got to the point where there was nothing left. It was an incredible feeling.
Dzd


i think that's been part of my problem - i've not found many men who are fitting my profile, so to speak. i want a strict sensual attitude, for instance...someone who can take me in hand and make me focus on what's happening right that moment. because i want it all and i want it now, lol. i want it to be three years from now and i've already done all of the things i want to explore. i haven't been able to find someone able to slow me down, and i can't slow myself down. i end up rushing things. maybe that's why i'm very interested in things like restraints - wondering if that will let me enjoy the activity at hand more without careering headlong into the next.

but maybe it's just chemistry, as you say? i've only come across one man who i actually felt attracted to. actively attracted to, like jesus christ, i'd like to fuck him. he won't fuck me, of course. and the men i've actually had sex with - i could accept that they were physically attractive, empirically attractive. but i never felt a spark of desire for them, only for the experience of fucking them. and then i felt distant from the encounter as it was happening. i would like to see what happens when i can explore someone who makes my clit twitch when i'm around them. or maybe i need to consider adding alcohol to the mix. i've been trying to acquire a taste for beer, to no avail. i'm not much of drinker in general. but it seems to work for other people - isn't that the idea behind beer goggles? have any of your great sexual encounters involved alcohol? probably. i've never introduced alcohol into sex.
IS


I have been reading about restraints... I have found a number of women have that fantasy. The best sex I've had was with a woman who's kiss stopped my breathing and made my heart race... even months after we first met. It is important that you are in the moment if you are going to have great sex. Alcohol in moderation (1 or 2 glasses of wine, which is my alcohol of choice) can relax you, which is also important to really enjoying sex. None of my great sexual encounters involve getting really drunk, things just don't work for a guy if you are really drunk.

Restraints aren't necessary for slowing down. I've been told I'm fairly dominant when it comes to sexual encounters. For me that translates into I won't rush... and I won't allow the woman I'm with to rush. I like to enjoy the things we are doing and enjoy means savor... taste... touch... unless at the moment it means grab, throw down, and thrust lol.
Dzd


Lost in the ether is a story about masturbating in the bathroom and getting caught . . .
IS


Well, your story about being caught was funny... and erotic. It sounds like you are having mostly clitoral orgasms... I have figured out where several hot spots are that I have had interesting results (that means the women I have ate out while hitting those spots have REALLY responded). I think maybe tying you in a doggy position so you can't get away and then teasing you by softly touching you might have similar results. I'm starting to crave... I'm going to need to meet you if we keep this up.
Dzd


Lost in the ether is an email that says they will probably need to meet because they will certainly keep this up . . .
IS


I agree that we should meet... though I'm enjoying the thought of you squirming in your soaking wet white thong. I think it might be fun to tie you to your chair and tease you. I wonder if you would soak through your jeans.
Dzd


frustration and teasing both excite the hell out of me, so you should be wary of offering to do both at once. however, your lunch idea is tempting...

so you like the thought of my saturated thong...fortunately, i am something of a lingerie collector. lacy and delicate boyshorts, low slung briefs, deceptively innocent wisps of silk with a sly twist...i love panties. so if i soak one pair beyond wearing, i have many more to tide me over...until you strip them off of me, that is.
IS

hmmm...i've plugged you into my mobile. do you have much experience with phone sex? i've done it once, with a wrong number. it was very erotic. at first i thought it was my brother calling, so i acted like i knew them. by the time i realized my mistake i was getting excited, so i went along with it. i was still a virgin, so i had no idea what he was really talking about, but it was hot hot, i ended up with a fantastic orgasm out of it.

but when he called again the next night i denied him. it felt creepy that he had called me deliberately. and i've never done it since. what's your experience with phone sex? do you find it satisfying?
IS


I do not do phone sex. First, I find it unsatisfying. Second, you are already going to be so wound up by the time we meet that it would only increase your frustration. The reason for that is you are not going to be allowed to touch yourself for 24 hours before we meet.
Dzd


what if I decide to touch myself anyway? i have so much trouble in the bathroom keeping my hands to myself.
IS


If you do touch yourself I will know and just frustrate you more when we meet. You can not rush me. I will make the decisions as to what happens and doesn’t happen. You are not in charge.
Dzd


Good morning. I hope you've been a good girl and kept your hands off your pussy. I am going to ask you when I meet you (how's that for a way to break the ice!). I want you thinking all morning about my teasing fingers softly caressing you but not quite giving you the satisfaction you are looking for. If you haven't been good, I'm not going to give you that satisfaction. Call me when you get to the restaurant. I may or may not beat you there but I want you to walk over to my car. I like watching women walk... You can squirm all you want this morning... I want to see your panties all wet by the time we meet. Have fun trying to work lol.
Dzd


i'm sorry to say i couldn't find the panties i wanted to wear today. i can't imagine where they are...but my room is a mess so they could be anywhere. but i chose a pair i think you'll find suitable. i keep wondering what it would feel like to have your hand creeping up my thigh, over the edge of my thigh highs, onto my bare skin. makes me want to test it with my own hand.
IS


I'm sure your hand won't feel quite the same as mine...I'll be looking into your eyes and running both hands up your inside thighs slowly spreading your legs...
Dzd


i'm hiking my dress up quite a bit at my desk just now, considering how pale my thighs look against the black thigh highs i'm wearing. thank goodness i have a modesty screen and not too many people walk past my office...my panties are on full display right now...it's so hard to look but not touch.
IS


Yes it is . . . but you are not the one in control . . . see you at lunch . . .
Dzd


gingerkitty00 55F
1002 posts
11/19/2006 11:44 pm

mmm, just gotta go change my panties...
GKxxx


rm_Dzdancnfsd replies on 11/20/2006 9:44 pm:
I can healp, I'm pretty good at that . . . actually, I'm just good at taking them off.

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