Relationships  

rm_Drakon765 40M
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6/1/2006 8:48 pm
Relationships


In keeping with my original ramblings on love (or my innate distrust of anyone preaching of "True Love"), I guess I should state my utter confusion as to why love inevitably leads to relationships. This is usually counter-productive, as your standard monogamous relationship usually smothers love until it is no more.
Now, I'll be the first to state that I'm no expert on any of these matters - at the ripe old age of 30, I've been in 5 serious relationships. However, I seem to notice that most relationships are born out of jealousy and fear. It hasn't been so much about wanting to spend the rest of my life with a woman, usually just that my love interest doesn't want me with another woman (and usually vice-versa). It seems pretty normal for relationships to be born this way. Once there is monogamy, the love interest ceases to be a seperate person, but more of a possession. Things become forced - what you used to *want* to do with the other person are now expected...and it causes greater drama if they don't occur.
So the million dollar question I keep asking myself (and maybe someone who is bored enough to read this can venture an answer) is this: Is it possible to have a monogamous relationship without the possessiveness? Is it possible to forge a relationship with someone based on mutual respect and a sincere desire to be together, not control?

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