Ever felt like you were back in grade school?  

rm_CyclingSusie 44F
3 posts
6/28/2006 4:42 am

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8/1/2006 4:01 pm

Ever felt like you were back in grade school?

Well, recently, I have. Seems a person here at A FF has decided that I'm evil incarnate. He has made many posts about how selfish I am, and even sent me an email about it. The ironic thing is, this guy barely even knows me. But, he feels like he can judge me. So, if you've read his email, and you're wondering what I'm talking about, here's the email from him (titled "Hey Suzie"):

Hello suzie. I have just about had enough from you. You are one of the most selfish people I know from AdultFriendFinder. You seem to think you can do whatever the hell you feel like doing regardless of anyone elses feelings. I truly feel sorry for you. You will be a sad person until you decide you are not the only person on this earth. You know no one in juicy's group did anything to you for her to have to put up with your little selfish diatribe. Then you have the guts to show up at the thing you dispise. If I didn't know any better. I would think you did it on purpose for some selfish reason. You better take a step back and look at yourself in the mirror. Its not a pretty sight. I am not talking about your outer self either.

Lovely email to read first thing in the morning, huh? I know that this person doesn't deserve a response from me, but since his goal seems to be to tarnish my name, I must respond. This all stems from a difference of opinion in one of the groups. Someone made a post about having a fundraiser for a kid he knows who is in the hospital. That lead to another post about it. And another. And another. Now, I give a lot of money away to people in need. Anyone who really knows me knows that. But, I was beginning to feel pressured by fellow members of the group. Word got around that I (and other members of the group) felt that 1) an AdultFriendFinder (The World's Largest Sex & Swinger Personals Community) group is not the appropriate spot to ask for money and 2) there was a pressure to join in with efforts. Once that happened, people started posting that those of us who weren't participating were uncaring. Yes, that word was used. Apparently, some people thought this one incident was enough to judge a whole person's life. I wrote to the moderator of the group, and told her that I didn't think these posts were appropriate. In fact, they were against the rules. After that, I decided to leave the group. I wasn't getting any enjoyment from it.

This particular group has monthly meets. I have become good friends with members of the group. One of my friends wanted me to stop by to say hi to him at one of the gatherings. He asked the moderator if that would be o.k., and she said yes. So, I showed up for around 30 minutes, said hi to everyone, and left. This month, the whole purpose of the meet was to raise money for the kid who is in the hospital. I was reluctant to go to this one, due to my history with it. I had a feeling that it would cause a neverending flow of drama if I showed. But, I must have been having a stupid day, because I showed up. Yes, I know, that was a mistake on my part. I really wish I could take it back. Once I got there, few people talked to me, except for the people I consider my true friends. I really didn't mind that the others were ignoring me. I wasn't there to hang out with them, I wanted to hang out with my friends. The person who wrote me the oh-so charming email above even talked to me, on several occassions. I felt uncomfortable the whole time I was there. The group moderator likes to personally invite everyone to her meets, and I wasn't personally invited. I admit...I shouldn't have been there. If I hadn't been there, all this drama wouldn't be happening.

Anyway, I wake up on Monday to a lovely email from someone I barely know. Anyone who knows me knows that I'm a sensitive person, so this email really hurt me. Not because it's true, because it's so far from true I should find it funny, but because it's so mean. It seems that it's his personal goal to get people to hate me. In his blog, he named my name, several times. I will not say who he is. I also won't judge him as a person. That's not my job.

The moral of the story is, trust yourself. If I hadn't so stupidly shown up that night, none of this would be happening.

So, there's a good chance that I'll be leaving A FF soon. I'll never regret joining because it has allowed me to make some wonderful friends. But, it is no longer enjoyable.

Susie (BTW, did anyone notice that the person who sent me the email spelled my name wrong?)

Kaliedascope61 41M
4084 posts
6/28/2006 5:24 am

why would an email from someone you don't know make you want to leave? Do what you want, if others don't like it so be it, you will find those that do like hearing what you have to say. Thats just life, some will disagree some won't, just do what you feel you have to, right or wrong.

If you feel you are being berated and put down, then report it as abuse. No one should have to deal with that.

irishtongue71 51M

7/30/2006 8:53 am

Susie, I'm sorry I never got to know you. I think you know why I left and never returned. So, in that sense, we're on the same page.

Don't feel alone.


firstflight6942 57M
30 posts
8/1/2006 1:44 pm

Susie, when I had supper with you three I never would have thought that you were the uncaring person descibed in your e-mail. (Said smiling)

I would be happy to hang with you again just so you know....



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