What is so difficult???  

rm_CauseISaidSo 48F
341 posts
1/22/2006 11:07 am

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What is so difficult???


I am talking about people who refuse to send their photos to the A F F address and insist they can only/will only send pics to a personal email address. I have run into a few of these types already. A F F (sorry, I hate typing the letters all together and having it come out completely spelled out) made a point of changing capabilities so that now you can send many different formats of pictures through this site, not just jpeg. So I do not get the problem. Here is an exchange I had over the last few days. (Sender's name has been changed.)

> > Sender: LexL
> > To: CauseISaidSo
> > Date: Jan 22, 2006 12:39 AM EST
> >
> > Hi;
> > I liked your profile. I'm a successful and attractive man who love to stay in shape. I believe in enjoying life to the fullest. Whether it's traveling dining or whatever. If you would like my picture, just tell me where to send it.
> > Hope to here from you,
> > -S
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> Sender: CauseISaidSo
> To: LexL
> Date: Jan 22, 2006 12:42 AM EST
>
> You can send a photo to this address, the AdultFriendFinder one. Thanks.
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> > Sender: LexL
> > To: CauseISaidSo
> > Date: Jan 22, 2006 12:39 AM EST

Can I send it to your personal email address?
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> Sender: CauseISaidSo
> To: LexL
> Date: Jan 22, 2006 118 AM EST
>
> Since I don't know you, no. I don't send out my personal email address until I know the person a little bit or at least know if I am interested. Sorry.
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> > Sender: LexL
> > To: CauseISaidSo
> > Date: Jan 22, 2006 11:59 AM EST
I respect that. So maybe we can get to know each other first on this site. As far as what I look like, I can tell you there is nothing to worry about. BTW, my name is Steve.
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Now clearly, this guy could have sent his photo to me at A F F. He wanted my personal info, though, and kept angling for it, and I was not budging. Plus, I will never meet or initiate even an email exchange from here without knowing what the person looks like. I am not here primarily to make friends, although that has happened along the way, and I think that's great.

I wrote him back and told him that it was very, very difficult, if not impossible, to go on someone else's word of their own appeal. I know how picky I am and some people considered very hot (i.e: Brad Pitt), do not attract me at all. So it is very dicey to ever take someone's word for it. (You know that oft repeated line on this site: "You won't be disappointed!"? Can you tell me of a BIGGER red flag announcing impending disgruntlement?) I then wished him good luck on the site. Too much work, this is supposed to be fun, not irritating.

Him being that resistant over sending a photo to me here also indicated to me that I would find him just as difficult in person in other ways. I think that whole exchange was very telling, correct me if I'm wrong.

So let me pose the question to you..if you refuse to send a picture to someone here after learning through email, chatroom or IM exchange that they are in fact a real person, and insist on sending it to another email address, what is your reasoning?

(BTW..for you editors out there..I have tried twice to insert the proper spacing of 2 spaces after each period and colon, and AdultFriendFinder will not edit that in. Very weird. And frustrating.)

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
1/22/2006 10:24 pm

Cause, you know the real reason for this. They are hoping that you use AOhelL, Hot Mail . That way, they have your IM name too. Which means, they can just pop up in your IMs and say, "Hi, you sent me your handle." It's INCREDIBLY ANNOYING!"

I keep a throw away handle in Yahoo for such things. I don't use the IMs attached to the name. But about once a month, I will sign in, in invisible and I'll have all sorts of IMs from guys who thought it would be nice to chat, before sending the picture they promised.

Any guy who refuses to send a pic through here, if he's a paid member, is lying about his intentions as far as sending the pic. He is hoping for an email address that is attached to an IM name outside the system. After all, if he's using one of the afore mentioned mail systems, it's just as hard to attach a pic to your email.


TriggerJinxed 38M

2/26/2006 3:58 pm

AND WHY CAN'T THESE FREAKIN' PEOPLE LEARN TO SPELL!!

Hope to here from you,

HEAR! HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU!!!

Sorry, just needed to get that out.


cuteNEway 41F

3/18/2006 2:03 pm

see I've had this happen to me too...I flat out tell them that I fear being stalked and harassed by someone I'm not attracted to. (did I spell that right? I always forget if it's 2 Rs, 2 Ss, one of each or two of each...oy)And they always argue that they've been told they're 'handsome' (by their mother?) and/or that they swear/promise that I won't be disappointed. I trusted that ONCE! And the guy was NOT good looking and he was a total jerk and he did the "backup plan" where his buddy called him 20 minutes after he picked me up. I swear I'm like 6 dates from locking up the puss and just forgetting the whole deal!!


cuteNEway 41F

3/23/2006 8:15 pm

TAG YER IT!!! CUTENEWAY TEE HEE


greatnsexy69 46M

3/25/2006 7:51 pm

I have never understood the need to go offsite for initial contacts. The only reason some would insist on this is because they are trying to draw them into paying for an avs login on another site. I personally have no need to use another throw away email as A F F is just fine for that. I understand that some women here don't like to use the site's IM feature (when it works) because they become inundated with chat requests. But I don't suggest an alternative IM unless both agree beforehand this might be something both want. What did the guy think? Assuming you gave him an alternate email addy was he going to try to wear you down until you finally said yes or does this type of person just get off on annoying people?


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