Silver and Gold, Silver and Gold  

rm_CauseISaidSo 48F
341 posts
10/4/2005 12:39 am

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4/23/2006 12:29 pm

Silver and Gold, Silver and Gold


I'm convinced that the single biggest threat to American adult literacy today is the A F F gold or silver membership. I'll tell you why.

As you probably are aware of, the paid premium memberships, that represent themselves as a little ball next to the user name in the A F F chatrooms, allow the user to review all aspects of a profile they are interested in, from photos to location, to age, to salient details. This is why I myself have a silver membership. As a standard member, after your profile gets viewed enough, hotlisted enough, whatever, you gain the ability to view a few profiles on your own without paying, but even when somone mails you a photo, the picture is a thumbnail. (This was not always the case, A F F caught on to the fact that all people had to do to view photos without paying is go to a chatroom and ask a willing donor to send them one. Now all you get in your standard member email is a barely viewable thumbnail. Evil moneygrubbers.) Anyway, since I am, by nature, nosy as fuck, I went back to being a paying member here despite the myriad and ever present operational problems with A F F, because I enjoy viewing, unobstructed, the flea circus that this site has to offer. But I digress.

I like the chatrooms, I go into the NYC room often. However, this is where I encounter the highest frequency of laziness/selective reading/possibly actual illiteracy. If it's not some clown wishfully misspelling my name..(It's CAUSEI for short, NOT CASUAL ), then it is some asshat with a silver or gold ball and the ability to read my profile asking me my a/s/l.

Is it THAT hard to click on my name, open my profile, and find this info out your damn self?

No, it isn't difficult at all for me to answer the question, but I also didn't spent all that time crafting/writing an epic, ridiculously long, running off at the mouth profile for nothing. Ya know? To paraphrase the Beastie Boys..ch-ch-ch-ch-check it out. The first thing I do before getting into a conversation or responding to an email here is I glance at the profile. Because I like to know about who is approaching me. I am nosy and want to be informed. And if they considerately took the time to offer up a few tidbits about themselves for their viewers' edification, then it behooves me to read it and not pester them with dumbass questions that are already addressed on their profile.

Beyond that, the people that do not match what I specifically am looking for and contact me with the hopes of 'hookin' up' anyway. Homey, if I wanted a 52 year old, 4'7", married Vietnamese paraplegic from Saskatchewan with five (known)kids who peppers his writing with ebonics and Prince-like shortcuts, ("U R a honey, let's hook up, I will be cumming to yur area for 2 dayz in June" ) don'tcha think I would have asked for one? All I can gather from those types of responses is a)all you did was look at the pictures without regard to anything I had to say or b) you are a(n) (barely functional) illiterate.

The power of reading comprehension is becoming a bigger and bigger aphrodisiac these days....

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
10/4/2005 4:31 pm

You know, it cracks me up every time they call you casual in there. They're either really dyslexic or they're seeing what they want to see. Welcome to my world. I have to deal with that Thorpe bit all the time.

Not to mention, even as a standard member with no profile views left, you can scroll down on the buy a premium membership page that comes up, see the thumbnail and see age and location. People don't seem to realize that and they hide that at the bottom so people who aren't paying attention don't bother.

As far as the thumbnails in mail, you have to click on those and the full sized pic opens up. Granted, not everyone has full sized pics. I've seen pics that are barely bigger than the thumbnails.

As far as the guys who only look at the pics... They're always going to be here. They see a face they don't mind and a convenient location. My favorites are from the married men who write and say, "You're in my town! (or one town over.) We should hook up!" Because don't you know geography is what makes a good hookup... *cough*


realmom2 58M/50F

10/4/2005 5:25 pm

"Silver and Gold" I love that song, ("Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer"). But seriously, many of the guys here aren't capable of doing two things at once, ie; reading while stroking there real brain.


BlackAndPacking 42M
1 post
10/4/2005 7:00 pm

I don’t know the difference between gold and silver. I get a little lazy sometimes after typing to people in chat rooms who don’t respond or to men pretending to be women (yes, I get those). Sometimes so many people have nothing to say that I speed read through most of it (I’m loving the back button right on the mouse). I like Ebonics. (I think itz cute and informal, (to a point). Sometime it’s like reading code.) I’m not a gold or silver member and I don’t plan to be. I misspell a lot of my words ( I blame that on typing too fast). I’m not much of a writer. I’m not particularly funny either. I’m not nosy. My profile is still incomplete. I don’t know the difference between gold and silver.

I don’t know the difference between gold and silver. I like meeting new people. I love reading, but, hate reading profiles. I hate writing blogs that no one responds to. I hate trying to fit people in a box. I hate people who fit in a box. (But I digress). I don’t write a lot of responses to blogs, (only the good ones). I don’t know exactly what I’m looking for, or why I’m here. (To be or not to be). I don’t have a ball next to my name, and I don’t know the difference between gold and silver.

I don’t know the difference between gold and silver. I think it’s a little more this and a little more that. But that tells me nothing. Wouldn’t it be lovely if gold and silver represented one’s intent to follow through on the commitments promised in their profiles. Where silver would have meant that you made it to meeting at least once, and gold mean we have confirmation of promise fulfillment. Then, gold would be gold and silver would be silver and standard would be reserved for those who willing to be “nosy” from the sideline. Silver and Gold offers a free pass to the front of the line. Go directly to confirmation, do not meet, do not call, do not pass GO, do not collect $200. Gold and Silver members get to play supreme beings, deciding who and when to make contact with and for what reason. Golds and Silvers, redefine the strike zone with every pitch. Strike one … “not enough info in profile,” strike two, “sorry no pic sent,” strike three, “too many Ebonics text detected.” Golds and Silvers, boldly waive their mouse over the “Send Email” link and click it, while standard members fight over themselves for attention. Hoping above all hope for some glimmer support for the idea that the monthly membership fee might one day be well spent. Yet the “Precious Metals,” band plays on. Enie ‒ Menie ‒ Minie ‒ Moe … I have sexy pictures to show … Enie ‒ Menie ‒ Minie ‒ Moe … I’ll show…… YOU …. No …. You! No. you…

I don’t know the difference between silver and gold.


digdug41 49M

10/6/2005 6:13 am

yeah I'd love to upgrae but it gonna be a minute and I feel you if you can view the profiles you do that before approaching the person at least thats what I'd do if I were able but I dont know as of late I'm not really looking I have seen you on in the nyc chat room but I really dont have much to say so I just write blogs now well have fun in blogland and if your wit is as sharp as msann's I will be back take care luv

roaming the cyber streets of blogland


couple4shagging 51M/49F

10/9/2005 10:32 pm

We couldn't agree with you more! We are torn at this point between our intentionally long winded profile and something shorter and sweeter for the reading impared.

The whole a/s/l thing is irritating and gets our panties (at least hers) in a bunch. The best is when someone im's you and then asks you that question. Thank god for the decline and ignore feature.

Take heart, I believe hooked on phonics will have a special AdultFriendFinder edition, if not then the new clapper feature where you can "clap on" and "clap off" profiles should do the trick.


rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
10/10/2005 10:06 am

"The power of reading comprehension is becoming a bigger and bigger aphrodisiac these days...."

Heh... For me, it's a requirement in a potential partner. Even if it's only a single romp in the bed, I won't; I can't have sex with a partner who is ignorant or stupid... and no Christians neither! (MissAnn can fill you in if you aren't familiar with this quote. I can usually smell smart on a person when he/she's in[/] person; most bright people can smell their own. But since you communicate in text on the 'Net, you only have text to determine these things.

And please, for the poor spellers... you have a fucking spell checker - use it! This is very similar to going on a first date with a shirt stained with wine, coffee, and tomato sauce, thinking, "Oh... he/she won't mind, I just don't wanna hafta wash it."

90% of Americans speak only English, we don't have a lot of crowding in the part of the brain that handles language, eh? So, you in the pick up truck with the Bush/Cheney sticker on the bumper and the four foot sticker of the flag and an eagle having sex beneath "God Bless America" which is itself misspelled... LEARN THE FUCKING LANGUAGE OF THE COUNTRY YOU PROFESS TO LOVE SO MUCH![/d]


rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
10/10/2005 10:12 am

Sorry, CISS, I made a typo in the code; please delete my previous comment?

"The power of reading comprehension is becoming a bigger and bigger aphrodisiac these days...."

Heh... For me, it's a requirement in a potential partner. Even if it's only a single romp in the bed, I won't; I can't have sex with a partner who is ignorant or stupid... and no Christians neither! (MissAnn can fill you in if you aren't familiar with this quote. I can usually smell smart on a person when he/she's in person; most bright people can smell their own. But since you communicate in text on the 'Net, you only have text to determine these things.

And please, for the poor spellers... you have a fucking spell checker - use it! This is very similar to going on a first date with a shirt stained with wine, coffee, and tomato sauce, thinking, "Oh... he/she won't mind, I just don't wanna hafta wash it."

90% of Americans speak only English, we don't have a lot of crowding in the part of the brain that handles language, eh? So, you in the pick up truck with the Bush/Cheney sticker on the bumper and the four foot sticker of the flag and an eagle having sex beneath "God Bless America" which is itself misspelled... LEARN THE FUCKING LANGUAGE OF THE COUNTRY YOU PROFESS TO LOVE SO MUCH!


lifeisablast333 53M

10/10/2005 8:38 pm

tell it like it is....the truth will win......the redneck


Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
2642 posts
10/11/2005 6:56 am

Very valid point. However, there are those that hit the post button before they realize they made a typo also. Don't be TOO hard on the them. Accidents happen.
To Black and Packing, DigDug and Tri-State, unless you guys just happen to have liked the subject matter and were being friendly...you obviously DID NOT read the profile.

Be kind everyone. There is something to learn from everyone.


RailBaron2 54M

10/11/2005 7:45 am

Hi CauseISaidSo,I saw your responce on another post.Since I'm a standard member & cannot read your profile, I have come to your blog to do the next best thing. I like Your picture & your blog- Thank You for posting it. A.F.F. is not as bad as some of the sites I've been on when it comes to people not reading profiles.Since I cannot read profiles on this site I posted a copy of my profile on my blog,& directed those viewing my profile to see my blog,That with 5 nonexplicit pictures seems to do well.Please feel free to stop by & comment sometime, Jim


cuteNEway 41F

10/12/2005 6:10 pm

Ahhhh the art of Ebonics! See I have no problem with Ebonics...we all use them but PLEASE don't freakin hit on me with them...SUCH a turn off!!


greatnsexy69 47M

3/25/2006 8:28 pm

I've worked with people who cannot for a grammatically correct sentence. The spelling always sucks too. If it weren't for Outlook's autocorrect feature, there are many I work with who would not be able to understand what their coworker is trying to tell them.


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