What ever happened to conversation?  

UnlitMaserSaxon 54M/52F
50 posts
8/12/2005 8:29 am

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What ever happened to conversation?

What do you and your friends do when you get together? Regardless of what you might be doing physically (golf, hiking, rebuilding a 67 Ford Fairlane, etc.) you probably talk while you're doing it. But what do you talk about?

I find that almost every time I overhear some other people chatting, they seem to be chatting about what they saw on television. Maybe the hockey game. Maybe the love lives of their soap-opera heros. Maybe who just got eliminated on whatever competitive reality show they watch. But its almost always about the fictitious world portrayed to them on their televisions.

What's that old saying? Some people talk about people, some people talk about events and others talk about ideas? Where in that spectrum of conversation do you fit "some people talk about imaginary people"?

I'm a bit of an oddball. I like to play sports. I enjoy hockey, volleyball and squash. But I don't care at all about professional leagues and I hate talking about them. When it comes to conversation, I'd rather chat about my other hobbies, like art or movies, or science or theater. I love to talk about new ideas or interesting philosophies. I enjoy discourse on historical trends and portents for the future. I'm interested in politics, in the general sense, but I'm not overly wrapped up in issues of the day.

I'm interested in the lives, dreams and aspirations of the person (or people) I'm talking to. I'm not good at small-talk. I have trouble engaging in the minute details of another person's life, involving people I don't know engaged in situations I don't understand. But what you want to do with your life? Or the narrative of you childhood? Or the story of your first job? Those fascinate me.

So when I meet somebody (here or in the real world) and all they seem able to talk about is "that funny scene from that tv show" or "who slept with who's brother in that other show" I get frustrated. The minute details from the lives of people who don't even exist seems to doubly compound the pointlessness. Could it be that my lack of ability to engage in these discussions is marking me as shallow? I don't know.

Give me real people and the big picture topics in their lives any day.

rm_ILuv2Swallow 49F
5 posts
8/12/2005 10:54 am

I agree hun how else are yer supposed to get to know anybody underneath the wrappingz? I luv talking about my artwork hobbiez and interestz much MORE so than whoze sleeping with whom ....

rm_slld 46M
4 posts
9/17/2005 1:22 am

wow !! refreshing insight... It is so nice to see the art of conversation is not dead... Wounded maybe..but not dead...lol..I agree sharing your life and learning of the person accros from you ,and not a strangers from the media, is so important and sensual...no matter the topic..

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