Changing Pace  

UnlitMaserSaxon 54M/52F
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9/14/2005 9:39 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Changing Pace

So far, we've met a number of very nice people. Had some fun times at dinner, at bars. Even met some nice people and wandered around an art gallery. But we just haven't found the 'click' yet. One couple he likes, but she gets no spark. Another single lady, she likes, but he feels lukewarm. Another couple would make great social friends, but we're just looking for different things in the 'otherwise' department.

After two months of playing out these scenarios, we still haven't found what we're looking for. Of course, we know a hell of a lot more now about WHAT we're looking for than we did when we started. But we've realized that we're probably just not swingers - at least, not in the 'casual sex with casual acquaintances' sense. I think we're thinking more about finding friends, probably through other, more traditional avenues, and remaining open to play-time possibilities.

Think about it. You meet 10 couples here, all of whom are into casual, group sex. What are the chances that both of you have enough in common with both of them (from any one of those 10 couples) that you hit it off as actual friends. I'm guessing the answer is something like 1 or 2 percent.

On the other hand, you make 10 couple-friends based on mutual interests or shared hobbies or something like that. What are the chances that the two of you hit it off with the two of them? Well, I said you made friends, so let's call that 100%. Now, what are the chances that one of those couples will be interested in playtime? I'm guessing about 10% maybe 15%.

So, by my back-of-the-envelope calculation, we are 8 times more likely to find what we want by going the other way. And if we fail, we still have 10 new couple friends, whereas we had none the other way.

I suppose this might all be very different if we made friends easily and were extremely gregarious people. But we don't and we're not. We're kind of boring by most people's standards.

We're definitely going to keep our presence here. It's still nice to chat with people without having to watch what you say. We still have some fun conversations. And it's nice to check out the pics of course. And we're still open to meeting with people who contact us. But our own hunting activities are going to be focused on other roads for a while.

We'll report back here to tell y'all how it turns out.

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