death of a child  

rm_Bct2Esi 51M/50F
998 posts
10/6/2005 10:05 am
death of a child

Wow, we all here in our tiny little town was kicked in the gut today. One of our teachers son passed away last night

I went and got my daughter, who isn't dealing with it very well, it was her favorite teachers son. This child was also a good friend of my nephews Now we have to call him, he is now living with my mother and not up here anymore, and let him know over the phone

It brought reality back to me. I have a son in Ft. Collins at college, our oldest daughter attending College in Aurora, the older children refuse to keep in touch. Don't care that MOM worries about them, well you know they are invinsible, untouchable. Sailing through life. PFT mom when she gets on them, then our daughter here I could not imagine ever having to do that I just pray to God that I don't have to do it. I know that sounds selfish. I don't think I would deal with it to be honest. I wasn't suppose to have children. When I was blessed with the two children I prayed every day for and now have. It would destroy me! I think I would be like that mom in the movie..."what dreams may come" go off the deep end.

I am VERY protective over my children. Even the oldest one who is a step daughter. She is still a part of this family, I don't care what her mother says. She is still my daughter!

I hate the fact that the two older ones are so far away. I can't hug them, tell them I love them, wake up in the morning to them in the house. I know its a part of them growing up, it just slaps you when a child passes away. Even if it isn't your own. My poor youngest one....earlier this year, it was her skating buddy that was killed by a jealous neighbor. Now this. I am thankful that for the next 2 years I have her here to hug, give grief too and tell I love you. Yes I can email the older two and tell them, but I am one that likes to say it in person as well.

This just sucks!!! Reading back over this, I am just rambling on, really going know where with this one. I just needed to get it off my chest. THIS JUST REALLY REALLY REALLY SUCKS!!!

so if any of you read this and you have children, please give them a hug, tell them you love them. One minute they are here and then the next they could be gone! Then you don't get a second chance, there is no tomorrow, there is no in a minute. It isn't going to kill you to take a few minutes out of your busy day to sit and read to them, get down in the floor and play with them, go to the park, take in the moment and just be with them! their lives are precious and good be gone in an instant! If you are reading this and you are currently using them as a pawn to get back at a spouse, a family member, what ever. KNOCK IT OFF, they don't deserve to be in the middle of your crap. Give them a hug and let them know you love them and let them have time with their parents, and other family! If those other people in their lives are NOT In any way harming them mentally, physically or emotionally. Your just being a child and using your child or children to get back....Then KNOCK IT OFF! Those children are a blessing from God to you and your family and their other parent. IT is not YOUR place to say NO! Just remember, they are there one minute and could be gone the next.

Please love the blessing from which you were given, take the time to let them know it!!! QUIT BEING SO MEAN TO THEM!!!!


newsready 49F

12/13/2005 11:06 am

I agree totally about childern, they are truely gods gifts. I know from being a nurse how hard it is on families with the death of a child, it is unbearable. I lost my mom to cancer when she was only 53 yrs old. It would have been her 61st birthday yesterday. We all go though life taking for garnite the people that mean the most to us until it is too late.
So don't wait till then, tell them you love them now!


rm_Bct2Esi 51M/50F
1375 posts
10/7/2005 7:44 am

Well not everyone agress with us. I am thankful for mine last night while I was making dinner, my 16 year came into the kitchen with sadness in her eyes. I just put the spatula down and hugged her. I didn't care that supper was cooking. She needed her MOM at that moment and I stopped and was there

Even yesterday when I went back down to the High School, students and teachers were still visibly upset and crying. I have no idea how many students that I just held and let them cry. Some I have known since they were in the second grade, some I have no idea who they were.

I just stood there and held each one of them that needed to be comforted. It made me wonder how many of those children would get that same thing at their home? In the midst of all of this tragic, homecoming is next week. The Journalism teacher and I are trying to get all the times down of when I need to be there to shoot the events and wondering.....what day is going to be NO school for the funeral? This was such a sudden and tragic loss, all of us are in shock over this and yet trying to go on with our lives? This is truly tough.

This young man would have wanted it that way. You know we all have to go on, continue to hug and love each and every child weather they are ours or not! The next time any of you see a child of any age with a sad look on their face, take the time to speak to them, give them a hug. A smile might make someone days and let them know they are loved, so just imagine what a gentle voice and hug would do?


rm_luvtolic0269 42F
2 posts
10/6/2005 1:33 pm

I agree with Bct2Esi. Children shouldn't be used as a pawn. I'm very thankful for both of my own children, and my three step-children. My husband and I love them very much and we tell them that every day. All children are our future. Everybody needs to realize that.


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