About swinging part two  

rm_Bct2Esi 51M/50F
998 posts
1/3/2006 6:58 am
About swinging part two

Just as with any other social event, please RSVP before going to a party and see if you can bring something. Would you show up to a dinner party without a hostess gift? Most likely not. Bring some wine or flowers for everyone to share!

You should pack a bag of personal items/toiletries to take with you , maybe a bathrobe and a couple of towels would be a good idea. Other items you may want to bring are condoms, toys, lotions, lubricants, and any other personal items you might need.

It is inappropriate to arrive at a couple’s only party separate from your partner. Arrive on time, or as close as possible. Usually the first hour or two is spent getting to know the other party guests. If you arrive late, you may miss out on this and walk into a party that is already in “full swing”.

Please shower before you go to a party. Nothing can be so offensive as an unwashed body. Make sure you are clean and fresh! It may also be a good idea to be sure that your fingernails are trimmed and snag free. Don’t wear an excess of cologne or perfume. Some people are allergic to some scents and this may ruin your night.
You have arrived:

Once you have arrived at a party , make sure to greet your host/hostess. Find out about the room situation. Ask which rooms are private and which ones are open Many parties will have a general room, where everyone gathers to get to know each other. Then as the evening progresses, they will move to different rooms in the house/party. There are usually rooms open to all (like a free for all room) and then there are private rooms where couples don’t want to be bothered by others. Not everyone enjoys voyeurism, so be sure you know which rooms are which.

It is a good idea for couples to remain together at these parties unless discussed otherwise . If one partner wanders off with another person, jealousy issues could arise. Make sure you have discussed this with your partner before attending. It is also a good idea to have pre-arranged signals with your partner to avoid being rude and offending anyone. Everyone has the right to say NO but if your partner is unaware that you are not attracted to someone, this could lead to you having to say something at the party.
Instead, a hand signal, certain phrase, or a certain facial movement can let your partner know you are not comfortable with the person/situation without hurting anyone else’s feelings.

Be neat and tidy. Clean up after yourself when at a party. It is common courtesy and can help keep the likelihood of disease down to a minimum.

Keep alcohol assumption to a minimum. While a drink or two can help you loosen up, there is nothing worse than waking up the next day and wondering what you did last night! Most parties do not allow drugs so please stay drug free for the night. It is not good for you anyways!

Disease is quite common. Many couples will seek out other people who have the same diseases so they do not endanger anyone else. Many couples insist on using condoms. Some don’t. It is your decision weather or not to use a condom, though it is recommended. ANY type of sexual contact can transmit diseases. Be careful and be safe!

Respect other people’s feelings. Not everyone at the party will be an experienced swinger. Some people may be nervous and shy. Don’t be rude when saying NO. It is your right to say NO to anyone, but do it with tact. Be polite. Don’t be pushy and try to manipulate others to your will. If someone says NO to you don’t take it personally. There are numerous reasons why they might be saying NO. But asking “why?” is inappropriate.

Use discretion. If you see someone you know at a party, don’t be alarmed. Don’t tell everyone at work that you saw them there. Don’t talk about it at lunch! Respect their privacy and they will respect yours back. After all, YOU had to be there to see them!



rm_Bct2Esi 51M/50F
1375 posts
1/5/2006 2:43 pm

kissable...all very true, and I didn't write this, I was asked to post these for those that do this.

I feel for you, your wife and your freinds, it is a risk, but then again, you can be born with those same disease's and not have anyone in your family be carriers.

You do make some very valid points, I hope that all that read this, also take the time to read your post

hugs and smiles


rm_kissableman2 56M

1/5/2006 12:39 pm

Public service announcement....God how I love women like you! Love the soft focus, the pink font, so thoughtful, so sincere, so full of crap. You gloss over health issues like they were nothing. "Be neat and tidy. Clean up after yourself when at a party. It is common courtesy and can help keep the likelihood of disease down to a minimum." Disease to a minimum?? What is that? One, two, ten fatalaties? Funny how you don't bother to go into any real depth here on the seriousness of Hep-C, HPV and HIV not to mention other more treatable STDs. Oh? you didn't know that currently you cannot cure Hep-C along with HIV and HPV is the largest causal agent of cervical caner in women? Liver failure accompanies Hep-C and surprise, there is no cure. it can be transmitted by kissing, the fluids from a vagina, the pre-come from a penis, and, no, you can't kill it with alcohol wipes or anti-bacterial soap AND the CDC has estimated that 1 in 4 people already have it in the US. "Disease is quite common. Many couples will seek out other people who have the same diseases so they do not endanger anyone else. Many couples insist on using condoms. Some don’t. It is your decision weather or not to use a condom, though it is recommended. ANY type of sexual contact can transmit diseases. Be careful and be safe!" Nice soft approach. how about, you are rolling the dice at any swinging party and if you lose....you die as well as infect other people. When you are at the local Subway tell me if you'll eat the sub if the woman making it licks her fingers before wrapping it up...No? Then why would you stick your tongue in another person's mouth? How is your conscience going to feel if you spend the night licking, sucking, ingesting other bodily fluids, wipe your face off and kiss your baby on the lips the next day. Two months later the doctor explains he/she has Hep-C and will need a liver transplant. Of course you didn't contract it, just carried it...Things that make you go hmmmm. Why am I saying this? Because, like you I loved to swing until a dear friend of ours DIED along with his wife, and one of their children, all within 5 years of one another and all because they swing.....my wife is a physician and cared for them.....one other thing darlin'. It's not alcohol "assumption"...it's consumption...


rm_Bct2Esi 51M/50F
1375 posts
1/3/2006 2:04 pm

You are welcome Ptalk,

You know I use to be the same way, don't know when, where or why I changed my mind, but I did. It has brought us closer togather, which to some may seem a little odd, but it did

We have run into some problems with some of the meet and greets in our area, and was asked to post these, come back tomorrow there is one more

hugs and smiles

thanks for stopping by mine


rm_Ptalk1155 34M
3450 posts
1/3/2006 12:54 pm

Can't say I'll ever end up in that lifestyle since I'm insecure enough whereby the thought of my partner having sex with anyone else even with my permission is rather discomforting, but good advice nonetheless.

Thanks for stopping by my blog!


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