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Survivor: Hotmatch edition
Survivor: Hotmatch edition
OK, I pretty much hate reality T.V. shows. But, I must confess to watching and enjoying some seasons of Survivor (haven't been catching this seasons though). I could go into why I like watching the psychology of the game play out, but that isn't the point I want to make. There are aspects to the show that I think would make for a really good adult dating site.
Many of the complaints about Hotmatch and AdultFriendFinder (besides the numerous technical bugs) could be solved or at least reduced by allowing the members to basically kick someone out (voting them off the island). Sure people get booted for violating terms of service or other blatant abuses, but what about the social abusers that make this site so difficult for both sexes.
Men complain about the black holes that are most women’s e-mail.
Women hate all the junk e-mail with cock pics and invites to just fuck.
There are men that just don’t have a clue or, even worse, just like being jerks. There are women that have no intension of meeting anyone on this site and just like to get men’s attentions to boost there ego (hey, look at all those losers filling up my mailbox! I wonder how many I can get next week? begins deleting all messages unopened). Both of these social misfits are making life hard for the other members of their gender and adding misery to the opposite gender (assuming straight people here, I’m not sure if the lesbian, bi, and gay communities have similar issues to deal with, but if they do I’m sure we can fit them in this scheme somehow).
Now I’ve posted in OPB (other people’s blogs) and in some of the advice articles my opinion of women that don’t respond to an e-mail with even a quick reply. I’ve learned to have to deal with such rudeness, but I’m never going to agree to it as acceptable behavior.
Some men get abusive and insulting when turned down, which is one of the lame excuses women have given for not responding to e-mails, but women can at least block the offender and not have to deal with them anymore. The problem is that doesn’t prevent the jerk from doing the same thing to the next woman.
Men getting ignored is the result of the above behavior by other men, the over abundance of men on this site, and the women just ego tripping. What if the women could cast a vote to kick the guy off the board for being a jerk? Collect enough votes and bye-bye. Sure he could set up another account, but he’d have to go all through the creation and acceptance procedure again. And if the profile wasn’t different enough from the original, he’d get spotted and voted off again. After this occurs a time or two, most would either give up or change their ways. Women could be proactive and stop the passive aggressive behavior.
Now with this benefit the excuses for the rude behaviors from women become much less rational. Men that are honestly seeking compatible partners, being polite (unless she’s expressed that she is into something else… don’t want to cut them off), and taking the time to write focused e-mails but still getting completely ignored should now be able to mark women with a vote to go. Women, if you are legitimately getting too many e-mails to even do a quick reply you can always turn off the profile for a while, set up a nice autoreply expressing the reasons for not responding, or in some method indicate that you are not just ignoring the guys. Start getting to many votes, you either adjust your ways or you’re gone too.
Now votes wouldn’t last forever (say a week). And the number of vote require to get dumped would be proportional to the demographic. If it takes 10 votes to dump a man, it would take 100 to get rid of a woman. Those are just wild ass guess numbers.
Just my idea for the day on how to make the online world more fun for the majority.
11/1/2005 10:52 pm
actually sounds like a good idea to me|
S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo.
11/8/2005 6:40 am
me too. i just read back in your blog, and laughed.|