How Lame is That ?  

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7/25/2005 11:35 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

How Lame is That ?

I have been visiting adult dating sites since about 1995 - 96 or so, and the one thing that strikes me as a bit odd is how distant people really are.

I was just watching a girl in Ft. Lauderdale massage her clit and play with her nipples along with 700+ other folks. She was very hot, and it seemed like she was really having a great time. I have to wonder, why is she by herself?

It can't be because she is unattractive, she is very attractive, height weight proportional, nice breasts, yummy pussy, very edible and supremely fuckable. So why is this incredibly hot woman at home,alone, playing with herself on a camera in front of almost a thousand people? There is something truly wrong with this picture.

She isn't the only one. There are thousands more doing the same thing. It seems like most of the people on this site, and most of the other sites I have participated in, are more into the idea of being sexual and swinging than actually being sexual and swinging. Have we become so afraid to actually BE with someone that we hide behind the keyboard and a camera?

I guess a lot of people can't handle the emotional or mental intimacy that accompanies the physical intimacy. Personally, I thought that it was the connection to another human most of us were after really, and the sex is just an excuse to make that connection. I know that a lot of people won't admit it, but my feeling is that they are just too insecure to say so.

What do you think? Are you more comfortable hiding behind technology? Is it just sex you are after, or do you really seek a connection on some other level?

I look forward to your comments.


476 posts
7/27/2005 9:30 am

Waggypolly - I see your photo quite often, I'm flattered that you read my posts so regularly. It's too bad you are in Malaysia, we might have become friends in the real world if you lived a bit closer.

I guess you are saying that we are afraid of being hurt or abused in real life, and that cyber offers a layer of protection. We can be absorbed in our own fantasies and not have to deal with all of the complications that accompany real world relationships.

But without those complications there is no real intimacy, no connection if you will, just the illusion of those things.

I have met just enough women through dating sites that it keeps me hooked. 90% are totally wrong, but that's okay too, 10% are right. It gives me hope that another connection will be made soon, tomorrow, next week, whenever.

I was lured into this thinking that it would be easier than meeting women in the real world, that has not turned out to be the case. Yet I keep hoping that I will connect with someone, several someone's, the one, that will make my life and theirs richer.


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