rm_Angel47389 61F
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11/7/2005 7:51 pm

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Is it possible to find what one is looking for in this life, for example, happiness? Or is that a bill of goods we've unsuspectingly been sold?

Assume for a minute it IS possible to find happiness here on earth. How would one recognize it when it is found, unless to compare it to a time of unhappiness??? And if that is the standard, is it truly happiness that was found, or was it simply that a little less sadness was experienced that day? Who establishes the criteria, and who decides when it is met? The more I think about this, the faster my head swims! If we're all looking for happiness, or insert your own quest here, why is there so little of it around us?

Each day I try to find a way to make a difference. It doesn't have to be a major huge deal, like solving the energy crisis, or bringing about world peace. Good thing, huh? But if I can improve even one person's day, why not do it? Sometimes it's as simple as holding the door for someone whose arms are full. Other times it's giving the $20 I was going to use to buy a new book to read to someone whose need is greater than mine.

The funny thing is, when I reach out to help someone else, I find that my attitude changes. Sometimes it's just a little change, a smile at that moment. Other times, I walk around with a grin on my face the rest of the day. My circumstances haven't changed, and my pocketbook may be $20 lighter, but my outlook changed.

In the moment I chose to put my own interests aside in favor of another person's need, I found happiness. The small act of service I performed was not intended as a part of my search for happiness. But ironically, it became the path.
What path are you on?

rm_Friend2407 66M
1 post
11/11/2005 9:58 am

I am not sure happiness is attainable, contentment yes, happiness; I'm not as sure. Since we live in such a negative world, just look at the first 5 minutes of any newscast, we are overwhelmed with the negativity that surrounds us. It is a continum of one negative event after another sandwiched between the difficulty of surving financially in a world that gives many of the breaks to the wealthy and the leftovers to the rest. One must define personal happiness, maybe it just comes in little doses, working as a crescendo to higher bliss. Being true to self does bring on some happiness, wanting to be the best one can be is another, but if we look for happiness within someone else; that is where the heartbreak and ache flood through. We never should allow unhappiness to be the victor, maybe just look at the little bits of happiness that bring about the smiles, tingles and ohhhh yeah's of life. True happiness mmmmmmmm a big maybe, being contented and pleased with ones self seems to be more attainable.

rm_Angel47389 61F

11/19/2005 6:30 pm

Dear Friend,

Thank you for your comment, and please accept my apology for not responding sooner. It's been an incredibly busy two weeks, and I've barely had time to do the essentials. And those essentials are being pared down daily.

I think you may be onto something in your contentment vs. happiness thought. I know that I cannot look to find MY happiness from another person. No, that is up to me. I believe it was Abraham Lincoln who said, "Most people are about as happy as they make their minds up to be." I totally agree; I have the privilege to make a choice about many things throughout the day. I can chose complain that I don't have enough money to buy a latte today, or I can be happy that I have a dollar and a half in my pocket, a month's salary in some countries.

I could get" whiny," and complain about the dismal state of my social life right now. But I'm a grad student, so school is my current top priority. That means all the homework I have (which curtailed the social life) is necessary for the attainment of my long-term goal. Sometimes it's hard, but I have to take a more mature, delayed-gratification-perspective, and be thankful to be in grad school. This is path I need to be on, to get where I want, no need, to go. I can go kicking and screaming (metaphorically) or I can go with my head up, looking at the incredible sights along the way. My attitude is up to me.

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