In a food Quandry! Oh no!  

rm_Almondnut 42F
318 posts
6/9/2005 10:45 am

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In a food Quandry! Oh no!

Next week I am flying down to LA to attend a "special family event" for my partner. His sister is graduating with a master's degree.

She has arranged a very fancy dinner at the restaurant Chinois (a Wolfgang Puck restaurant).

I'm trying to go vegetarian. This restauant has a menu full of meat. I'm still in the transistion stage to veg. I have not had any meat for about a month, but I have not made the declaration to my family/friends.

This is also not my family. Its his family and tensions are going to be high.

Do I:
A. dont say anything, order what veggie items I see on the menu, and if there is nothing fully veg, order a fish option?

B. Tell them that I've gone Veg and then make the fuss to get a vegan meal? (I can't have dairy, so asking for Vegan is best)

The only problem with option B is that I may fail and eat a bit of fish at some point..then they will see and go "Oh, I thought you were veg. You put up a big fuss at this very expensive restaruant about this and NOW I see you eat a bite of fish. hmmp!"

rm_Rockee1027 48M
4 posts
6/9/2005 11:43 am

I would fall back on science. Tell them you were recently at the doctor for some stomach/female/allergy issues and you're not supposed to eat any meat or fish for awhatever period of time sounds plausible. Hope this helps. Good luck in LA. Be careful driving you can stuck in traffic for hours on that silly highway system.

Random1962 55F

6/9/2005 11:49 am

Try a combination of both A and B. Tell them your Veg and try to order only a vegetable dish, Most restaurants are willing to accomodate you if you let them know in advance. But while I'm here take a look at your teeth, m'dear. Sharp cutting/tearing teeth for ripping into meat, flat grinding molars for vegetable matter. We are OMNIVORS. Don't ever feel guilty if you do eat fish or meat of any kind. Contrary to popular opinion the human body requires meat protein. Not a lot but some. Vegetable protein is good but doesn't fulfill certain diatary needs.

cajunpet 70M
1185 posts
6/9/2005 10:44 pm

I do not think you owe an explanation to anyone. Go and enjoy yourself with whatever they may have on the menu or specify what you would like to have to the waiter in a quite manner. I do not think too many people would notice it anyway.

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nightstogether 56M

6/10/2005 1:27 am

I've been a vegetarian for thirty-two years, and I know just how hard it is to tell people - and have them accept - that you are different!

However, you're going to a restaurant who must have a trained cook in the kitchen. Simply tell the restaurant in advance that you only eat Vegan meals and would appreciate it if they could cater for you. You don't necessarily need to tell the other family anything, but will definitely have to field a lot of questions when your meal arrives.

Stick with it and act as if it is the most natural thing in the world. Don't feel self-conscious; don't feel as if you are putting other people to a lot of unnecessary trouble. Just be yourself.

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redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
6/10/2005 6:36 pm

Great advice guys. I surfed on over to their website....googled Chinois on Main in LA and confirmed what you were saying. I would have imagined in California there would be at least one veggie entree on every menu.....but not on the menu displayed there. But not to worry. Give them a call....they must deal with this regularly and they will tell you how to negotiate it that evening. Enjoy the meal and let us know what you had.

AmberSolaire 42M

6/11/2005 7:46 pm

Opens and shuts mouth in time with redswallow.Damn hes stealing my words again.

If you really want to cause a scene you could always bring a sandwich.

Personally I would go with calling ahead.But make sure if you do arrange something to double check on the day of the meal.Hope it all goes well.

rm_Almondnut 42F
115 posts
6/13/2005 6:07 pm

Well, I emailed them and no response yet. I may just have to call them tomorrow.

As for the "look at your teeth comment"....well, I was not asking anyone's opinion as to wether they agreed with my choice or not. I wonder why meat eaters constantly try to convince me to eat meat? I had this happen at a party this weekend. Some dude realized that I had asked for a vegan pasta salad and decided it was his duty to try to convince me that I had to eat meat. WTF? I don't try to tell them that they should not be eating meat as its not really my business what others decide to eat...and vice versa.

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
6/13/2005 6:15 pm

"Oh, I thought you were veg. You put up a big fuss at this very expensive restaruant about this and NOW I see you eat a bite of fish. hmmp!"

Unimportant. Just be honest. To yourself and to those you come into contact with.

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