The hot fudge sundae theory  

rm_Alex74_FL 42M
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2/26/2006 10:52 am

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The hot fudge sundae theory

What is going on with women these days. I must be abit disconnected, because I thought women enjoyed someone that had endurance and stamina for a reason. That reason being to enjoy the sex before the orgasm. Now I'm not trying to say that I have stamina and endurance although I do like to think I have a certain amount of self control, enough to satisfy most.

These days it seems more women are just looking for the orgasm as quickly as they can get it. Wham, bam, thank you Sam. I do understand that in certain situations that 'quickie' is a great stress reliever, and necessary but those should be the exception and not the rule.

Ever ordered a hot fudge sundae? You generally get a nice cherry on top, well the orgasm is that cherry and it seems women who order a sundae just like to eat the cherry and leave the rest of the sundae there to go to waste. Do they not like the ice cream, hot fudge or other ingredients? I'd prefer to think they do. If you get a sundae, the idea is to slowly savor each bite of the sundae allowing the cherry to slowly sink through the layers and add flavor as it makes it way to the bottom, it is through this process that you truly begin to look forward to that final morsel but getting to the cherry isn't a race, even when your tempted to rush to it, a little bit of delayed gratification will pay big dividends in the end. That cherry should be the last bite to be enjoyed, this process is not something to be rushed, as good as that cherry might be, enjoying a sundae should not be just about that damn cherry, it's the whole of it that matters. By delaying that moment until the end, that feeling that builds up over the course of the night can be just as enjoyable as the final moment.

I know that is a silly analogy, but it's the only thing that came to mind as I thought about this. It fits in with my general philosophy. Sex should not be rushed, and as good as that final orgasm may be, it's the process, it's the middle part that is really the big part of sex, it's the sex itself, that intermingling of flavores that should be savored slowly, that should be felt through and through, each stroke, each bite, each hold, each tug of the hair or otherwise. One moment at a time. When you truly let go and enjoy each other there will come a moment when you've used the sex to its fullest and finally reach that time when you can enjoy the cherry, that final orgasm, that exquisite moment when all else is consumed and exhausted, then and only then is when you reach down and pick that cherry out of the bottom of the glass. Although this culmination should be a part of sex, that is not the bulk, the body of what sex should be. There is so much more to be enjoyed when you slow down and enjoy the ensemble of ingredients. The sundae is not JUST about the ice cream, hot fudge, whip cream, or cherry individually. It is the final product not the ingredients that make it so enjoyable. Even though you may enjoy each ingredient seperately during it's consumption, it's the whole thing that gives the greatest pleasure.

It seems that all I have to do is give a woman a cherry and I can forgoe the whole sundae thing. It's truly a shame. This is not the way I would like it to be. Apparently my views are not all that appreciated by those of the opposite sex, as I find myself continuously retraining someone midstream to the reality of what sex should be, or how I view it anyway. Perhaps I'm too relaxed and stress free compared to others, but I'd have it no other way.

I prefer to appreciate a moment for what it is, each breathe, each flavor in a slowly chewed bite of food, enjoy the journey more than the final destination. It increases the pleasure in my day to day life and makes me look forward to each moment, no matter how mundane, that moment is unique and enjoyable.

The ramblings of a madman.

softnlush 53F

2/26/2006 5:19 pm

Personally I agree with this assessment..unfortunalty for me,it seems I meet men who prefer just the cherry as well..I miss the prolonged buildup that makes for wonderful sex. I have not had that in a very long time..although recently I did experience something close to it but still not quite there.

Although I am fully appreciative of a man who is so happy to see me that he must have me the second he walks into my apartment (which is basically what I have now with the gentleman I am seeing),it is can be nasty (in a good way) but it rarely lasts long enough for me to feel like I am satisfied 100%..I almost always end up in bed wishing I had him longer inside me..or longer outside me in actuality..but because our time is so spread apart and he is backed up from lack of sex,it almost always is rushed,he gets his orgasm..I get my protein shake or my skin lotion *laughs* and I am left wanting more..what happened to the art of making love? The slowness of feeling good and making that moment last? Why do most men think if he goes straight to the clit that is what it is all about? I will never understand it.

Now stress relievers..well I am all for a quickie..but not for stress relief..I like them in places where sex would be taboo..the parking garage during a lunch break,the stairwell during a break..the bathroom during a date because we were kissing and cannot wait for the long ride home..those are fun and exciting and I am all for it..but I still want the slow,soft,caresses,the long,deep kisses,the stroke lightly of his finger on a part of my body,his eyes all over me,his lips following his eyes,make me want more,tease me,drive me to the point and stop..enjoy the the cherry for last..the very last,and even then,chew it slowly..mmmmmm..perrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrfect..will it happen? I hope,I gotta train my man is day,it will be slow and easy..pray for me Alex *giggles*

AltumHunksUnite 53M

2/26/2006 7:38 pm

Hey man, welcome to Blogville!

Let me drive. I like the view

rm_Alex74_FL 42M
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3/1/2006 9:40 pm

Thanks Cleavis, glad to be here.

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