Isn't this the place for people who like sexuality?  

rm_ALittleBad3 56M
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10/17/2005 12:02 pm

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Isn't this the place for people who like sexuality?

Well, I did meet my first person off of AdultFriendFinder. Of course, I won't mention any names... LOL

It was actually a very wonderful weekend from the standpoint that I liked her a lot and think she is just a wonderful person, but once again, I kind of have to scratch my head and wonder about the situation in general.

You see I came to AdultFriendFinder from the more traditional dating sites because I was finding the women I met on the traditional sites to be a bit timid and not really that open with their sexuality and I was having problems finding women who did like to be sexual nearly as often as me. I’m not just talking about screwing all the time, but all the little things a couple can do to let the other one know that they desire them and want to show it… the little teasing, playing around kind of things…. And of course when the time permits and you do make love, then by all means, let’s really get into it and enjoy each other’s pleasures in a fashion where our bodies and minds really do connect and we go to that other level that only two people wanting to share that kind of intimacy can do!

OK, so I meet this woman in a very romantic setting, tucked away into the hillside of a small tourist type of town. It seemed to me that we did hit it off very well in every way except I left there a bit sexually frustrated. We did have sex the first night but it isn’t what I’d call the type of love making where it was obvious that both people wanted to be there and where things just flowed like that. It was more like she wasn’t comfortable enough to let her self go. I have of course run across this in my dating life with women I have met from the traditional dating sites… seems a lot of women just aren’t their selves a lot of times with their first sexual encounter with someone new, so that really didn’t worry me much at first because I figured it would be better as time went on. But as the weekend progressed, things didn’t get better, although we did seem to get along great and could talk about anything, it was clear that she just wasn’t looking to be sexual. My little teasing type of advances went almost unnoticed by her. I was wondering if maybe she just didn’t really want to be with me because of her lack of wanting to be a little sexual toward each other, and because of that, I did give her several options to easily get out of the rest of the weekend with me, but she didn’t take me up on that, quite the opposite, instead I went home with her the next night. But still all that day, and that evening, it was clear that this was just not going to be one of those hot and sexy type of things… it was more like we were just close friends. We would kiss, hold hands and that kind of thing, but anytime I would show any kind of interest in anything of a sexual nature, it seemed to just go unnoticed and there certainly weren’t any indications from her that there was an interest there. Well the evening pretty much ended with us lying down on her bed to watch a movie. We did initially start to cuddle and I was caressing her and she seemed to like that a lot, but still no indications coming back from her that we were heading in any kind of sexual direction, and of course, I’d never push my self on anyone. Well within 10 minutes of lying down to watch the movie, she was snoring and that’s the way I ended up going to sleep on our second night. I wake up about 3:30 or 4:00 that morning, and here I am lying next to a beautiful woman that I’d just love to be passionate and sexual with, and she doesn’t even seem to notice I’m there. Because of my disappointment and my sexual frustration, I know I won’t be able to sleep any more anyway, so I get up and start getting ready to leave. I had a 4.5 hour drive to make, so I figured I’d get on the road. Well, she woke up and was trying to talk me into staying, said she wanted to cuddle with me some more… notice the word cuddle… not I want to make love, or any indication like that, simply that she wanted to cuddle and that’s why she wanted me to stay. Well as frustrated as I was, I knew there was no sense in staying because we weren’t looking for the same thing in a relationship anyway, so I did go on home. I did write her an email and tried my best to explain that I was a very sexual person and really need that in any relationship I’m in and since her and I obviously weren’t on the same page with that aspect, it appears we can only be friends, and not lovers.

I know some will say that maybe she just didn’t have a good connection with me and that’s why it wasn’t more of a sexual type of weekend, but I really don’t think that was it, I’m fairly certain the connection was a pretty good one, I seriously think that what was more important to her was the friendship type connection and the holding hands and cuddling type of things…. And don’t get me wrong, I like those things in a relationship to, but not at the expense of doing away with the sexual part of things… LOL

But I have to ask, if sexuality isn’t that important to her, then why choose AdultFriendFinder as your means to meet people. There are 100’s of traditional dating sites where it might be more appropriate to try to find a love connection if the sexuality part isn’t that important to you. The only reason that I am on AdultFriendFinder is because the sexual part of a relationship is very important to me, and I was thinking given the fact that it is a sexually oriented site, I’d have a lot easier time finding a woman where it was also important to her… well, this is strike one from that standpoint… and I’m hoping like hell this isn’t the typical thing where I’m going to meet a lot of people where it isn’t that important to them. I know I must sound pretty bad, like I’m putting all the emphasis on the sexual part, but I’m really not, I’m just saying, yes, I do want sexuality to be a part of it, not all of it, but and important part…. To me the mental, emotional, and physical parts are of equal importance in a relationship, and I don’t want one without the others.

So to sum up, I’d like to know if there are other women on here where the sexual part of the relationship isn’t that important to you, then why are you choosing this sexually oriented site as your means to meet people? And of course, since it clear that I don’t fully understand women, if you think you see this whole situation differently than I have, then by all means enlighten me as to what was really going on… LOL

And last, but not least, if this is someone who is actually interested in getting to know me and would possibly want to meet some time, please be sure that you also want a relationship where the sexuality between two people is an important part of the relationship for you!


wendy412 52F

10/17/2005 3:15 pm

I completely and totally agree with you Bob

crazygurl2xx 57F

12/15/2005 5:18 pm

ok, bob, wrong post, but the last ones got me to thinking... how do i access your member cam? i wanna watch you! i wanna look at you and see if you are anyhting i want to wrap my hands around! i already like your personality.

moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
1/6/2006 9:00 am sounded as if this girl lacked could she fall asleep when she had someone like you to play with?


moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
1/6/2006 9:02 am

Bob...sounds like this girl lacked could she fall asleep when she had someone like you to play with?


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