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Tales of the ex-psycho...
Tales of the ex-psycho...
This is what's "chapping my ass" this week...
I didn't tell you all that my ex-psycho left me a HORRIBLE message on my phone on new years. He waited until 12:09 am and called my phone and said the most vulgar, dispickable things he could think of to say to me. All I could do was laugh about it. In my head, I thought, hmmm...at 12:09 he was thinking of nothing other than calling me, he'd waited for it, wanted to make it the first thing he did this year. Well, at the same time, he was the farthest thing from my mind. So all I could do was laugh at his message. What a waste of time and energy. I don't care what he says to me or about me anymore. I've told him that it doesn't matter how many times he tries to interfere in my life I'm never ever going to be with him again. So, his phone call didn't phase me at all, didn't surprise me either.
So, this morning, he calls me and apologizes for the call. What the *&%#? I just let him say whatever he was going to say, I told him OK, and asked if he needed something, he said no, so I hung up the phone. Was that wrong? Should I have forgiven him? Usually I'm the first one to say forgive and forget, but how many times do you forgive someone before you just say forget it. I don't want to forgive this time, I saved the message so that if I do start to feel a little soft hearted I can listen to it and remind myself (again) of how much of an ass he's been.
Now, I've been accused in the past of being a "man basher" when I post something about my ex, so let me assure you that I in no way provoked this phone call, I hadn't even spoken to him in the 2 weeks prior to the call. So, I'm not bashing, I'm just venting. It just bothers me that someone could be so dumb, and childish.
1/4/2006 6:31 am
when it's over, it's over.|
sounds like you handled it pretty well including letting him call you back.
mmmm......suspect you may have something your not dealing with still if you saved the new years message.
1/4/2006 7:04 am
I guess we all have our moments... and that being said, I think you did him a bigger favor by NOT forgiving him and at the same time acting controlled and very adult, rather than the other way around.|
Why? Because it'll make him think deeper next time he's in a relationship, rather than think he can do or say whatever he wants and be forgiven later...
I did something that finally helped me let go of my "ex". I read it in a "Psychology" book.
First, write down all the bad things I could think about them for twenty minutes on a piece of paper,
than walk away to cool down or chill for the rest of the day.
Later, when you're not upset or pissed anymore, read that paper, tell yourself goodbye to all the things on that paper because feeling that way doesn't help anyone, especially you,
and burn it.
Watch it burn till every little bit of paper is ashe, than dispose of it and walk away and swear you'll never look back...
I was surprised, it actually works...
1/4/2006 7:41 am
Good job of handling it. Next step: call blocking or new phone number, maybe then he will get "the message".|
Vent and bash all you want, that helps your sanity.
1/4/2006 7:48 am
I realize I don't know you (or your situation),but I believe I may have a little insight.
What's 'Chapping your ass' may be a blessing. Maybe it's a sign of your growth by not playing his game anymore (I'm speculating)
"The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them." - Einstein
Focus your energy on the positive in your life - and count your blessings