Social standards...  

rm_36specialk 48F
731 posts
3/14/2006 7:06 pm

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Social standards...

I posted a few days ago that it bothered me that I hadn't met any of Mr.X's friends, so in typical SpecialK fashion, I hosted a BarBQue at my home and invited some of my friends and my Mr.X. We had a good time, everyone laughing and having fun. I think that my friends may have been just as curious about him as he was of them. At one point, one of my friends asked Mr.X what he loved about me, and in typical Mr.X fashion, he laughed and said " who said I loved anything about her?" I just giggled, I knew that he was going to make it clear that he wouldn't play her game.

My friends are very protective of me, and very opinionated about who I see. And, by the nights end, I'd received a phone call from another friend that didn't attend my little BBQ, to tell me that he'd heard that my Mr.X was very nice, and to tell me that he was happy that I'd made a good choice this time. I guess news travel's fast.

Anyway...I think that Mr.X wanted to see how I act around my friends as compared to the way I act around him alone. I think I act pretty much the same, I could be wrong, I don't know. I don't consciously try to act a different way around different people.

But I have noticed a trend in a couple of my other friends, they do act differently when they're in different social settings. I have one friend that when we're alone, she's very sweet, kind, a pleasure to be around, but in a more social atmosphere, she's very flirty, and seems like she's being competitive with me for other people's attention. I don't compete, I just let her do her thing, I don't have any reason to compete, but I just think it's funny.

So, do you act differently in different social settings? Do you realize you're doing it?

firestarter665 42M/39F

3/14/2006 7:24 pm

It all depends on who is there at the setting, but yes sometimes I do act differently. I know that I am doing it, but it is mostly for my husband's benifit.

ticktock500 43M

3/14/2006 7:24 pm

i usually have to do it on purpose
(i'm a dirty, dirty boy with a foul mouth and a tendency to be totally inapproriate, so i have to be on good behavior more often than not.)

stainlesssteel13 61M

3/14/2006 7:33 pm

"So, do you act differently in different social settings? Do you realize you're doing it?"

I am sure I do and every other human on the planet does. Sometimes I realize it sometimes I don't. One of the easiest ones to recognize is how you act at work in contrast to at a party. Or even more extreme, how you act at a funeral. There is nothing wrong with acting different in different situations, behavior that is appropriate in one situation is not necessarily appropriate in another.

angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
3/14/2006 7:55 pm

I think I always act myself. But I more formal settings....I am on my best behavior. But I love to laugh. And I love to make others laugh. So...there has to be laughter.

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
3/15/2006 3:53 am

I think we all act a bit differently depending on the setting and situation. Those who are totally comfortable with themselves may not seem to change. But those who may be a bit more introspective or reserved, may take a time to warm up to a different crowd or situation. And, of course, there are those who just flirt

Hugs, C

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