I got it all wrong...  

rm_36specialk 48F
731 posts
1/16/2006 9:15 am

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I got it all wrong...

I can feel my face turning red, I'm getting more pissed by the moment. A friend of mine is sitting in the dining room here at the restaurant, waiting for a young girl to call him. He's meeting her so he can pay to have her car detailed. Now, mind you, this wouldn't bother me if they were truely friends, or dating, or something but they aren't. She's just taking advantage of a situation. She's early 20 something, and he's 50 something. He told me that she called him on Friday and had him come to a bar that she was at with a friend, and had him pay for her tab and their dinner, he said it was around $60.00. She isn't returning any favors, no romantic undertones to their meetings, I know both of these people very very well. She's just taking advantage of his need for companionship. I've told him on numerous occasions that if he just needs company or someone to talk to, call me or come see me. No need to pay one of the waitresses to keep him company. I know, I know, people pay for companionship everyday, but this is absolutely crazy. He leaves them $50.00 tips for $8.00 lunches. All in hopes that one of them will go out with him. He wants a relationship, but doesn't have the mental capacity to develop one or know what one is. (I'd compare him to Forrest Gump as far as mentality goes). And, I've known about these girls taking advantage of him for years and I've tried and tried for all of these years to tell him that they're taking advantage of him and to stop giving them money, but he just won't listen to me. So, I place the blame of my agrivated state on the girls that are taking advantage. They know better. They know I hate it and they hide it from me. I'm very oppinionated, in case you hadn't noticed, about women taking advantage of a situation for financial gain. I think that it gives women in general a bad when a select few women think that men are suppose to buy them things and take care of them. Another younger girl that works for me made a comment the other day...We were talking about my plans for the weekend (I was going to see Mr.X) and she commented that she wanted a boyfriend. I asked her why, and her response was, "so he can buy me things". Well, for fucks sake, I didn't know that's what a boyfriend is for!!! I thought that a boyfriend was suppose to be someone to love and cherrish, and build a relationship with hmmmm, I guess I must have gotten it all wrong!!

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
1/16/2006 1:18 pm

There are those who take take take; and those that give give give. Both types thrive (in my opinion) on the pleasure from the respective receiving or giving. I imagine, if a taker and a giver get together, and things are financially and emotionally secure, they can be happy and contented. And I'm sure 2 givers will do fine; except trying to outdo the other maybe. Two takers probably don't last too long if they ever do hook up.

But I think, that a sharing of responsibilities, emotions, trials and tribulations, and pleasures equally or as close as possible leads to a better and more lasting relationship.

Most of us want to please someone. It's that right someone that can be the problem or question.

Hmmm...was that too rambling K??

TzarsAmuseChant 41M
2854 posts
1/16/2006 10:42 pm

Jill had a smile that enraptured,
that topped a killer figure.
Jack didn't see he'd been captured
by a worthless gold digger.

Jane had a man who had not a dime,
but John was rich in love and laughter.
They always had a terrific time
and lived happily ever after.

justaguy21357 59M

1/19/2006 7:09 am

no! you did not get it wrong.

sorry to say that some people will do nearly anything to get some attention. maybe they are lonely. sad. depressed. hard to say. one thing is for sure....they are human.

...and the people you see "taking advantage" ...are also human. each has needs, desires. in some cases they fullfill each others needs & desires.

hard as it may be for us to understand this, it is part of life. learn and be wise to it. do not make the same mistakes in your life nor act in such a way.

best wishes in the new year



Mmphmm 45M
592 posts
1/24/2006 11:05 am

I've known that for ages K... and your older than me LoL!

Opinionated..... YOU! ...... I'd never have guessed babes!

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