Are we more desperate as we get older?...  

rm_36specialk 48F
731 posts
3/12/2006 11:13 am

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Are we more desperate as we get older?...

There's an older gentleman that comes into my restaurant every Sunday, he's quite a character. Most weeks he comes in with a different "lady friend", or so he calls them. Now, this man isn't that old, probably mid 60's or so, but he has been on a bit of a quest it seems. He's been on a quest for love. I've seen him bring in a different lady every week for the past year or so at least, and this week the woman that he brought in was no different than the rest, as far as looks go, she was older, probably mid 60's, dressed modestly, hair done up fresh from the salon. But, when he called me over to meet her, she immediately showed me this engagement ring that was beyond beautiful. It had 2 half carot diamonds and a center diamond of at least a carot. He says to me that he'd finally found the right one.

Now, I'm not saying that he's not in love with her or she's not in love with him, but what I really want to know is this...Can you truely find love within a week or do we just get more desperate for love as we get older?

When we're young, it seems that we're extremely selective about who we date or spend our time with. But I see older people all the time getting married after knowing someone just a few weeks. I see it all the time. They meet at a church function, or a club function, and they are married by the season's end. Do older people just see things differently than younger people? I know that all of their circumstances can't be the same that being married is the most logical thing for them to do, so why do they do it?

Are their moral standards that different than younger people? Do they believe that they need to be married to have a sexual relationship? That seems very old fashioned to me, but are they afraid that people will frown on them for living together or just dating for a while?

Now, I know that there are a lot of people out there that get married for the wrong reasons, young, old, and everywhere inbetween. But, I've been noticing this trend lately and I've just been wondering why.

Anyway, what are your thoughts on the subject?

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
3/12/2006 11:52 am

I think you can find love anytime!

Purry {=}


rm_titsandtires 51M/41F
3656 posts
3/12/2006 1:27 pm

Don't confuse being desperate with having no fear of being spontaneous. I think that there is a fine line between the two, both usually result in short lived relationships.

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
3/13/2006 7:04 am

I think it is possible to find love in a short time K. Whether it's practical, and who's defining "love" may be a harder question. Alot of times, lust is mistaken for love. The physical (and emotional) satisfaction we get from some individuals, make us forget the actual time frame. How long it lasts in the long term is where the actual relationship comes into play.

Regarding your customer, it may seem like it was a quick romance, as he was bringing a different friend to breakfast every week. But, he might have known this lady for some time, and just never brought her to Sunday breakfast (or maybe didn't see her on the weekends) before for some reasoning only known to him. You'll have to see if you can find out how long they've actually known each other, if he brings 'her' back next Sunday

Hugs, C

PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
3/13/2006 10:40 am

Well... I used to think that two years of dating was enough to know if I wanted a relationship to move into permanence, but the older I get the shorter my time frame gets.

I imagine it's that way for him, age has the advantage of making you a better judge of personality. And he may have known her a long time, as Cor says, perhaps he was just sowing the last few wild oats he had lying around

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

HeardLankaMalls 55M
2925 posts
3/15/2006 3:56 am

Hmmm....kinda scary if I'm a voice of reason, isn't it?
But thanks for the compliment K
Hugs, C

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