Bi-sexual , bi-curious, or bi-comfortable ?  

rish_with_me 51M
3 posts
4/2/2005 2:08 pm

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Bi-sexual , bi-curious, or bi-comfortable ?

Here are my thoughts on the bi side of things.

A year ago, when I started looking for swinging partners, I was solidly straight. No question about it.

But as I chatted and e-mailed people from this site, I began to wonder. After all, I was interested in exploring new sensations and experiences. And if the whole idea of meeting with people was to share pleasure in each other's bodies, what was the difference between giving or receiving from a man or a woman?

So after getting messages from a couple with a bi-curious male, I decided to embrace that and changed my profile to bi-curious. I exchanged IMs and e-mails discussing it, but never actually met anyone.

When I met with a couple for my first threesome, it was with the understanding that this was his fantasy. He wanted to explore his bi-curious side, and his wife was thier to share in that. She was to serve as the catalyst that would allow us to be comfortable in our bi-sexual play. After all, how can you condider your self gay if there is a beautiful woman in bed with you too?

After two meetings, both of us were comfotable with our bi contacts and enjoyed pleasing and being pleased by each other. We discussed being bi-sexual and came to the following conclusion.

To me, the term bi-sexual implies having the same feelings and desire for a member of the same sex as you do for a member of the opposite sex. Whatever you like to do with a woman, you would like to do with a man. I do not consider myself bi-sexual. As my first bi-partner put it, "I don't want to cuddle up on the couch with you and eat popcorn."

That lead me to coin the term bi-comfortable. I am comfortable with bi contact of a sexual nature. If it feels good, do it. No kissing or cuddling. No cute terms of endearment.

And this is not a huge part of my sexual self. I also enjoy heterosexual realtionships too. I think too many men (and women) are scared by the terms bi-curious and bi-sexual. They think that a man who is willing to explore his bi side might be a threat to them as a straight male. As if I wouldn't accept that choice and try to force it on them. No means no.

I love pussy as much as any guy. Bi play is just another pleasure to experince, like anal sex. Some people enjoy it and some don't. Just because you don't doesn't mean that you can't enjoy other pleasures with someone who does.

Be open minded about it people. And as always, ask questions and discuss. The more we know about each other, the better friends and lovers we become.


hereforyou6217 43M
912 posts
4/2/2005 8:22 pm

Wow. Great entry. I agree one hundred percent, and I love the term "bi-comfortable". When I read, "'I don't want to cuddle up on the couch with you and eat popcorn'", I smiled in total recognition. I just like the idea of the free giving and receiving of pleasure. I personally consider myself straight, even though I don't mind giving or receiving oral pleasure to another guy. So this entry really rang true to me. Thanks.

rm_jjtours2 59M/54F
6 posts
4/3/2005 5:14 pm

clad you found someone on here we have been looking with no luck but we wont give up

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