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It's never over, my kingdom for a kiss upon her shoulder
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Groovy Gals Guest Book
Posted:Sep 23, 2007 9:59 am
Last Updated:Oct 4, 2014 10:37 am
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Time I got myself one of these babies

Lots of wonderful folks out there in Blogland and I am ever so grateful that all you lovely ladies and gentlemen take the time to visit my site and see what I have to say.It is lovely to see such warm and friendly folks on AdultFriendFinder and I have made many friends here on the blogs lately which really warms my heart. The love that you folks have shown me that the world is a much better place than I thought.

You know I'd love to hear what you good people have to say in return.So why not check in after you've checked this blog out.

Don't be shy.Just say hi.

I'd love to hear from you.

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Slim Whitman Yodelled it Best...
Posted:Jan 28, 2008 2:59 am
Last Updated:Jul 15, 2009 7:43 am
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It will soon be my 150th blog. I seem to have missed my 100th by accident. It is customary on this site to make special blog posts at landmark points. However I do not have a clue what kind of post to make.

I am asking your help dear friends. What kind of blog would you like to see for my 150th?

Many thanks for your suggestions.

Sadly I am drawing ever closer to the 150th blog post with still no idea what to post. I am really feeling like either I let it pass with just the usual crap I post or I stop blogging.If I slow down much more for lack of inspiration, I will lose all you lovely readers and watchers. Help!

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LMFAOOOOOOOOOOO
Posted:Jul 13, 2009 6:17 am
Last Updated:Nov 28, 2014 10:56 am
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I am meant to be jealous of someone on here. I have a partner I have been with for many years and love very much while she just got dumped by someone who already had a partner who she met up with once a week in a hotel to fuck.

And she so boasts about I will neva drive to a man, he has to drive to me.. I will neva have one that isn't single afta wot happened last time with a married man from here..Now she's brokenhearted. Hilarious. It's a sex site - if you meet as fuckbuddies someone who is separated, then when they go back to the person who let them go see you once a week in a seedy hotel room raming chocolate bars up yer minge, don't be so surprised..

Too funny. My rich life filled with work, a social life, real friends and a loving partner is meant to lead me to be envious of someone who has fuck buddies who belong to someone else, works in a shop and has cyber friends and hangs out on a chat room and blogging about the dull minutiae of her sad little life.

Wot eva.. as the illiterate middleaged bag says..
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Googlewhack!!
Posted:Jun 11, 2008 10:58 am
Last Updated:Jul 30, 2014 2:18 am
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Round robin emails are great aren't they. Take a look at this one which one of my fellow bloggers is passing off as her own work.

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror who looks like my father!), but I don't agonize over those things for long.

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend.

I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon?

I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 50's, 60's & 70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet dies?

But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day. if I feel like it.

So many people I see have been taken in by this bloggers "words of wisdom". It has wit and intelligence and patently doesn't fit in with the rest of the posts on that blog.
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Like A Candle In The Night
Posted:May 17, 2008 3:41 pm
Last Updated:Sep 4, 2009 4:29 am
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A true soulmate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to you own attention so you can change your life.

A true soulmate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.Soulmates they come into your life to reveal another layer of yourself to you.Their purpose is to shake you up, drive you out of what you need to leave behind,tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control you had to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master.

I first encountered mine abut 4 years or so ago. In the end I found that they taught me the valuable lesson of my total lack of worth but they can be good for you as I found out all of the above. I discovered myself through my soulmate and that is something I will never forget.

Send them love and light every time you think about them. God will rush in and fill you with more love than you ever dreamed.

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The C Word
Posted:Apr 27, 2008 11:45 am
Last Updated:Aug 8, 2011 10:31 am
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Compassion is something the world could use a whole lot more of especially in this place. I have always been interested in the study of compassion and was in fact attracted to my American ex soulmate partly due to his handle which evoked the word.

The Dalai Lama who is one of the greatest hero figures in my life practises compassion daily and on an most remarkable scale.He speaks thus "Compassion compels us to reach out to all living beings, including our so-called enemies, those people who upset or hurt us. Irrespective of what they do to you, if you remember that all beings like you are only trying to be happy, you will find it much easier to develop compassion towards them. Usually your sense of compassion is limited and biased. We extend such feelings only towards our family and friends or those who are helpful to us. People we perceive as enemies and others to whom we are indifferent are excluded from our concern. That is not genuine compassion. True compassion is universal in scope. It is accompanied by a feeling of responsibility. To act altruistically, concerned only for the welfare of others, with no selfish or ulterior motives, is to affirm a sense of universal responsibility."

I have recently taken up the practise of compassion meditation once more in response to the state of today's society. It involves silently repeating certain phrases that express the intention to move from judgement to caring, from isolation to connection, from indifference or dislike to understanding.The power is in the wholehearted gathering of attention and energy and concentrating on each phrase.You can begin in small doses and increase time gradually.if your mind wanders, just let go of the thought and return to the phrases.

To begin take a comfortable position and a few deep soft breaths to let your body settle.Close your eyes and think of someone you already care about. Visualize this person or say their name, get a feeling for their presence and silently offer phrases of compassion to them.After a few minutes shift your attention inward and offer those phrases to yourself eg "May I be free of pain and sorrow. May I be well and happy."

Then move on to someone you find difficult. Get a feeling for their presence and offer the phrases of compassion to them.The turn to someone you've barely met, perhaps someone you see during your every day routine and offer them the compassionate phrases/

Close by offering compassion to people everywhere, all forms of life, without limitations and without exception."May all beings be free of pain and sorrow. May all be well and happy".

It is in compassion that greater and deeper understanding is born.

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I wish you all peace, happiness, comfort and love.


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Tread Carefully
Posted:Apr 14, 2008 5:21 am
Last Updated:Feb 27, 2014 2:28 am
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Today I am examining my eco footprint. I have just finished a book by a top English Science journalist Fred Pearce entitled "Confessions Of An Eco Sinner" in which the author sets off across the world to find out as he puts it "where his stuff comes from".He travels from rainforest to desert, from sweatshops to mines in search of all the people who ever grew, mined or manufactures the goods he buys and owns.

He provides us with some startling statistics for example the following regarding T shirts. "Britain imports almost half a billion tshirts each year. About 8 each.They often cost little more than the price of a beer. Yet to make the cotton for the average 250gram tshirt requires 80grams of fertilizer,3 grams of active ingredient in pesticides and between 2000 and 7000 litres of water or upwards of 30 bathtubsfull for just one tshirt."

I consider myself to be rather green. I don't drive or fly, I have always used hankies and frequented 2nd hand/charity/vintage stores, washed at a lower temperature, eaten locally sourced food and used all leftovers, not bought anything that wasn't essential, taken my own bags to shops long before it was fashionable, used natural cleaning products etc.I never buy from stores such as H & M who use sweatshop labour to produce cheap low quality goods.Yet I am sure there is a lot more that I can do to help conserve the planet's resources.

Look at what you can do to save the planet and improve the quality of life for every inhabitant.

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What do you do that makes you environmentally friendly?
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S.C.U.M.
Posted:Mar 30, 2008 7:25 am
Last Updated:Mar 24, 2012 10:59 am
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The radical feminist Valerie Solanas in 1968 published the SCUM Manifesto. SCUM stood for the Society for Cutting Up Men and advocated a violent revolution to create an all female society. In her writings Mz Solanas asserted that males are inherently inferior to females and the "The male is a biological accident: the y(male) chromosome is an incomplete x (female) chromosome, that is, has an incomplete set of chromosomes. In other words, the male is an incomplete female, a walking abortion, aborted at the gene stage. To be male is to be deficient, emotionally limited; maleness is a deficiency disease and males are emotional cripples." I am beginning to contemplate whether she was right.In the last week I have had not one but three experiences with males which seriously make me wonder about their inner natures and characters.

Firstly in the middle of last week I discovered that the last guy I had a meet with from here has a testimonial on his profile. Upon reading it I began to wonder if I had actually met the same man and thus I contacted the lady who placed it to ascertain if I had been party to some scam run by a group of males sharing the same profile. Luckily myself and the other lady had not and she found the chap to be the same as I did.I have already outlined my experiences with him on this blog. Basically the guy was in effect a compulsive liar and nothing but a spoilt little boy as the other lady confirmed.

In his profile he describes himself as attractive and well mannered man who knows how to respect women. In person he treats them with nothing but selfishness and disrespect.He works in pr - translation he puts ads out for a local minor scale rave.His "delighful country cottage" is a rundown dirty terraced home just off a main road.His description of himself is by far the biggest lie - not only does he have a photo that is what sadly appears to be the AdultFriendFinder standard of 10 years out of date, he calls himself fashionable and well dressed with designer taste. The guy turned up in dirty jeans, a jacket that must have come from a charity shop via someones gardening outfit and shoes that your average would turn down for being tatty.His height was about 4 inches less than stated and for athletic body type read scrawny - even for MY tastes. I am by no means a well bult or tall lady but I felt I totally overpowered him. My experiences with him as I have said before totally put me off men and dating for life.

Then the HR Manager for my new company to be treated me like complete shit putting me under totally unworkable deadlines and being totally unreasonable with me to the point now that I am not sure if I still wish to take up the job offer.His manner is rude and harsh and he talks down to me as if I am ignorant.It was a very good prospect but if as my friends have told me,they are going to be that unreasonable and difficult with you before you have even started work for them, they will no doubt be unbearable to work for.

Then while out on a day trip to the football yesterday I witnessed an incredibly large amount of despicable male behaviour.First of all drunken males on the train making the trip a complete nightmare, then there was an incident when it "all kicked off" as they say when leaving the ground, and to top it all I was robbed. As I do not have a lot of spare money to flash about, I try to go to supermarkets and take my own food to game and on any long trips. While relaxing on the train travelling home, I noticed that the of one of our group and his yobbo friend had reached into my bag and taken every scrap of food I had in there for myself and my flatmate's consumption - sandwich,3 bags of crisps etc. Now I know they didn't just grab the crisps from the top of the bag as they had a cereal bar that was right at the bottom beneath everything else, hence they must have had a real good delve in there. The lads were very very drunk but to my mind that is NO excuse for that type of behaviour. I have known one of the lads and his family - father, mother, & -for 10 years as a close member of our social circle and they are fully aware that I am hardly a millionaire or yuppie.To steal from one of your own and a long standing family friend is absolutely reprehensible and I will no longer be associating with that family until I get both an apology and adequate financial compensation.

So there we have it - the behaviour of todays males.

1 - compulsively lying and disrespecting women.
2 - treating prospective employees who you have been dying to secure the services of since the start of the year like dirt.
3 - being drunken and aggressive and stealing from people you are not only close to but who you know cannot afford to lose what you take.

Is it any wonder I have given up on men for life?

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Underwater Moonlight
Posted:Mar 18, 2008 4:18 pm
Last Updated:Jul 30, 2014 2:19 am
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Well a few bits and bobs have happened since I last blogged.Went for a night on the tiles in London. I only meant to go for a coupla drinks after shopping but I got talking to a nice girl who had just split from her partner. She was waiting for her friend to leave work at a convention at Heathrow but her friend didn't show. I felt really bad for her - she really should have had her friend by her side so I kept her company for a while until we both decided to go home.Made me realise just what great friends I have in my life. I have seen them through painful breakups no matter what was happening in my own life at the time and I have no doubt that they would also be there for me in return.

Sunday we played Everton and managed to claw ourselves a victory. Still don't think it will be enough for us to stay in the Premier League tho but great to win all the same.It always gives me a lovely feeling inside.

Last night I took myself to Hammersmith to see "The Diving Bell & The Butterfly". Of all the films on my looong list to see, somehow I managed to forget to see that one. It was profoundly moving. For those of you who haven't heard of this movie, its based on a true story about the editor of French Elle Jean Dominique Bauby who suffered a massive stroke and lost all function except for being able to blink one eye.This is how he learns to communicate and he even managed to write the best selling book which is the source material for the film.I read it a few years ago and found it had a lasting effect on me. The movie I feel will stay with me also for a long time.Though it sounded depressing in subject matter, it contained humour and an overall spirit of hopefulness and beauty and depicted powerfully and beautifully the strength of the human spirit. I thoroughly recommend both written and celluloid versions.

I have seen a lot of people on here lately blog about how awful their lives are at the moment and some people even have had a moan about people moaning about their lives. I feel it is time we all took a moment to stop and think of people like Monsieur Bauby and how lucky they are that they don't suffer in the way he does. I give thanks every day for all I have and that I do not suffer in the ways that others do on this planet.

I will be making the most of my holiday weekend. I wish you all a Happy Easter and a Good Holiday.

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Dyeing For Some Action
Posted:Mar 10, 2008 4:00 pm
Last Updated:May 7, 2017 12:36 pm
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I fancied a change so I dyed my hair tonight.Stupid idea really cos it means sitting on the floor topless with wet hair and a damp towel round my shoulders unable to move for fear of dripping all over the sofa and everywhere else for an hour.Froze to death tonight as the weather has gotten so bad since I came home from work a few hours ago. I have only just thawed out.

Normally I dye it red as there is a lot of red in it naturally but I was in the shop and fancied a change so I picked up a packet of "Irresistable Violet" so it has turned a very nice dark with purple in it.Usually the bathtub looks like a scene from "Psycho". This time however it was as if someone had poured a few bottles of rich red soapy wine down it.

I have been playing about with my appearance a lot lately. I have a new job coming up soon for a prestigious company with good promotional prospects so am using the extra money and opportunity to update my work wardrobe. I have always dressed smartly for work - quite often smarter than my bosses.But as I have lost a fair bit of weight recently since my last long term position,some of my work items don't seem to fit as well as they did.So now I have some new work tops, a white shirt, a black shirt, a black trouser suit (ordered) 2 smart dresses, a knitted top and a designer bargain of a Fenn Wright & Manson cardigan/jacket which was down from £135 to £12.

All in all I am feeling very smart with my new look. It is a small thing but it can really boost one's mood.

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When was the last time you did something new to your appearance?
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Good Day Sunshine
Posted:Mar 4, 2008 2:44 pm
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2012 2:26 pm
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It's been a lovely sunny day here today and surprisingly warm for the time of year. Funny to think that a lot of other parts of the UK have been experiencing snow and ice today.

Hearing the weather forecast I made sure I was all warm with a sweater and woolly tights and a scarf especially as it has been so cold in our office lately.The sun streamed through the windows, the boss made us keep the department door shut for sound proofing and the heat just rose n rose! What's worse was there was no WAY we could reach the theromostat to turn the heating down as it was in the boardroom where a meeting was going on all day. In a curiously amusing reversal of my previous post, I was actually sweating and had a headache brought on by the sheer heat!

Nice to see the sun shine though - makes things not so gloomy.It was even quite light on the way home and there was a gloriously beautiful rosy sunset.

When I got home there was a coupla lovely surprises on the doormat - a necklace and dvd box set I had ordered from Ebay and a contract for a new job I had been offered.

Switching on my pc I discovered a lovely long email from my best friend. I haven't heard from her aside from a quick hi at the weekend for over a month. I have been quite concerned about her and her family and also I had a LOT of stuff to tell her. It was a fabulous long catchup email which set my heart at rest. The girl is doing fine and had quite an exciting time apart from me herself.

Followed all this lovely stuff with an episode of my drama on dvd and cooking a nice pot of homemade soup. After that curled up with hot drinks and "Angelas Ashes" which i am reading for one of my book clubs. So all in all it has been a lovely night after a very stressful day at work. The prospect of tomorrow fills me with dread - the other girl in the office went home sick at lunch today , the boss is out of office for 2 days and our office is hectic at best of times.But I know that I will feel much happier tackling all that now I have heard from my bud. With her on my side I am invincible and can do all I put my mind to.

Hope you all had a great day too.

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What was the last bit of 'sunshine'in your life?

(Photo courtesy of my ex D)


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Lift Up Your Hearts And Sing Me A Song
Posted:Mar 2, 2008 3:03 am
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2014 7:38 am
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Today in the UK it is our Mother's Day.It kinda has no literal meaning for me as I not only am not yet a mother myself, I have no contact with my own parents.I hope that one day soon I will experience the joys of parenthood but until then I would like to say a few Thank You's to mothers who are a part of my life.

Particularly my best friend.She has had a hard life and experienced many problems but I have seen her be a wonderful mother to her giving her all the love that a mom should.At her Sweet 16 her heart burst with pride at the lovely beautiful intellligent girl she had gifted the world.She is a great mother despite her own misgivings about that and I know that she will be a good mother to her and her forthcoming for many years to come.

She has also been a mother to me on occasion and this is the main focus of my thanks.She helped me get in touch and heal the inner , the one who never recieved love.She loves and cares for me as nobody ever has before and this means a collossal amount to me. More than words can express.So Mama, Happy Mother's Day. Thank you for your love, your guidance, your support and your care.

I love you.

Don't forget your Mom or Mom figures.Let them know how much you appreciate all they do for you.

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Share some experiences of your mother/mother figure - show me what I have missed.
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