Honesty The Best Policy?  

restorer52 53M
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8/6/2005 8:58 pm

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Honesty The Best Policy?

I'll write this with a "man seeks woman" perspective, because that's my deal.

Except for the few Brad Pitt look-alikes here, how best to deal with the fact that men outnumber women about four to one?

Keep in mind that I'm not talking about the beautiful people of either gender, as it just doesn't matter how they play the game, because they will always win by cultural fiat. Well, up to a point, anyway.

How forthcoming should you be here if you cannot meet the sterotypical ideal? There is a theory that a little creative fibbing is OK, as you should think of sites like this as a first date, wherein you don't want to hit people with your full set of personal oddities/failings until you have established some kind of bond.

If you are completely honest, it occurs to me that you will not stand out here at all, you'll just be another guy. So how much, er, crafting of your profile is OK when you are trying to counter, say, a zero response from your emails?

Mostly I'm talking about omitting certain things that might initially not be thrilling to the opposite sex. Is a deliberate suppression of the uglier edges of your reality OK or not?

no_acronym 60M

8/6/2005 9:35 pm

There is no use for dishonesty, even though there are 10 men to every woman here, with the add-on that women are only likely to go for the richest guys first, as is the nature of our world. I'd say winning the lottery is as likely as finding a girl here.

rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
8/18/2005 1:59 pm

Good post Restorer

I'm not looking for this site to fulfill my sexual/relationship needs. Which works well b/c my policy in life is to be as honest as you can tolerate. This site does offer intimate personal convernsation with nice openminded ladies and that alone makes it worthwhile for me. I've lost nothing in the effort and perhaps it will make me a little better in the real world.

If you want just sex you can try to lie and manipulate like a lot of the guys and still have a very small chance of getting lucky. Or you can continue to be yourself and get what giggles you can and you still have that very small chance that you might get lucky. The difference is you'll be able to respect yourself.

Life is choices no clear winners usually

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