Courtesy at Parties  

replicant354 52M/43F
104 posts
8/17/2005 9:32 pm

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Courtesy at Parties

Sorry, but another little rant for tonight! I was talking with a couple of women about people and behaviour at parties. I'm pretty easy going and it usually takes quite a bit to really annoy me.

The parties that I go to usually have a bit of time at the beginning where everyone sits around and chats and breaks the ice for the new people that have never been to parties before. At the past couple that I've been to I've noticed certain men that never say anything throughout this "ice breaking" time, they will simply sit there and leer at me from across the room. These are men that I have never met before either person or online. Partway through this introductory bit I might go out for a cigarette, or to the kitchen to grab a beer and all of a sudden I'll feel a hand on my butt or my breast. I turn around and lo and behold it's our "strong silent" type!

Now guys, I don't mind if you want to cop a feel, afterall it is a sex party, but PLEASE, if I've never met you before or even chatted online before, at least have the courtesy to say "Hello" to me! I don't need your life story, a party isn't really the place for that, but please say "hi". If you don't talk to me how do you even know I'm interested in you? Is your ego so large that you automatically assume that every woman there is simply waiting for her turn to be with you? I am not the only woman that has experienced this and prehaps not all mind, but I happen to be one that does.

Prehaps this happens to men too with overly aggressive women, I'm not really sure. The bottom line is simple courtesy makes these things go much more smoothly. I won't feel quite so uncomfortable while there and you won't end up looking like a complete jerk when I tell you to shove off!


harpie8 48F

8/18/2005 11:54 am


Way to go. I couldn't have said it better myself. I mean just because we're at a 'sex party' does not mean that we want to have sex with everyone in the place. There are some at these gatherings that you know you will never play with, but that does not exclude them from forming friendships with you. Then there are the others, the ones you are talking about. Funny thing is Rep, they are fly by night anyways....might show up for a party or two (only the actual parties, not the meet and greets sometimes), they get what they want, or not and we never see or hear from them again. I think that says something about their charachter in itself.

Muffinman_neal 52M
56 posts
8/18/2005 12:24 pm

Personally if you want to fondle meet and be impersonal about it, there is a loeb in hte market open 24 hours and they have a meat section, no need to speak to it either. Mind you after this post I wont be buying meat there anymore

Yes I, like you, prefer to know the person(s) getting together can form a coherent thought, before drinking, before anything more personal happens. There are times when getting gropped is fun and acceptable, this normally happens when all hte participants know each other fairly well.

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