wife or mistress/lover, who has better deal?  

redmustang91 57M  
8736 posts
7/3/2005 10:24 am

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wife or mistress/lover, who has better deal?

The usual assumption is that the wife gets the benefits of marriage and the mistress is exploited for sex. But is this true? Maybe being a wife is not so great and being a mistress not so bad!

The theory used to be that marriage was a long enduring basis for raising children and providing companionship and support in your old age. Not true many times these days. Marriages often do not last. And the children are raised in blended families. Lots of marriages do not look like fun; people are bugging each other or spend lots of time apart. Plus do you want to spend lots of time with a particular person as they get bitter, sick and demented?

Money is important, but women now have their own jobs, pensions and homes. They may not need to stick with a guy just for a place to live and living expenses.

Mistresses/lovers usually have a shorter duration than marriage, but not always. As Camilla Parker showed, some lovers become wives. When the guy is dating a lover he tries harder to be interesting, spends more money on the lover and works harder to please sexually. So does the female! You miss out on the PTA meetings, taking the laundry to the cleaners and other chores. Is that so bad? You miss the "joys" of raising a child together, but a lot of that experience is not so much fun! The samrtass teen who has drug problems, academic problems, etc. Paying for car insurance so the little smartass can total the car! And raise your insurance rates too! Who needs the grief!

Each experience teaches you about life, but maybe the lovers are not so exploited and the married not so lucky! People always seem to strive for what they do not have. Contentment is elusive.

rm_dutchmeisje 51F
1 post
7/3/2005 11:46 am

Better to dream what you dont have, than to have what you dont want!!

redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
7/5/2005 2:05 pm

You can enjoy what you got, and still want more! Dream lovers can turn into nightmares too. Life is an adventure. If you try new risky partners you may find a good match, or not!

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