Why the prejudice against married guys?  

redmustang91 57M  
8736 posts
8/13/2005 3:10 pm

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Why the prejudice against married guys?

I don't get it, which is why I am here!

If I was a woman and wanted a safe intimate encounter with a guy I would prefer a married guy whether I was single or married. The guy must like women and sex, he married a woman! He has not dated that much, as his marital status cuts down his circulation considerably!

How often is the woman here going to marry the guy she have recreational sex with from AdultFriendFinder? Say one time in 10,000. About that often he will leave his wife for you! You were not going to marry the single guy either! So what is the difference? I think maybe it is the illusion of marriage possibility which can justify having sex for good girls wanting to go bad.

Aiding and abetting adultery? Well you cannot change another's morality. Do you think the wife is going to chase you with a shotgun? Really? If she cared that much she would be a little more attentive to hubby and he would not be on AdultFriendFinder!

Maybe its just a rejection because they are so common here! Just like the scarcity of attractive bi females for couples are so valued!

Care to enlighten me?

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
8/13/2005 3:42 pm

redM, heres a little enlightenment. Single women, I believe, don't wish to deal with married men because A.they know that they cant have what the wife has(i.e. the car, the house, and you, all the time) so they pass. B.they don't like the fact that the married man will not be available for them at a moments notice.(I am talking from experience of when I was single) C. I dont think they are in fear of the wife, they are in fear of the man after all, some of the married ones become obsessed with the outside woman and that in return causes friction. That man also tries to ruin everything that the outside woman wants to do in her life, and he's not included. So many married men think that they cant fall head over heals with an outside woman. But if she work it right he will fall under her spell.

Anyway as I said in my blog, people have the preconceived notion that it is wrong for married people to be here. Being here is wrong and cheating is wrong, but it is also wrong to lead a man or woman on no matter what status they hold. I can respect that single women dont like getting involved with married men, I've been there and done that, it is no fun.

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rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
8/13/2005 4:22 pm

The last thing I want is a relationship.
When I'm finished with a guy I just want him to go home so I can fart, scratch and belch with impugnity.
That and I don't have time for the drama.

sexyeyes375 47F

8/13/2005 4:42 pm

Not everyone is prejudiced. There are some truly delicious married men out here...

Ana_6973 43F

8/13/2005 5:14 pm

I have a few lovers who are married. I have no problem with them being married. I have no desire to cause friction in their lives or with their wives. When they are available they are available. Actually most of the married men I know are more reliable dates then the single guys. Of course, I am an oddball in the single female department, I am not looking for a serious commited relationship. I am actually happy being single and in no rush to change that status, so married men are often a great choice of friends with benefits because they don't want me to be clingy.

Now, the one problem I have encountered with married men is that what attracted them to me, my open additude towards sex, is often a reason they decide not to see me. I'm sorry but why should I be monogamous for them when they aren't being monogamous either. Not only that, but I'm single and I belong to no one but myself. And it is insulting to imply that I'm not cautious with whom I sleep with and so risk exposing them to STD's. I may be easy but I'm not indiscriminate.

Now, my other married man issue has occaisionally been the "but I can't keep it up with a condom on" issue. Sorry, no condom, no nookie. With single men this indicates to me that they don't ever wear them, thus indicating things may not be safe with them and so a great big no for me. With married men, I'm sorry but I don't desire pregnancy anytime soon, nor am I so naive as to think I'm the only woman you are boning on the side. And while I may be careful, how do I know anyone else you are sleeping with is. Well, and who is to say your wife isn't seeing someone on the side too? I'm a little cynical that way.

I think everyone deserves to have their needs met, even married men who feel they need that extra something outside the marital bed. Or married women for that matter. I don't think we are really meant to mate for life. If we were then why is history filled with stories of infidelity and our current society is filled with divorce.

Just my thoughts. Later! {=}

~~"I can scream as loud as your last one, but I can't claim innocence."~~

redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
8/13/2005 10:18 pm

Thanks for your comments ladies. I wrote a blog a while ago about whether the wife or the lover has it better. As for hotter sex, it is obvious the newer infatuation is getting better sex. women can make their own money and get a car, if not a house without a spouse. i still do not get why a lover should feel bad the guy is married, particularly when the woman is not being exclusive and is willing to date single guys who are not exclusive. If nonexclusive relationship and non-jealous friendships are possible, why get your knickers in a twist over the married status of the guy. If you wanted to marry im I can see it would be a problem, but how often does that occur? Monagamy is monotonous and not that much fun, even for non marrieds. I promise not to be a stalker or obsess over my lover. Who is available at a moments notice given how busy everyone is with work, kids, friends and other activities? I still think it is mostly a through back to some decision from high school or soap operas that strikes married guys from the list. I generally think married women are more understanding so I try to date them, rather than single girls.

Priapeo 46M

8/23/2005 3:25 am

QUOTE: "If no woman wanted that guy, why should It be me taking him?"

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience

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