Walls keep them out and you in!  

redmustang91 57M  
8818 posts
9/23/2005 5:13 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Walls keep them out and you in!


We are all fearful about being hurt and put up walls to avoid intimacy. But you cannot experience the joy of connecting with the walls up. So to avoid being deprived of love you make it impossible to obtain love! Not sensible.

I envision walls like medieval castles with arrow holes and reticulated ramparts which allow some interaction for offense and some view of the surroundings. Plus a drawbridge over the moat so stuff can come in, but the bridge can be pulled up if attacked.

The truth is no defense can be complete without shutting out so much world you starve from the isolation!

So how does this work? Not that well!

Let me know your solutions!

funwithyou602 56F

9/23/2005 9:55 pm

Break down the walls!!!! Crush them to pieces!!! We are hurt only when we allow ourselves to be hurt. Get hurt, get over it, move on with the drawbridge wide open and the motes drained. That is my take on things. A fine way to live, but sometimes hard to execute.


redmustang91 57M  
8661 posts
9/24/2005 5:19 am

Castles went out of fashion in Europe after cannons made them obsolete for defense. Many people come to realize their own walls make their lives less fulfilling and breach their own walls which have become a prison.


funwithyou602 56F

9/25/2005 4:54 am

MMMM, I guess I think to simple. I'm not afraid of social embarrassment. That is pretty clear when you see me dancing to elevator music in the mall. Or singing the blues walking down the street to my pissed off daughter."Mama Mama can't you see, that my daughter's pissed at me" I think I definately grew up in a world where love was defined totally different than most. Na, I can see why people think as they do. My family was the traditional type but then I found a commune and learned a whole new other way of looking at love. "Free Love", shame on me for falling back into the ice age. It doesn't involve becoming vulnerable or getting hurt from love. Love is good, it is not a risk to be taken. It is a thing to embrace.I get hurt from time to time, rarely, but not from loving someone. I guess you have to live on a commune for a while to understand that. I guess. I have limited experience in many departments.


redmustang91 57M  
8661 posts
9/25/2005 6:27 am

I vacillate between disclosure and withdrawal and try to remain open but guarded! Not great but it sort of works. Like most, I find my inconsistency irritating!


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