Too honest for many  

redmustang91 57M  
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6/20/2005 11:51 am

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4/9/2007 11:01 am

Too honest for many


I have posted a thread in AdultFriendFinder bootcamp 101 that got a lot of folks riled. I simply explained my viewpoint of why this married man cheats. Nothing earth shattering but got a lot of knickers in a twist, as the Brits say.

Infidelity is very common, 60 to 80% of all marrieds admit to cheating according to surveys. The sanctimonious try to judge what they do not understand.

My points are quite simple. If you do not put out with your lover eventually he or she will find someone more interested in satisfying lust. And your mate might anyway for variety sake. It is not so terrible! I was so possessive when young and now I realize that was so stupid.

As for dishonesty, we are all dishonest to some extent. And most would prefer to avoid confrontation and not know! My mate turns a blind eye and does not want to know or change.

Infidelity does not mean you do not love your mate, just have needs he or she do not or cannot fulfill. How is swinging more virtuous? Because you know the infidelity makes it ok? More honest perhaps but less sinful? Not in any religion I know about.

Interesting all the controversy and knocks on a married man. Several married females chimed in they were neglected by their husbands and no one jumped on them for seeking pleasure elsewhere. A new form of double standard?

My preferred playmate is a local married woman who is in the same boat, being neglected sexually. You know who you are and I hope we will eventually hook up! Lets stay discreet and enjoy life before it is too late!

bethebudgirll 50F

3/29/2007 7:02 pm

I wonder why, if a partner is unsatisfied...why not discuss it with their mate and give the other a chance to explain/correct the neglectful behavior..before resorting to the cruelty of lying and cheating? Betrayal of trust simply because one is bored or even legitimately feeling neglected is wrong, unfair, can cause irreparable damage to the relationship and to innocent children who may lose a parent over it. Or worse if the partners of the cheater turn out to be stalkers/psychos!


redmustang91 57M  
8599 posts
4/9/2007 11:01 am

Discussion does not cure boredom. Desiring variety is built into human nature, which is why buffet restaurants are popular...


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