Attached females having lesbian sex  

redmustang91 57M  
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9/21/2005 1:12 pm

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Attached females having lesbian sex

People are not logical. That is why trying to analyse human behavior using logic always fails.

Take the case of a married man trying to have friendly extramarital sex here. Like me! Many women find that behavior reprehensible. OK. I understand the theory of violating a sacred vow. Although I will note my marriage and wedding service contained no such vow.

Many attached women seem to believe or act like sex with other women is ok! Why? Doesn't the forsaking all others include females? How is oral sex with a female leading to an orgasm that different from oral sex with a male leading to an orgasm? Or manual stimulation, or using a vibrator?

If intercourse with a penis is the problem then you can be a technical "virgin" and do everything but intercourse with a male just as easily as with a female. How does the XY chromosome of the person using the vibrator make a difference?

Is it less disloyal to the attached woman's guy to have sex with a female? From my guy viewpoint I would find it easier to compete with another guy than a woman! Either way it is sex outside the primary relationship. As I said logical it is not.

BigJ19852004 31M
13 posts
9/21/2005 1:44 pm

i agree i think the vows should go both ways.

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
9/21/2005 1:48 pm

OK, this is how I feel. If you're doing something behind the back of your spouse, significant other, longtime companion, etc, it's cheating, pure and simple. It doesn't matter if you're a man looking for a woman or a woman looking for a woman. Or a man or woman looking for a man, couples, groups, etc. If your partner has no idea of what's going on, it's cheating.

However, a lot of the women looking for women have husbands or boyfriends who know and either want to join in or watch. Just as, there are married people on here in open marriages, where you will get the permission slip from the wife, or get to meet the wife. Or husband. Whatever.

So no, it's not less disloyal to be cheating with a member of your own sex than with a member of the opposite sex. It can hurt your partner in the long run all the same and destroy marriages just the same.

redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
9/21/2005 2:23 pm

Miss Ann I agree with you. What I find curious is the perceived or claimed moral superiority of an attached woman only having lesbian sex. Does an orgasm know if you were assisted in its creation by a member of the same versus opposite sex? Are husbands less threatened by a wife playing with another woman? Why? Harder to compete with that if the woman decides she prefers to be a lesbian! Even if you love your wife would you change your gender for her?

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
9/21/2005 2:29 pm

there is no logic in that. I see lots of women who say no men period, or some say no married men. Now I feel like this. what about the wife who likes women and the husband may not be aware of it and she's cheating on him with other women. Do other women say "no married women?" That is what I find odd. married men are rejected but married women are accepted by other women. that is if they are lesbian or bisexual/bicurious. Now I am not judging those who has this sexual orientation, But I think if you fool with a married woman then thats cheating just as if you dealt with the man. Because believe it or not there are some husbands who do not know their wives are into other women. I am straight, I like the male persuasion.

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redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
9/21/2005 2:52 pm

Straightten, you got my point exactly. The prejudice against married guys is a little hypocritical if it does not eliminate married women too!

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
9/21/2005 3:35 pm

Red, I think that goes to the superior attitude you find on this site to begin with. It's not morally superior to be cheating with a member of your own sex. It's still cheating. These women would go ballistic if they found out their husbands were doing other men.

Don't think women leaving their husbands for other women doesn't happen. It happens a lot. In all the cases I've heard about personally, the husband has no idea his wife was cheating at all. As a matter of fact, it tends to hurt worse when your wife leaves for another woman. Especially when they don't know you're bisexual in the first place. Another man, you can at least try to compete with.

I also think straightten makes an interesting point in this conversation. I know if I was bisexual, I'd say no married women without the spouse's permission. Just the same for married men.

Also, from what I've noticed in the chat rooms, most of the married women have husbands who know they're chatting. However, they all think their wives are looking for other women to play with them as a couple. But then temptation hits and these women go off and meet men alone. Then the mess starts.

What I don't get are the married women who are cheating, but have no interest in married men. The married men tend to be looking for married women, as they feel it would be less complicated. But most married women want single men. I really do think these women are looking for an out and can't bear the thought of living on their own. They want a safety net before they leave their husbands. Someone they can have lined right up to move in with, instead of even attempting to be on their own.

OK, before I completely hijack this thread, I will stop ranting.

funwithyou602 56F

9/21/2005 4:21 pm

If you do something that will cause undo pain or heartache to another for the sake of a selfish act, it's wrong. What ever the one who will suffer the pain defines as cheating, will be cheating. You should know your lifemate well enough, before marraige, to understand her/his veiws on that issue. It is a risk for the ones who venture out on this expedition, to risk causing pain and perhaps even losing the one they love, but some choose to go down that road anyway.

redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
9/21/2005 10:11 pm

People do what they want and need. If the partner is not providing the sax and not willing to change, then stuff happens.

redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
9/21/2005 10:14 pm

Women can be conniving little devils, even worse then men with their safety nets! But they are so cute we forgive them anything!

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