A little insight for you men....  

redhead_lass 38F
40 posts
5/21/2005 11:16 am

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A little insight for you men....

OK boys....
I get a goodly number of winks, messages, and network invites daily on this site. As a standard member some of my options are limited - for instance the number of messages I can respond to, or the fact that I can only see little thumbnails. Here are a few pointers that may increase your chances for a response.....

1. Please send a photo of yourself in your message. A nice clear casual face/body shot. I really don't care what your penis looks like - I'd rather see YOU.

2. I am a visually motivated person - how you look actually does matter to me. If what I see in your pic doesn't "click" with what I am searching for I'm sorry. I understand looks don't always matter - but hey, we're all here on AdultFriendFinder to find our ideal fantasy to play with.

3. When you send me a message USE PROPER ENGLISH. Nothing annoys me more than messages that read: hey u - wanna fuk, u look gr8 wanna suk my cock.

4. On that same note - If you send me a one line request of "Do you want to fuck" you likely won't get much of a response. I generally like to talk a bit to people I am interested in, then arrange a public meeting....who knows where it'll lead after that.

5. The term "Swinger" does not equal "Slut". I had one man (after I told him that he wasn't my type) tell me that if I was a real swinger it shouldn't matter and that I should be willing to sleep with anyone. The definition of a swinger is thus: somebody with an unconventional lifestyle, especially somebody who exchanges sexual partners with others . My partner and I do join or swap with other couples, and as with most trues swingers, we have certain set rules between ourselves. Both of us have to be interested in the couple, we only couple swap/share in a club environment. Outside of clubs we have an open relationship and are allowed to play with others at will as long and the sex is safe.


mnfun952 102M

5/21/2005 1:38 pm

Excellent pointers indeed...if more men (and women, for that matter) would spend just a little bit of time reading the blogs...they would learn VERY quickly, what needs to be done in order to meet and connect with people from this, or any similar website. Then again, those people who need the pointers the most are not usually the type who think they are doing anything wrong to begin with and would never attempt to improve themselves (or their approach) through education or actually asking someone for their opinion.

Enjoy the day,


PS - while I don't have any piercings or ink...nor do I drive a pick-up truck.. I can look amazing in a suit.

purejoy4fem 46F/44F
682 posts
5/21/2005 5:56 pm

Good points, as a standard member too, it gets frustrating not being able to make out the little thumbnails on the profiles

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