Hermit conventions?  

real36CgirlPA 37F
443 posts
6/15/2006 8:34 pm

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6/20/2006 5:49 pm

Hermit conventions?

Where do antisocial people go to make friends?

I always thought I had friends but lately I'm realizing that while I try to help and be there for them, I'm still usually left to my own devices when I need it. I find myself backing away from people because it seems like most of my friends are living on the one-way street where I have to go to them and they don't bother with me.

I think I will be a lot happier when I move into the town where I work because at least I can start going to the local watering hole with the work crowd, which is socialization with someone besides the cat.

Does anyone else find it hard to remain friends with people from "back in the day" when people don't have anything in common anymore and it isn't the same give-take feel it used to be?

JazzDlight 59F

6/16/2006 3:05 am

I have been reading your blog posts and girl all I can say is this...I think we are related somehow lmao. Think we are twins separated by 22 years. Holy crap you even look like me. I have short dark hair and glasses also. You say the things I feel and your life is exactly like mine. Hell it is scrary! The pic on my profile is old it was taken three yrs ago. It is hard making friends especially as you get older and hit the "middle age" years like I am at. Most people my age have significant others, children and hell some even have grandchildren and they dont have the free time I do so they dont have time for me in their lives. The few friends I do have dont like to do the same things I do, like going to the beach, amusement parks, etc. so I wind up spending 99% of my free time alone and it SUCKS. Their idea of a fun night is spending it in front of the tv watching the same movie they have seen 50 times before while shoveling food in their mouths. Fuck I can do that when I am 95 and in the county home for christ sake! When I was your age I was never home on the weekends always had things to do and lots of friends, then you get older and people start to get married and have kids and you are left behind if those things dont apply to you and the people you knew well their lives start going in a different direction and you find out after a while that you have nothing in common anymore. It's not fun but that is the way life I goes. Sorry this is so long. But I really know how you feel. Hugs, Jazz

real36CgirlPA replies on 6/16/2006 6:42 pm:
Maybe we're distantly related...lol. I do a lot of things by myself anymore as well because it's easier than twisting somebody's arm to go along with me.

rm_wetfingeraz 53F
3012 posts
6/16/2006 4:34 pm

Well, I lucked out with my high school crowd, in that we were all geeks of one form or another, and we all have more or less grown in the same direction. So, 23 years later, we're still best friends. But, we are all introverts and that's probably why.

I've been accused of being a socialized extrovert, and I don't seem as shy as I really am, but I don't make friends easy, and some people have a tendency to dislike me for no apparent reason.

I don't know what to tell you to do. Friendships happen, you can't force it.

real36CgirlPA replies on 6/16/2006 6:37 pm:
Not planning on forcing anything. I'm just thinking of getting to know some of my work friends better and being more open to meeting new people.

rm_princesspuma 41F
74 posts
6/18/2006 10:57 pm

look at my horns and fear me.!.!.
I blogged about wanting things they way were were when we used to go steal wood from the wood peoples house and camp Along the river...There was some good times there... granted it was before I realized I didn't like half the people that I was around back then....I miss Puffdays, I miss band practices, I miss hanging out downtown and playing the bubble game, I miss buying all the minors cigarettes, also choose your own adventures and , Spiritual journey's (did I ever tell you about the time crusty shit behind a bus stop cause we got lost in the middle of nowhere and he ended up getting the runs heheheheheeheh that was the greatest cause it didn't happen to me!!!)

growing up bites big honkin dicks that's all there is to it. I wish they made a pill where you could forget the stuff in the past so you wouldn't miss it so much....

real36CgirlPA replies on 6/20/2006 5:51 pm:
yep, I'm thinking adulthood is 50%suck & 50%learning experience, which still isn't always good.

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