Something to think about...  

rainsong_raven 46F
15 posts
10/11/2005 6:47 pm

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Something to think about...

Well, I have been single for over a year now (by choice) and have recently started thinking about dating someone seriously.

I have had a few men turn my head and make my heart flutter but nothing has come of it seriously. It could be I am simply not ready... I don't know.

One thing I read in another blog, was another BBW writing how it is acceptable for a man to want to have sex with a BBW but not to date. I wonder what you guys think of that?

I am pretty up front an honest about my appearance. I believe I am a beautiful and sexy woman who happens to be also voluptous. One of the responses to the other bloggers post commented that by stating you are a BBW or a similar description that you are showing a lack of self-confidence or self-esteem. Now most of the men that know me, would say that I indeed have confidence and view myself as sexy. I simply put that information out there because I am no fool; I know that everyone has their preferences. Why waste your and my time if your preference is for another body type?

I recently told a guy I was not a "skinny" woman and he abrubtly cancelled our date. I got a kick out his efforts to make up reasons why he was cancelling.

I have some other topics, but will save them for another day...


overworkedloon 56M
400 posts
10/12/2005 9:52 am

One of the odd things you'll find on here is that men seem to lack the ability to read profiles. Don't be too suprised to find a lot of emails from guys looking for stick women. Just shake your head and wonder if it really was a man that invented the wheel.

To me beauty and sexuality come from the person and not the package. I'm happy to say quite a few men on here think the same way.

Have fun and happy blogging.

smoothaviator4u 53M

10/12/2005 11:34 pm

Hi Rain;
You bring up a really good question. We all know everybody looks at everybody for at least appearances. For example, you are a very pretty lady, your smile would melt even our largest glaciers! For anybody, guy or gal, to be so hung up on wanting, either in themselves or somebody else, that "perfect body" really shows that, that is all they are interested in. Not you or who you are, and are they really worth the time if that is all they are interested in? Let me ask you, when you are lying in bed with that special guy who thinks you are the most wonderful person in the whole world, is he caring about what you wore that day or weather your hair is fixed just perfect. I think he is just thinking how lucky he is to be lying with his arm around you, how warm you are and how good you make him feel!! That's a guy who cares about you, you as the good person you are.
Take care Rain, there are a few really good guys out there--S

rainsong_raven 46F

10/13/2005 12:38 am

overworkedloon -

I do believe that some guys don't even read the profiles at all... heeeheh... thanks for responding.

thorval -

You are a dear heart...

smooth -

thank you for the compliments.. I sure would hope that special guy would be thinking how lucky he is and not worry that my hair isn't perfect or any other thing... LOL


smoothaviator4u 53M

10/27/2005 9:37 pm

Hi Rain;
Haven't seen or heard you lately on the blog. Is all well, I hope you are just busy! With kids I understand where the time goes. I really enjoy reading your insight into life, hope to hear from you soon!

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