meeting people online  

raddally 41M
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1/28/2006 1:29 pm

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meeting people online


Hey my name here is Rad. I just started using AdultFriendFinder a couple months ago, so far just a standard member, not sure if I wanna "go gold" or not.
The reason I came on the site was I figured it may be an easy way to meet people to feed my sexual appetite, but I quickly realized as a standard member it may not be easy at all.

My whole life I've had a hard time meeting women, I am painfully shy. My friends (men and women) are not sure why I have such a hard time. I am considered very attractive (to other people not myself), I'm in good shape, and I have a good personality, but I'm terrible at going up to a woman face to face and asking her out. The only sauces I've had with women is the ones that come on to me and start things up, sounds stupid but it's true.

So here I am on AdultFriendFinder in the same situation, tried contacting a few women but no such luck. Are women here so flooded with men that it's too consuming to read all the e-mails or answer back to a wink? I dunno, but anyway maybe I have terrible luck and am doomed by my shyness.

If you have any suggestions or comments make em'.

Shelly_Marie 43F

1/28/2006 4:34 pm

sometimes it can be time consuming to answer all of the emails. usually, if a woman doesnt respond it is because she is not interested, which maybe only because she is currently not looking for anyone at the moment. But since they put up the 'quick reply' thing, i personally have been responding to alot of guys, even if i pick a response that is not quite what i mean to say, at least i responded. have you tried checking to see if they have logged in recently? you can check that out on the profile, on the upper right hand corner. and i think some women just dont check thier emails, some only come here to chat or whatever and exchange regular email addys right in the chat rooms, so they have no need to go to their inbox..it just takes time, dont worry...men do the same to me..they dont even reply half of the time...


Thangz 44F

1/28/2006 6:02 pm

sometimes women get flooded with things .. try sending a hello note or something. So that we know you arent just some pervert but a real man who warrents real attention


raddally 41M
1 post
2/17/2006 3:10 am

Thanks for your comments although I must say Im becoming very bored of this whole thing. If anyone is interested i'll let them make the move, while i check in periodically, really this whole thing is too time consuming for me!


Kallie_43 56F

2/17/2006 10:40 am

Hi Raddally. Here I am responding to your dilemna. Shelly_Marie has very sound advice and input. Its true that we, as women, are inundated with more emails, winks and hotlists then we have time to respond to. Not that we don't care but sometimes I wonder how sincere some of the emails are that I receive. A lot of the times, when correspondance does take place, its discovered that the person who left us a message, wink or whatever, is not what who we were led to believe. Sort of like the jekyll/hyde syndrome. There are women out there also doing the same thing whether its intentional or not. I have been a member of AdultFriendFinder for over 3 years and a paying member for about half that time. Its not been an easy road for me either. I've been through what you are going through. Now and then it hits again, just when I thought I had overcome it. But nonetheless, I forge on. Thangz has a valid point also. Put yourself in our place and see how you would feel. An email does not have to contain a full bodied message. A simple hello suffices. Then we know you're interested. Btw, I left you a message before I knew about this blog.


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