Live and Learn  

rad_vlad 33M
17 posts
3/21/2005 4:23 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Live and Learn

Special thanks to Bella and Freesyle for their comments. It's nice to get a little feedback from the audience and know that I'm appreciated. For all you folks reading my posts who refuse to add anything: fuck off and die.
A few things I'd like to mention in regards to my last post.
First, I hold no ill will for the sergeant. None. He's a classy guy, although he has questionable taste. I mean, he's dating a two-timing skank. Not to mention the Britney Spears poster he has hanging in his bedroom and the Avril Lavigne DVD. Poor bastard. Anyway, he did what he had to do, and I respect him for it.
Second, I learned some important lessons from all this. The most important is to stay objective. All of my problems resulted from my inability to objectively evaluate slayergirl88's potential as a partner. I saw her not for who she is, but for who I wanted her to be, and that is a recipe for disaster. Because I was so hell bent on satisfying my own need to be someone elses salvation (in addition to my intense desire to cum on her face), I refused to see her for what she is really is. Folks, if you take anything from reading my blogs, learn from my mistakes and don't make them yourselves. On a very basic level, good relationships are calculations. That doesn't mean that all relationships can be reduced to math, but you have to actively judge your partner and consciously decide if they are what's best for you. You must objectively evaluate your relationships and dispassionately decide what is best for you, or you will get burned like I did.
The best way to learn whether someone is right for you is to judge their actions. People are who they are, and they very rarely change, so past behavior is a good indicator of what people will do in the future. If a guy treats you like shit, he'll probably continue treating you like shit. If a girl fucks someone behind your back, she will probably continue fucking people behind your back, because people do not change. So pay attention to the way people treat you, because that is the best indicator of how they view you and of how you should treat them in return.
Finally, you must be prepared to leave. It's not easy to go through the emotional pain of ending a relationship, even if the person is wrong for you, but you have to be ready to do it, or you're going to face even greater emotional pain down the road. Take me for instance; if I had took the blinders off, evaluated slayergirl88 for who she really was and left a couple weeks ago, I could have saved myself a few days of heart-ache, the wicked hangover I have from drinking myself unconcious, and a visit from the police. But because I didn't break off contact with her earlier, I set myself up for all of those things. It takes discipline and courage to take a hit now in order to avoid a harder one later on. Learn to take that early hit and you will be better off because of it.

bella_ 47F
4030 posts
3/21/2005 2:25 pm

AdultFriendFinder can be painful sometimes..believe me...I know

konkali 40F

3/23/2005 7:01 pm

wowsers.. but i can respect what you went thru, albeit, it's a bit on the uberly scary side, with your actions.. On the flip side, you've probably saved a few bucketfuls of guys from being put in the same position..

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